my grandma just died!!!?

Question

i was at school nd they confirmed that my 91 year old grandma just died i got out of school at 2 o clock and i am at home now...... i dont know whether i am sad coz i dont really no her well :S

there woz this weird song on the way home called i never wanna leave u behind...creepy huh..?

Answer 1

sorry to hear that :(

i lost both my grandma´s and grandpa´s, and my father.
it can be hard, even if you did not know them, i know the feeling, i was the same way with couple of them, because i just did not know them, and some of my relatives said i was insensitive. not to worry, time heals all wounds, in one way or another.
just letting you know my experiences

Answer 2

Your grandma lived a complete life, since you say that passed away at 91. God bless her soul. It's ok for you to have these mixed feelings. At your age it's difficult to actually"show" or "know" your own feelings. What you can do is try to be with the rest of the family and be handy just in case they need you to run around or get something done. Your family must have spent a big and memorable part of their life with her so they will definitely miss her presence. You can be helpful to them at this stage just by being around.You need not say or talk much if you don't know what to say. Don't feel guilty about your feelings.I had a cousin who called all his friends home to play with him, on the day his father passed away !!(was just 10yrs old then) he didn't know how to react!! So it's ok and ok to discuss this with strangers too because you just want to know what they think.

Answer 3

I felt the same way when my Great Grandmother died. She lived in New Jersey and I lived in Florida. I felt like I should be really sad because from everyone in the family I heard she was great and I remember her from when I was little. I didn't really cry. I was sad, but not like my Mom or Grandma. She was 94 and she always said she wanted to make it to 100. Like you, I don't think I knew her well enough to be affected like the rest of the family was. I felt like a bad person at the time. If someone that you are really close to dies than I am sure you would feel overwhelming grief. Sorry for your loss.

Answer 4

My condolences.

When my grandmother died when I was young, I hurt deeply, and took a 2 mile walk, crying the whole time. It helped.

Maybe you feel sad because you did not have the chance to know her as well as you might have liked. Maybe you are sad for the hurt your parents and other relatives feel at the loss of their mother (mother-in-law).

It is alright to be sad, m'dear. It is such a normal part of grieving. Take your time. Allow your feelings to come out in you... they are "legitimate." Don't ever feel that the pain could be so deep that it could hurt you. Feelings cannot hurt you, you will not be overwhelmed by them. You may see others feeling very sad and crying very hard... they are dealing with their feelings, too. You don't need to say anything to them... just "be" with them... hold them... hug them... cry with them. With time... sooner or later, the pain will ease, and life will go on.


God bless, my prayers are with you and your family.


Have a polite day.

Answer 5

Don't worry about how you are feeling inside. But do remember that either your father or mother has just lost a parent and that it is hard to do that at any age. So concentrate on being as kind and considerate at home as you possibly can. You can convey your feelings in that way. Isn't that what your grandma would have wanted? To have someone look after her child at this time of sadness?

Answer 6

You don't need to feel sad if you don't want to. When my grandma died I was more upset about my mum being upset than I was about my gran dying. I didn't know her very well and hadn't seen her since I was about 4, so she wasn't a big part of my life and I couldn't miss her really because she was never there. (She lived a long way from us, and we were an RAF family and moved around a lot).

Answer 7

Dear one, your emotions are normal, so don't get down on yourself. Your grandmother lived a long life - you can celebrate that! Since you never knew her well, you need to shift your attention to the ones that did. Was it your Father's mother? Was it your Mother's mother? For sure, one of them is very sad. Both, if they both had a good relationship with your grandmother. I would suggest that when you can, go buy a sweet sympathy card, and go to the florish and buy one single rose..... and give that to the parent that lost their mommy. Tell them you love them and you're sorry their sad. That would be a sweet gesture. Bless you.

Answer 8

basically via fact she is not any longer right here does no longer mean you nevertheless can't refer to her. I'am particular she has forgiven you and she or he loves you very a lot. She is conscious all which you tried to do for her and guilt is the final element she needs you to experience. shop preserving directly to the best thoughts and overlook the undesirable, your grandma has.

Answer 9

Sorry to hear about your grandma. Whether or not you knew her well is irrelevant. You are sad and it will hit you harder later on. When it does, don't hold back, it normal to grieve. Take some time and be around family and friends.

Answer 10

While you should feel sad and a sense of loss, lets just remember that 91 is a good age to make it to, and hope we are all that lucky.

Answer 11

Oh, I'm sorry! Too bad you didn't get to know her better. Grandparents have a wealth of advice and stories to tell! Please give your parent a hug for the loss of their mom. I've lost both my parents and grandparents and it is very sad to live without them. But don't feel bad for not feeling intense emotions. It would be hard to feel it for someone you barely knew. Just be there for your mom or dad.