im in a relationship but theres this guy at work and we flirt with eachother all the time,get really nervous around him and he does with me we act like naughty teenagers! he has never asked if i have a boyfriend and i havnt asked if he has a girlfriend.is this wrong?????
2007-10-15 02:14:22 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
but we dont do anything about it they say u can look but dont touch right?
2007-10-15 02:18:15 · update #1
of course my bf flirts hes a self employed plumber so i bet he does all the time! its only flirting i would never never cheat.....EVER!
2007-10-15 02:25:34 · update #2
its completely ok yaar....
c'mon we are humans, even if we are in relationship so wat a little but iof fun is gonna affect that...be chilled out just dont cross the limits...cheers
2007-10-15 02:20:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there will be loads of different answers to this question. My personal view is that yes it is wrong. How would you feel if it was your boyfriend flirting with a girl at work, and knew he felt nervous around her and act like naughty teenagers. My guess is that you wouldn't be too happy.
If you feel the need to flirt then it probably means that something is missing from your relationship. Has the spark gone? Don't you have fun together any more?
2007-10-15 02:18:52 · answer #2 · answered by magic_porridge_pot 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't cheat. don't fall in love. don't cross lines (as in hold hands, go out for dinners/dates... - this isn't really cheating, but it's couples-stuff!!)
flirting is ok as long as you're not actually doing any of the above i think. i have a bf too, i flirt just to know i still have "the touch", but i would never cheat, i would never lead a guy on. just being friendly, some dancing at a party. just knowing you can still raise interest amongst others than your boyfriend.
but by what you just said... getting nervous when you're around this coworker. bad sign. if you love your boyfriend, just stop right there with the flirting and try to spice up your relationship with your guy - before you fall for this guy at work.
ps: if you do fall for this coworker, my opinion is to always choose love over lust (love being what you have with your boyfriend, lust referring to your coworker)
2007-10-15 02:20:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A bit of subtle flirting is ok.. but seeing as he doesn't know you're in a relationship don't lead him on in case he gets the wrong idea. Also, the more you flirt with him, the more likely it would be to turn into more. And I wouldn't flirt with others when your boyfriend is around!
2007-10-15 02:20:59 · answer #4 · answered by amelia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking is different to flirting. You're leading this guy on if you're not going anywhere with him. Put yourself in your boyfriend's shoes - imagine you telling him a guy at work likes you and you flirt with him. You think he'll be impressed? No, of course not. And if he was doing the same with another girl, would you be happy? Probably not.
Don't do to others what you wouldn't like done to you.
2007-10-15 02:21:02 · answer #5 · answered by Aidan J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi..
yes it is wrong... because it is not a platonic crush... something could happen in there with the guy at work.... well do you want it to happen? most likely if you go on flirting with this guy you are going to end up cheating on your b-friend.. and that is not much fun anymore...
so if you love your guy dont put yourself in this kind of position, as much fun as it may seem it can turn pretty ugly in no time.
On the other hand do you know that office romances are a big no no!!
2007-10-15 02:18:57 · answer #6 · answered by Konnie -chan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well getting tempted is always easy.so its better tht u control ur flirting n eevrything at the initial stages only.romance at work as it is makes things complicated n u r already in a relationship so isn't it like cheating the one u r wth.dnt send wrong signals.he may be single but u r not so remember tht n for the sake of ur relationship avoid flirting wth him even for fun
2007-10-15 02:21:03 · answer #7 · answered by aparajita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flirting is not wrong if its just flirting. You sound like you and this guy might like each other and that's wrong since you do have a BF. You need to decide what you want and who you want. If you want your BF i would stop the flirting immediately.
2007-10-15 02:19:03 · answer #8 · answered by Renee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that the person who can tell that is ur bf. Some boys and girls dont care if their partner lightly flirts as a past time. as long as that is all there is to it.
Others consider it cheating.
Find out in what category your bf lies,then act accordingly
2007-10-15 02:26:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flirt away.....sometimes these things are fun and help past the time and drudgery of a nine to five job! And if you end up in bed, well that's acceptable too....it will only ruin the wonderful friendship you appear to be enjoying.
2007-10-15 02:19:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always ask this question whenever I find myself in any situation involving the girlies.
"If my partner did this, how would I feel?"
This solves all my questions regarding acting around the opposite sex.
If your BF makes you feel bad by the way he is acting... then deal with it via conversation. Not by fighting fire with fire.
Hopefully I have helped hun.... We all like to feel loved/appreciated by the opposite sex (Same sex even, sorry guys and girls who into that, wasn't ignoring you).
However being in love/ a relationship means the one person your with is enough for you!
Well hope all turns out well whatever the outcome.
2007-10-15 03:42:11 · answer #11 · answered by stockytommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋