i went out with a guy ive been friends with for the past year..it was our first date..and well when we started kissing..he was kissing me really hard and passionately..and his hands was all over the place but he never touched my boobs or went down my pants or anything..i need to know if this is a bad sign that he is just after sex or if it just means he was caught up in the moment?
he calls me every night and we talk a lot and have good conversation..if that makes a difference..i just didnt expect him to kiss me like that on our first kiss
2007-10-15 01:51:20 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you have been friends for so long, maybe he really likes you. Did you tell him how you feel about the passionate kissing? You need to have a talk with him about this, and see what happens. If he really cares for you, he will respect the boundaries you set for yourself.
2007-10-15 01:56:48 · answer #1 · answered by Leopardlady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm....
Well it sounds like he's just like any other average guy, I mean you two were making out...and naturally he probably did get a little carried away and caught up in the moment.
Which would explain his behavior, however if you're not ready to take it that far just yet...I think you might want to speak up and tell him that. This way there is no confusion and he knows your limits, so if you ever feel "violated" in any way, then you can just tell him so.
That's great though that you two talk more often than not, good conversation is always nice to have with someone.
I would just take that kiss as an "I really like you." kiss, I don't think he meant to freak you out...he was just thinking "Oh man I have to impress her."
And hey...it never hurts to be honest while you're in the moment either. Meaning that if he kisses you vigorously next time, then just be like "Whoa...take it easy, I'm not going anywhere."
Or something like that followed by a giggle or whatever.
2007-10-15 01:59:23 · answer #2 · answered by Murphy's Law 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you could really tell by the first kiss on this one. it's always good to start out as friends!! them are the best relationships. just cause he kissed you passionately it doesnt mean that he wants to get into your pants. if you two are real cool about your relationship then you both should be comfortable about talking about anything. in a relationship you both should know what you want in a relationship.
1. ask yourself and him are you both going for a longterm relationship or short term.
2. what do you both expect in the relationship (example: sex)
will sex be in your relationship?
3. know alot about this person before you do decide to have sex, if so, just think to yourself, "is this the man i want as a husband or the father of my baby?"
i hope this helps and make sure that your both in love before doing the sex and all. this boy sounds like a gentleman for not getting to greedy. he did not pressure you form what i hear. i hope everything helps. goodluck!!
2007-10-15 02:04:34 · answer #3 · answered by livin_life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello!
While it is true that all men expect to eventually get you into bed, it doesn't mean he only wants to sleep with you and nothing more.
There are only four sure-tell signs that he just wants to get you to be his sexpot:
"1.He talks only about sex, anything that leads up to sex, and nothing else.
2. He’s asked you to be **** buddies.
3. He only meets you at times when it’s “appropriate” for sex (i.e. he will set up these encounters late at night).
4. He doesn’t want to meet anyone that’s important to you or show you to anyone he knows.
These are the only sure signs that he wants you for just sex. Anything else you’ve heard, like him leaving after sex, are NOT certain signals. Guys are different so don’t jump the gun, but if it’s any of the signs I’ve just mentioned then he’s definitely after just sex."
Sincerely,
Mike
2007-10-15 17:02:02 · answer #4 · answered by TrustMike.Com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the fact that he didn't touch your boobs or went down to your pants, i will say no he is not after sex, and if he still calls u i think he likes you, but for you to know you need to ask him his values towards sex.
but i will say he was just caught up in the moment. and I'm sure he wont mind doing it again. give him some time you will soon know wether he is after sex or not.
2007-10-15 01:59:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it maybe just because the way u make him feel and that dosent always meran that he's after sex he u maybe just make him feel that good. but u would really know if he was only after sex cuz then he will talk about an tha fone all the time and always wantin to know when ya are going to have it or he would be having nasty conversation wit u on tha phone about it
2007-10-15 02:00:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
See how many more nights of "passionate kissing" he will do before he wants to take it to another level.
My experience: make him wait 3 months +, females give up the booty too quick these days. If you do, you'll be just proof of another statistic...
2007-10-15 02:00:55 · answer #7 · answered by teri is ambience 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until he arrives at your door in th process of removing his clothes, I'd say your safe. Sex is a normal part of intimacy between dating partners; you're supposed to enjoy it too! If intimacy frightens you after spending a year together as friends, perhaps you need to tell him instead of us...and see somebody!
2007-10-15 01:56:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its a sign of passion.Everyone that hasnt been intimate but attracted to somebody is curiouse.Maybe this guy really likes you.Take it slow and just enjoy your time together.What is meant 2 happen will happen.
2007-10-15 02:01:17 · answer #9 · answered by BABYGIRL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all the guys are after sex. and you. But I can promise you that no guy would date a girl who can't have sex with. so just deal with it
2007-10-15 01:58:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋