virginity is important to my fiance and something happened to me and my X boy friend last month. i really wanted to let my vagina close for my fiance. actually i did not know he will propose to me, i was so surprised. how can i let it close easier and faster so that my fiance will not be frustrated. if he will come to know that i am already disvirgin, i know he will feel so sad. please help me... i love my fiance so much. do you have any way to let it close so that i will get hurt again on our first night?
2007-10-15 00:51:53 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Okay...let me get this straight. You lost your virginity a month ago to an ex boyfriend. You are getting married in 2 months.
Something is wrong here...
Don't you think that 2 months is not enough time? Talk about rebound. Either that or someone has not been faithful and fingers are pointing at you.
You have lost your virginity. Well, that's something you can only give once. Your vagina will not "close up and make you a virgin again". That just does not happen.
I don't know how old you are but you sound very immature and in no way ready for marriage. I suggest you learn more about human sexuality and what marriage involves before you get married. Obviously you don't know and are too immature to understand. Wait a while...a LONG while.
EMT
2007-10-15 00:59:05 · answer #1 · answered by emt_me911 7 · 15⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you done this with your xbf while you and your current bf were together then you should be a woman and tell him the truth.
Otherwise, you are building your relationship with him on lies and distrust. Secrets have their way of coming out in the open. You may never tell him anything but your xbf might.
Or even someone else that may know. Your best bet would be to tell him if this did indeed happen while the two of you were together.
Also, your vagina will never "close". EVER. It just does not happen. Once you have lost your virginity, that is it. It's gone. There is never a chance to be a virgin again.
2007-10-15 01:08:10 · answer #2 · answered by KE 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
ok... let me understand. You had a fling with your Ex last month. Your fiance purposed since then and you're getting married in 2 months (thats some fast planning). You're more worried about your fiance finding out your lied and cheated on him, than the fact that you lied and cheated on him. How "so much in love" can you be with your fiance, if only a month ago... you were so caught up with your Ex you handed over your virginity??!
Do your fiance a favor.... dont marry him! You're not ready, obiviously.
2007-10-15 02:01:10 · answer #3 · answered by loki_only1 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow...I`m actually surprised with this kinda question. I don`t think guys now really care about the girlfriend being a virgin or not...
Having a vagina 'closed' or not do not really a matter anymore, even very young girls could have chances to not having a 'closed' vagina eventho they`re still virgins... Ladies who have active lifestyle or wearing too much tampons can lead to breakage...
I don`t think your fiance` will take it as a problem as he loves you so much. And i don`t think as a woman, you don`t have to tell about losing your virginity to someone else anyway... keep it for yourself. When you already with someone new, and you`ll be getting married soon, it`s your new life and your future that you should think about, not your past.
So..i wish you all the best for your future with lots of love and happiness.
2007-10-15 01:09:34 · answer #4 · answered by annica 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Virginity is not a big issue today. But you said it is to your fiance. There is nothing you can do now to undo what you have done last month.
Given the above premise, you have the option to tell him honestly and face the consequencies or let it be and just cross the bridge when you get there.
2007-10-15 01:27:56 · answer #5 · answered by Rhythm of the Falling Rain 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Um, so you cheated on your boyfriend who then became your fiance and your biggest problem is getting your vagina to close so you can keep up the lie? Super. I just love when people like you get married.
A good relationship is built on honesty and trust, something that you don't seem to have going on.
2007-10-15 01:24:57 · answer #6 · answered by Smash 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
in case you incredibly have faith the guy and you recognize he could go bridges for you than I dont see the situation. as long as you're arranged for the implications. Im 15 additionally and have adequate adventure to tell you that if he's like quite the various adult men i comprehend he will in simple terms assume further and further intercourse after the 1st time. additionally it could no longer look significant to you at present yet adult men tend to have huge mouths and reputations rather are significant. You wouldnt choose the entire college thinking you're something you arent through fact of one guy.
2016-10-22 11:43:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If being a virgin is so important, then why did you sleep with your ex boyfriend? You say you love your fiancee, but you slept with someone else a month ago? It sounds to me like you are not ready to be married.
Be honest with your fiancee and tell him you are no longer a virgin. If you don't, he will find out. There is no way to make yourself a virgin again.
2007-10-15 04:49:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um, do tell him he needs to know you are unfaithful. I'm almost positive you will loose him, but that's the chance you take. If you really love him, he deserves to know, you can't start off a marriage with a lie. Really now you accepted his proposal knowing that you slept with another man just one month ago. He had the right to know, do you really think he would have proposed if he knew?
2007-10-15 01:19:30 · answer #9 · answered by L H 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
girl it's 1000% impossible to bring it back to original size. Be honest you are starting a new life you don't need to start on the wrong foot now do you. I'm sure he aint a virgin himself.. be honest you'll be suprised by the out come........
2007-10-19 00:50:26 · answer #10 · answered by ms avarage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋