ever since he left for college, we've been trying to work out this relationship. Its never really been a healthy one from the start..but i can't help but stick around because of how much i feel for him..i've done so much for him so its hard for me to let it go.
i KNOW i should forget about him because of mistreatment, but like i said..i can't let go.
normally when he says its over..he ends up calling me anyway. what should i do? should i continue to work it out and deal with the stress? or deal with the stress of trying to forget him??
2007-10-14 23:06:54 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him to take the train, and don't look back, Enjoy, Life is to short..
2007-10-14 23:13:05 · answer #1 · answered by Don M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No man is worth the stress. If he says it's over hun than it's over. u can remain friends but thats about it. Why stay with someone that brings heartache and if it wasn't a healthy relationship why stay in it. If it was unhealthy than ur better off without him no matter how much u care for him. There is better guys out there that is right for u. So be choosey and careful. don't let ur guard down until u know u can trust him and u know it's a healthy relationship. Nooone deserves to be mistreated in anyway shape or form. so good luck hun. Let me know how it goes.
2007-10-14 23:11:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. he's probably chasing women at college.
2. if it hasn't been a healthy relationship from the start, why in the heck are you sticking it out? don't YOU deserve better?
3. if he's calling you "anyway" that means you're his emotional security blanket.
4. deal with the stress & move on to hopefully a healthy relationship that doesn't cause you as much stress as this one.
2007-10-14 23:11:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be better if you'll just let go.. I know it would be too hard for you knowing that the two of you have been together for a long time and you've exerted too much effort, resources and time for your relationship. But if you'll just think things out, you will realize that you are better off without him. Believe me, I've been into that situation before,trying to convince myself that my feelings for him should prevail and need not to worry on how roughly things are going on. Eventhough, it is very much clear to my naked eye that the relationship is getting nowhere, I still did continue being with him and it ended up.. him breaking up with me. Really it hurts so much to be dumped. .bruised ego and wounded pride. I felt I lost my faith, my faith that I'm worthy to be loved and at this very moment I am still trying to regain myself back. I realized that it is better that we have separated ways than to force ourselves to stick with each other. Love is not enough.. both should be committed to each other to. Just learn to let go..
2007-10-14 23:33:59 · answer #4 · answered by kyen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see and realize how you value this guy. S`thing happened btwn u that he is not able to reason it out. Get a trusted friend of his to mediate u and him for a final discussion. He seems to have some thing in store for but has other involvement he values most. Explain frankly what u feel for him, most ladies don`t do this and keeps wasting their time to dawn on them, which may not show up. Be like a man this time to reduce much stress.
2007-10-14 23:18:21 · answer #5 · answered by nelwes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do something good for yurself an get away from him, if he says he dnt want you then go and make him eat those words, then if he wants to come back it will be on your terms and you dictate more and he will be under your thumb, he is messing with you he has someone else, do yourself a favor an get past him and recognize all the ways he mis-treats you so you can learn from the experience. good luck give some of us on here a hollar lol
2007-10-14 23:23:30 · answer #6 · answered by emt2898 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him, I know it hurts for it to end but you'll probably be better off. If he mistreats you and it unhealthy you need to move on. Find a guy that cares for you drop this guy and forget about him.
2007-10-14 23:15:25 · answer #7 · answered by cset2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. He's at his first year of college and wants to have fun. He ends up calling you because you're an alternative to someone at the school he's at.
He's off having fun - so should you. Forget him and find other people to have fun with...
and WEAR A CONDOM
2007-10-14 23:10:20 · answer #8 · answered by Boston guy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he really told you that, he means it and you should forget about it. You'll only suffer from trying to get his love back, trust me . . . because a good man will be devoted to you to the end.
2007-10-14 23:10:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
isnt it an interesting thing!! do you wonder why you love a guy who can never make you feel happy!I hear it so often.."but i love him/or her!! even though they know they are not getting treated properly.It makes me wonder ?what is there to love?is it really love? or is it the fact that we dont want to be without someone or we dont want to be dumped because we then feel rejected worthless etc.When a guy treats me bad i dont feel love..i feel sad and resentful..and i know i deserve better.Look deep into your heart and relize that you deserve to be treated like a princess..if you are not happy...then keep looking until you find the one who will put that smile on your face and warmth in your heart..
2007-10-14 23:20:03 · answer #10 · answered by sheru 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we are on the same situation :( if you can't let him go, then just treat him as a friend but also try to move on, entertain some suitors, go out with friends... and try to be as casual with him as possible
2007-10-14 23:14:00 · answer #11 · answered by blue_raven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋