I just got out of a long term relationship 5yrs + about 6 months ago. Finally, I became interested in a guy at work, he's was really nice to me, always happy to see me and we got on like a house on fire. I gathered my courage and tell him how I feel about him. He said he's only want to be my friend, nothing else. He's not attracted to asian girls due to bad experience from his past. Im devastated. This really knocked me down, I dont know what to do now. Will there ever be a chance he'll re-considered me or thats it?
2007-10-14 21:37:00 · 14 answers · asked by Noeyedeer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That guy needs to grow up. U should ask one of his guy friends to talk to him about his view on dating Asian girls. Yes, there is definitely a chance he will reconsider.
I had a bad experience with a Hispanic chick and afterwards i swore to myself that i will never date another Hispanic girl. But, as time went on and i became more mature, i did not care anymore.
2007-10-14 21:44:59 · answer #1 · answered by Monster 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What???!!!! Devastated!!!!!????
Stop being so silly and dramatic. You're only 6 months out of a long-term relationship.
Look, here's your problem. You were nice and secure for 5 years, now you're out and single again, and are clearly looking for that security again. Clingy? Maybe. Just because the first guy you like turned you down doesn't mean the world has got to end for you. Get over it and move on.
2007-10-14 21:44:13 · answer #2 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there. Honey look don't let that jerk make you feel bad. Personally not trying to hit on you but I think Asian women are so attractive and beautiful honestly. What's not to like about you, I bet you're a good looking gal. Thank God he showed his true colors before you got your hopes up. What do you do now, move on with your life, and trust me when I say the following. There are plenty of nice guys like myself who want your time and attention, don't even waste your time with getting him to re-consider take this as a learning experience and move on with a positive outlook on life.
I know exactly how you feel trust me, but keep your head up and go out and meet new guys you're interested in. Come on let the guys do the chasing, you just sit back and enjoy life to the fullest. Too bad you're far, I would certainly date you. Like I just said keep your head up, and from now on let the guys do the chasing, you just enjoy life.
Trust me sooner or later your dream guy will come into your life. I'm waiting for my dream girl to appear also, I know it will happen. Hope this helps, good luck! ;P
2007-10-14 21:50:06 · answer #3 · answered by money mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know from experience that this just wasn't to be.
It shows his heart is in the right place and that he is a genuinely nice guy, he has been honest and upfront and I'm sure it cant be said about many men.
I can't see him changing his mind but you have to remember he is not the only one out there for you, there will be someone better who will love every last thing you do and that's worth waiting for.
I hope your heart isn't too hurt but it will recover, just be positive and look forward !
2007-10-14 21:45:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seriously this is his problem not yours. if he can't face the fact that everyone is different and it has nothing to do with ethnic background, than it is his loss. You did a brave thing and you should feel proud of yourself for taking that step, it is something that people regret their whole lives, that they didn't have the courage to do what you have done. just because he didnt respond the way you would have liked, doesnt take away from what you have overcome. if he doesn't change his mind then you have lost nothing. if you hadn't expressed you feelings, then you would have lost. a lost opportunity, a lost chance, a lifetime of regret. you have nothing too be ashamed of. he just has his own issues, these are not your issues.
2007-10-14 21:45:07 · answer #5 · answered by ari 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its time for you to re-consider yourself. If he only wants to be your friend, so be it! This way, you will get to know him better and later on, you can figure out if you really like him or its just an infatuation. Also, you can still meet other guys out there, without losing this guy friend of yours.
When guys are "really nice to us", it doesn't equal to "liking us". There are guys who are good only as friends but not as boyfriends or husbands. Widen your circle of friends or your social network. There are lots of great people to meet, one of whom might be the one you're looking for.
2007-10-14 21:56:17 · answer #6 · answered by redskibaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since a guy said these to a girl then forget these guy and move on.Just be normal friends.There are more better guys out there
2007-10-14 21:44:23 · answer #7 · answered by AshBurg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to forget him...
Rembeber there's always someone better for u who can love u even more,im sure u're a great girl with great caracter,and hope u'll find someone right!
MUAh
2007-10-14 21:40:23 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Nancy-SRB♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont feel like that!just move on!he might reconsider you!
honey,wat mi mom tells me is he said no so that must mean you are to much or to good for him.so cheerup!i just think will this really matter 20 years from now?
2007-10-14 21:42:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know you really like him but that is a dum evcuse for him to say to you so maybe its for the best you need someone who loves you for you regardless of the past
2007-10-14 21:47:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋