Me and my boyfriend were together today and...he said something that really made me uncomftable..?

Question

Right me and my bf was together today and it was down a park and he turn round and goes to me is that bull **** u got on as perfume or something and i could of felt like crying bcause it wasnt and i had deoderant and a really nice perfume on and it cant of been me it must of been the dogs around us like but what would you say back if that was your bf who said that to you cause i just said nothing as i felt so upset by it and uncomftable when he said that cause it made me feel like i smell so i sprayed perfume when he wasnt looking but i could of cried can anyone help?? :(
he did hug me after, but when he said it he was like *sniff sniff sniff* then said is that bullshit your wearing for perfume he said it like twice but he brought me a perfume before for my birthday but i also took that as a way that he thinks i smell but i dont cause lots of my friends said i love ur perfume&that but now im so concious! but im not gettin rid of him i love him to bits and he loves me 2 =] ne advice?

Answer 1

tel him no it isn't but it does smell like he ate a cat sh*t sandwich for lunch though.

Answer 2

well if that was me then i would have said something to him right there...i guess just tell him the truth tell him that 1) what he said was really uncalled for 2) that, that was very disrespectful and as his girlfriend u should be treated with common courtesy because if u thought that that was him u would not have said it like that, or even have said anything at all !!! 3) if he really did mean it then he should have said it without the cursing and without the 'sniff sniff ' and 4) that if he doesn't like ur perfume and doesn't want u to wear it then HE needs to go out and buy u one that u BOTH like p.s i don't think him buyin u perfume before meant anything cuz Thats what guys buy girls when they are Clueless, my boyfriend loves my perfume so much he stole my lotion, but he still bought me perfume before too...lol

Answer 3

Well, there is definitely a better way he could have said it. He just has no tact. But I would certainly agree that it was uncalled for. Was he trying to say it to be funny? Otherwise, I would have been hurt too if someone said that to me.

I don't think perfume as a gift is an indicator that you smell. Just like when guys get women flowers. Women like smelly stuff!

Answer 4

What he said was pretty harsh but he probably thought it was a joke, you know how guys are.. He might have thought your perfume was strong or something but didn't know how to say it so it just came out as a lame joke. I bet he felt really nervous afterward cause he stuffed up.. I wouldn't stress about it too much this time but if he says anything else hurtful to you then maybe it's time you had a talk about your feelings.

Good luck =]

Answer 5

You definitely did Not overreact. I think he is an asshole. you can tell someone that you do not like their perfume any number of ways which would not hurt at all. The way he thinks he can talk to you is simply scaring, noone has the right to put someone down. He should love you, take care of you, etc. not criticize you. there are plenty of nice guys who respect and love their gfs, find a boy like that. You deserve someone nice.

Answer 6

Dump him he's a bully, who gets off on putting you down.
This type of person picks on girls because the boys would hurt him....badly.
No man who cared for a woman would say something like that, not even as a joke.
You also need to address why you choose this type of man and still stay around after he does this. If you don't change you'll be treated like this your whole life. Refuse to put up with it.
And I'm not a vegan feminist, I'm a meat-eating male. Real men don't allow this type of behaviour and there is plenty of us.

Answer 7

Stop feeing uncomftable,and stop thinking you smell your boyfriend needs to think before he opens his mouth.You know you don't smell and your friends say you smell nice so stop trying to please him.and buying you perfume making you feel even more self concious about how you smell.Look if you want to love this boy and you say he loves you then you need to tell him how you feel.You need to tell him look I love you, but you hurt my feelings real deep saying that about me.I dress, I put on nice perfume for you and you tell me that.Hopefully he will tell you he is sorry and that he loves you.And hopefully he will think the next time he opens his mouth.Good luck and hope things work out for the both of you.

Answer 8

hehe...I am totally eeeevil....I would have to spray his jacket, and shoes and inside his notebooks, or under his passenger seat, you spray a cloth really heavy and deposit it under his passenger seat or tuck it into his back seat or put it in the glove box so that unexpectedly the perfume gets with him...you enjoy what you like, and tell him to p*ss off. I would tell him that if he were a perfume connseur he would be gay and you would have ANOTHER boyfriend who wasnt...and leave it like that, he is NO AUTHORITY ON PERFUMES>...Next time he can walk in the park alone...I would have marched off and left him standing there, he is SOOO lucky he has YOU and not someone like me or he would be smelling ALONE after running his trap like that. L-OSER...sorry hun. Take Care, Good Luck.-Rachel.

Answer 9

He said that to get you ready for the birthday gift. His unique way of saying he was getting you something better than what you had on. Don't worry about it. He's a good guy, but he might needs some lessons on how to express his feelings so that he doesn't hurt your feelings.

Answer 10

I don't mean to be rude or anything but there is kids dying out there of aids and starvation and the biggest problem you have is your bf made a joke (most likely he was joking) about your perfume.

Seriously get over it, or if it bothers you so much just ask him "hey do you really think I smell bad? Is it me or the perfume?"

Answer 11

I'm sorry, but you really, really, REALLY need to learn how to write a proper sentence. That was extremely hard to read.

I have no idea why you took that comment so personally. It was some idiotic thing he said, guys say a lot of unthinking idiotic things. You can't cry every time that happens. Next time laugh , punch him in the arm, and tell him it's probably his own breath he's smelling.