tanisha
2007-10-14 20:37:52 · 13 answers · asked by apeksha u 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
That doesn't just "happen", Tanisha. My guess is there is abuse going on. If the person/s you're having sex with are adults, then what you call sex is really Child Sexual Abuse. Even if you like it, even if you ask for it or initiate it: the adult knows it's wrong and why.
The sex itself is not the actual problem - it's a symptom, a way of expressing, a deeper problem - that would either be Child Sexual Abuse, physical or emotional abuse, an alcoholic parent .. it's a sign that there is a problem with your family, what we call a 'dysfunctional' family, as opposed to a healthy family.
I think the best thing for you to do is to talk to someone professional who has experience working with survivors of abuse or of dysfunctional families - there are a few organisations around India, that I work with and know personally, who will be able to help you work through these issues. Please don't ignore it or hope that it goes away, it doesn't - and you will just end up hopping from one problem to another and making things worse for yourself. Talking to someone who understands the pain and experiences you've been through will be a huge relief and you'll find that you CAN lead a much happier life.
2007-10-15 02:19:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
Don't be in such a hurry to have sex. You are young and have your whole life ahead of you. When you are a bit older and more mature and settled down in life then you can venture out. Don't throw your life away on a whim. Keep your head screwed on.
Find some meaning in your life, seek out new opportunities, and do something to make you feel good about yourself.
Are you seeking sex because you feel lonely? Are you just really needing some love and affection in your life? If so, having sex will not make you feel any better.
Surround yourself with kind, loving, positive people who will offer you emotional help and support.
It is normal by the way to have sexual urges at your age. Your body is changing. Perhaps masterbating in private is a much better and safer option right now. That too is normal and nothing to be ashamed off.
Take control of your life. You are responsible for yourself, that means taking responsibility for your actions. Exercising self-control is the first step towards adulthood. You can do it, you can.
I hope I have been of some help to you. Forgive me if I sound harsh, that is not my intention here. I just feel that there are more important things in life for you. You have all the time in the world to venture out into relationships and so forth. Enjoy your life love.
Blessings
Suzanne x
2007-10-14 21:32:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sex is the last thing a 14 year old should be thinking about. How about thinking about a screaming baby getting you up every 2 hours wanting to be fed? Does that help?
2007-10-14 21:05:34 · answer #3 · answered by midnitrondavu 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At 14 think about building your career, once u start struggling to build a career u'll forget about sex, u have lot of time to have sex later............First try to be success in life by achieving something, if u u won't stop thinking of sex u can't concentrate on studies, engage yourself in some outdoor?indoor games in your free time.
2007-10-14 21:01:19 · answer #4 · answered by chaitra s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lite response: Time to use a padlock on the zipper of your jeans!
What you do with your sexuality WILL shape the rest of your life, your attitudes, how you think of yourself........and your children ....and your future health/ health problems........and the respect of others. If you have to lock yourself in the bathroom ALONE, do it. Respect yourself enough to wait 'till you are married........then let loose!!!
2007-10-14 21:09:33 · answer #5 · answered by Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
>.> you think of liking intercourse is a situation??? >.> what are they coaching young ones in center college at present? no longer something XDXDXD (=humorous tale- stupid conservative mothers and dads dont choose their toddlers understanding something so the rigidity their lack of understanding on the colleges) discover a chum who has the comparable "situation "and refer to them approximately it- who's familiar with, you could additionally get some mutual, and a more advantageous courting XD
2016-10-22 11:30:19 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get better at masturbation before your sex drive works against you.
2007-10-14 20:46:27 · answer #7 · answered by stratoframe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yer im 14 to... dont lose ya virginity yet.. w8 awile atleast till 16
anyways peace out
2007-10-14 20:48:06 · answer #8 · answered by Rainbow Child 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm 16 and a virgin. Just keep in mind that you're better then everyone else because you're keeping your body pure. Most guys just want to hit it and quit it anyways.
2007-10-14 20:49:52 · answer #9 · answered by linda 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
well just divert ur mind to something else...like studies friends movies etc....
2007-10-17 05:35:48 · answer #10 · answered by gaf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋