She claims she would put them down if they were suffering, but keeps paying the vet thousands to rid them of their pain. I have tried to go with the quality of life approach instead of the suffering approach, since she keeps spending at the vet.
The house smells like dog urine. She is grinding the dogs food nightly. She has even bought diapers for the dogs for when she is at work.
The dogs have led 15+ years of happy lives, but they represent the last living thing her dead husband gave her.
Do I let the vet keep taking her money? Do I let her keep shampooing her carpets every weekend?
How do you tell someone to let them go?
2007-10-14 20:35:58 · 13 answers · asked by csucdartgirl 7 in Pets ➔ Dogs
This is a very difficult decision.
The veterinarian will be able to let her know in the most gentlest of terms when it is time to let them go. As long as she is able to care for them to the best of her ability, let her.
I don't know what to say about the living conditions; a constant urine smell isn't healthy.
I understand your difficulty and have seen this many times. Where does the line cross? Only if she isn't trying to give proper veterinary care and that she is getting them.
I know your heart is in the right place. Just try to be supportive for her. Maybe consult with her veterinarian with your concerns by making an appointment to find solutions to improve her living situation? It would give her a wonderful gift to help her lonliness and give you peace of mind too. Even if it is just a little thing you can do.
Best of luck to you and them!
2007-10-14 22:12:11 · answer #1 · answered by rapperjade 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't! It's nice that you care, but not your place to say or do anything. It's her business! These dogs obviously mean the world to her, and she is going to do everything she can to keep them healthy and around for as long as she can. The decision to put her dogs down, is one that is between her and the veterinarian. When it is time, the vet will tell her that there is nothing more he can do for them, and I'm sure she would not want them to suffer. I don't see anything wrong with her wanting to provide the best care she can for her dogs, I commend her for it. Those dogs are probably all she has. Just stay out of it. As far as the carpets, if it doesn't bother her, to clean them every weekend, then why is it bothering you.
2007-10-15 00:47:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
yeah, dont take this from her. the vet would tell her if it really was time to think about putting the dogs down. they are required to if it is an option that is reasonable. As for the vet "taking her money" vet bills are never nice and low. And at this point in her life, what else is she going to do with that money, save it for the future (not to sound too cynical and heartless, that wasn't my point).
They are making her happy and she is keeping them alive in exchange. If they aren't suffering or fighting to live, let them live and keep making her happy.
2007-10-14 20:48:40 · answer #3 · answered by driven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-06 23:14:17 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly You said it in your letter it is the last living thing of her passing husband. I am not her but I seen something similar with my grandmother with her cat. She didn't want to let the cat go because it was the last thing my passing grandfather gave to her and she wanted something with her. She would talk to that cat as if it was Grandpa... Honestly it might be the only thing letting he hold on then it again I dont know but that cat was what had my grandmother hold on and then a just 4 months after that cat left she went down hill to and within a year she left us to. So honestly let her be and let her process this in her own way. I know it is hard for you to see the animal suffer but you have to try to understand what that woman is feeling to.
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2007-10-14 21:03:25 · answer #5 · answered by Juliette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont!!! This is her last connection to her husband who died? Leave her alone. If she is still willing to do all of this, she isn't ready to let go. How is any of this your business? When does the human emotion out rule the animals? Who cares what her house smells like you dont live there. Its her house! You dont say she isn't caring for it, you only mention HER money and effort in keeping it. She will let go when SHE is ready. Have compassion and help her any way you can. This isn't just a dog to her, its part of her happiness, memories and life. She cant be that old if she is still working. Mind your own business. Let her keep what part of her life she has left. Dont be surprised if she dies shortly after the dog. I work with the elderly and I've watched them hold on as long as the dog was around. Ive also watched them die themselves shortly after the dog too. Let her have her happiness. It's not for you to say.
2007-10-14 23:23:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'm sorry, but you can't tell someone when it is time, unless they ask. This is a very personal decision , and is between her and her vet. She wouldn't want to spend her money on anything else, right now, as her dogs are just very important to her, and each day with them is precious.
2007-10-14 21:42:06 · answer #7 · answered by Chetco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you let her keep doing what she's doing. It's up the to vet and the owner to decide when the time is right, not you. I'd stay out of it unless she asks for your advice.
ADD:
Always nice words from Chetco. She still has compassion that a lot of others have lost.
2007-10-14 21:04:03 · answer #8 · answered by Pom♥Mom Spay and Neuter 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Although it does sound like it may be time, I wouldn't say anything. It sounds as though she really loves them and she is doing everything she can for them. It'll happen soon enough. Just be supportive and maybe offer to help with the carpet cleaning, she'll love you for it I'm sure. Best wishes.
2007-10-14 20:46:19 · answer #9 · answered by Sniggle 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Is she your Mom or just a friend?Be glad that she has someone to love and take care of.If she isn't complaining then let it be.She sounds like she is doing what she feels the dog need done.I know there would be no way I could do it either.Sorry let her love them til their death.
2007-10-15 06:28:38 · answer #10 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋