I have been friends with this girl for 8+ years. She is now recently divorced and dating another guy. Recently, she told me she has always had feelings for me and asked me to tell her my feelings. I didnt spill my guts, but I told her I had a crush on her for a long time and really enjoy spending time with her. Suddenly she stops returning my calls and calls me two weeks l8r to tell me that she broke up with the guy she was dating. We go out again and have a great time. I told her that it hurt me that she avoided my calls, and she said the other guy was threatend by me, but she thinks about me all the time. When I was with her last I noticed he called, and now she will not return my calls or texts once again. what gives?! Wouldn't 8 plus years of knowing someone command more respect? I dont know what to do, but I am very heartbroken over the whole thing. I don't know weather to just be myself (polite and understanding) or get pissed and tell her how mad and hurt I am.
2007-10-14 18:53:37 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get away quick. Don't get involved. She is messed up.
2007-10-14 18:57:39 · answer #1 · answered by Lolipop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Hon..
Sometimes , in order to ease the hurt you feel in your body and soul, you have to tell the truth!
It sounds like this lady does not truly know what she wants herself..
It seems she's somewhat insecure, and comes to you when she needs a shoulder to cry on, and needs reassurance that someone still cares about her..After getting that, you won't hear from her again..until that time again.
I don't think she's ready for another relationship, at least not right now..
Move on with your life Hon..This gal will just use you when she needs you!
It's up to you Hon..If you don't mind getting hurt, over and over..That's your decision..
Take care, and God Bless!
2007-10-15 02:12:17 · answer #2 · answered by howdoilvthee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she just cannot handle her emotions at the moment, and although she likes you, she doesn't see you as a possible person to spend time with, because she is looking for Mr. Right for ALL the wrong reasons. The best advice I can think of is to take things slow with her, and tell her that she cant just talk to you at her leisure. Either you are friends and talk all the time, or nothing at all.
2007-10-15 01:57:47 · answer #3 · answered by Adrian G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
looks like to me that she is just putting you on the back burner because if she was serious about the 8year friendship the two of you have and she was intersted in furthering something with the two of you she wouldnt keep avoiding you and putting you on the back burner for these other guys. she kees saying she has feelings but why isnt she playing into these feelings and seeing what happends? you already told her how you felt. i say move on with your life sweetheart dont keep waiting around for her and being her puppet on a string when she is just taggin you along for the ride. you deserve so much more good luck
2007-10-15 01:59:53 · answer #4 · answered by Fit 4 A King 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a gentleman, you don't have to "get pissed" to communicate your feelings to her do you? Just understand she may be on again and off again with this bloke and that any behaviour that should be beneath you may frighten her away for good - 8 years or not. Take care, and only give her reasons to adore you (be patient) - don't act like a chump.
2007-10-15 02:00:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like she does have feelings for you but doesn't really want to be with you and is only keeping you there and leading you on for when things go wrong in her life. Tell her what you think and demand an answer tell her you won't be around for ever and hopefully she will come to her senses before its too late. Because i think she might not realise what her true feelings for you are.
2007-10-15 01:58:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she's confused and maybe even scared to take a chance with you cause she doesnt know what will happen and she's already gotten comfortable with this new guy. you should tell her that you're hurt, because you really like her and were hoping for something to evolve with her, and if it's not going to then to stop messing with your head, because you're not going to put up with it. then she'll know how you feel and have to make a final decision. good luck
2007-10-15 02:01:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u deserve to be treated better. Call her on it. Ask for the truth. If she treats u bad as a friend then she will probly treat u bad as a boyfriend.
2007-10-15 01:57:49 · answer #8 · answered by kermit 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like she's afraid to be alone. I think she wants to be with the other dude but she's hedging her bets. You wanna play second fiddle, that's your business, but if it were me, I'd cut her loose.
If she decides to come around later, make her prove herself.
2007-10-15 01:58:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋