What's the difference...?

Question

between knowing something in your heart/inside of you and hearing something you want to hear? (wishful thinking)

if there were opinions/rumors about someone you know very well...and you're not sure b/c you don't have alot of "evidence"...people will tell you what they think, (don't have to listen but keep an open mind) - how do you know when to draw to line and believe what's right? How do you know when you stick up for someone b/c you know them or listen to others?

(bc i thought if you were to listen to what you know deep down inside about the person...that could be wishful thinking...could be not...)

Answer 1

It is sometimes hard to know whether to believe something someone else says or whether to trust our instincts. Either way we may be wrong what we believe.
Even when we think we know someone really well there are still things we don't know about the person. But also people can say things that they believe to be true about someone, and they can be just hair say or false beliefs.
It does pay sometimes to keep an open mind for many reasons. When we really care about a person ,we are more inclined to believe whatever they tell us without questioning it.
A gut feeling can be accurate or it can be just a suspicion. But people do sometimes say things that aren't true out of selfish reasons. So keep an open mind, they may be true or they might not be. Go by your instinct,but also weigh things up ,,who is more trustworthy? Is there any possibitily that the rumours/information may be true?
After weighing everything up, maybe then you could tactfully say to the person what you heard,and get their opinion. They might be able to clear your mind a little. But sometimes the truth hurts, so be prepared either way.
Best wishes and I hope it turns out the way you want it!!

Answer 2

It is true that people like to spread rumors about ppl they don't know.I know b/c I was a victim of this...One of my ex's believe everything her gf was telling her, including the fact that I hit on her.I'm a one woman guy and would never do that cause I would not like it done to me..So any ways when my ex found out the rumors were untrue she tried to get back together with me...But it was too late,(cause she was to wishy washy).My point is,...If you have a question for your man then ask and stop listening to the gossip and find out for yourself,what's going on...

Answer 3

I always follow the evidence. If their behaviors have let me know where they stand then that is what i believe. When in doubt dont - dont disbelieve and dont believe. Trust there is always evidence of who or where someone stands in life. By the way when I talk about evidence I dont mean here say (what others might tell you) trust the evidence that you experience yourself. Follow your gut it is rarely wrong.

Answer 4

That's a tough one. Only you can know when to draw that line and which side to stand on. Are you beginning to question how well you really know the person? Maybe you need to talk to the person, painful or embarassing as it may be.

good luck with this... it can't be easy.

Answer 5

Just follow this rule. Believe nothing of what you hear and only half of what you see

Answer 6

I try not to listen others;p!!