What should I do?

Question

Last night my friend Kandi and I went out and had a little fun. She talked me into staying the night at her boyfriends house with her and another guy named Chris, which I have known most of my life. Kandi and Donnie, her bf went into their bedroom, and Chris and I went into his bedroom. Well we wasn't going to do anything at all, it hadn't even crossed my mind. We sat on his bed and talked for about 3 hours. We talked about countless conversations. He had been drinking, but he wasn't drunk. Our legs was interlocked and one thing led to another and we did oral and was about to go further, but we both lost interest cause I wasn't completely into it. I just found out today that he didn't think it was a mistake. I want to be so much more than friends, but I'm not sure if he wants the same thing. It felt so right to be in his arms. I just feel like its a one night stand, and I really don't want that. What should I do to see if he feels the same way I do about him?

We also grew up being told that we were cousins, which we aren't. My mom had told me so, and that is one of the things we spent so long discussing Saturday night. I have always like Chris from the first time we met, which was bout 10 years ago. We haven't always been close, But we always use to play around with each other when we were younger. He would tease me by taking my shoes and holding them high above his head, because he was always so much taller than me, and he still is way taller than me. I really care about him, and want to be more than just friends, I just don't know how to tell him, and how everyone would react. I mean it doesn't really bother me about all of the other people. It is just mostly what his thought are on the whole subject..

I just need to know what I should do.

Thanks in advance

I didn't have intercourse with him at all. I know he wanted to really bad, but I wouldn't go that far. That was the first time anything had happened between us like that. He was telling his friend Donnie about what happened last night between us, and Donnie told Kandi, and then she told me what was said. I just got off the phone with her, and she had just told me what he said. He told her that he respected me and my decision not to have intercourse with him Saturday night. We always hang out together. We actually went on a double date Saturday night as well. Right before all of this happened. He paid for His and my meal, and Donnie paid for His and Kandi's meal.Then Kandi talked me into staying the night with them, so I did, cause I am usually stuck home by myself anyhow.

Answer 1

The only thing you well do is to tell him. I know it sound weird but this is the only way you well find the answer. You know the person in the first place and he give you respect. respect is one of the most important thing to a good relationship and of course it’s a sign that he loved you, I think :). We never know the answer to our question if we didn’t try.

Answer 2

sounds like a one night stand, what guy wants to make that kind of girl his GF? looks like you have no respect for yourself and neither does he. what makes you think he wants a relationship with you? why pay for the cow when you can get the milk for free? why make you his girlfriend and he gets things for you for free? you messed that up..so move on..your mom should have taught you better. you give up the goodies when you are his girlfriend not a friend...

Answer 3

Spend more time with him and see how he reacts to your company. If he loves to be around you and acts completly nice and loving, then it must not be a one night stand. If he ignores you & acts like nothing happened, I am guessing it was a one night stand

I hope it works out for you. :)