My son completed suicide last yr. and i miss him dearly. I guess i am doing ok. but if anyone has some good answers it may help. I know about the religous aspect but i have been kinda mad at God. I also lost my dad and sister last yr. I am in counseling, and it has helped alot. I am now teaching a class on how to deal with mental disorders. My son and myself have depression and he had ADHD. I guess that i am doing good. But if anyone can give me more ideas that would be great. I just want to help people get thru situations that i have been thru. I feel that this would help me get thru all this. I also want to adopt A HIGHWAY in memory of my son. My son(when he was younger, he said he wanted to be a hero) by helping others i feel he is being a hero in around about way.
2007-10-14 18:36:39 · 9 answers · asked by diane w 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I am so, so sorry. I wish I could help more.
There are a LOT of amazing books out there that talk about dealing with the suicide of a child.
http://www.amazon.com/Suicide-Child-Adina-Wrobleski/dp/1561230219/ref=sr_1_1/104-7283544-2335145?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1192427071&sr=1-1
http://www.amazon.com/No-Time-Say-Goodbye-Surviving/dp/0385485514/ref=pd_sim_b_3_img/104-7283544-2335145
http://www.amazon.com/My-Son-My-Son-Healing-Suicide/dp/0961632607/ref=pd_sim_b_4_img/104-7283544-2335145
2007-10-14 18:45:33 · answer #1 · answered by savoryjawbox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also lost a family member to suicide, my father. I was young when it happened, I was 10. I'm glad counseling is helping you, and other than that, I found having friends and family around to support you is a big help, too. Also, always remember the good times you & your son had together. I try to only concentrate on the happy times I had with my father. I think it's wonderful that you are teaching a class on how to deal with mental disorders, YOU are a hero for that in my opinion. And I think adopting a highway in memory of your son is a wonderful idea. Take care. I can tell you are a strong person, & this will help you through this hard time.
2007-10-15 01:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by GirlsRGamers2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow! I am sorry for your loss. I lost a younger brother to suicide as well as 2 friends. I wonder about why alot . . . it is not easy to be in your shoes especially. I believe that, even though our situations may not be exactly comparable, it is harder to loose a son or daughter than a brother or sister or mom or dad. It is just seems like the natural order of life is all buggered up otherwise. It really sounds like you are doing the right things. What about joining a support group for those who have experienced the loss of someone who completed suicide? I think that you are brave, and you have alot to give. I do believe that your idea to honor your sons memory is awesome and it would make him blush that his father was so proud of him. I don't think that anything is going to make your suffering ease. But you can do the right thing by helping out others who are where you are and were at. God bless man . . . for what that is worth to you. I really hope you better days to come.
2007-10-15 01:49:03 · answer #3 · answered by Jack B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry so so much to hear of your son.I have been through very much the same with my brother sometime ago.It is very hard as I went through a crises with alot of guilty feeling as to why I could not prevent my brother taking his own life or noticing the signs that there was something wrong.Please stay with your counselling and they may be able to help you through this hard phase of your life.It does get easier but it takes along time.Email me if you would like to talk.Your son will always be a hero.
2007-10-15 01:46:00 · answer #4 · answered by embellishment3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, your helping other people is the best way to commemorate your son's name. When someone commits suicide, we can't understand exactly what they were going through, but if they hurt that much, it may be some solace that they are no longer suffering and are now at peace. I wish you well and stay brave.
2007-10-15 01:55:19 · answer #5 · answered by wherzmymind 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember to let yourself cry/bawl if needed. It's perfectly fine to cry...and totally loose it on more than one occasion in a day.
Adopt that highway too..and don't think twice about it. You sound like a wonderful hero too. He'd be proud.
2007-10-15 02:41:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about what happened, and i don't have much advice because i've never been through it. but what you stated sounds like a good way to cope with suicide. And helping others is the best way to give and feel good. so your on the rihgt track.
2007-10-15 03:12:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you are doing good, After reading your question as far as I am concerned you are blo*ody amazing and one tough lady, good on ya mate
(I to live with depression but have not had to go thru what you have)
I have no answers but my silent support from afar
2007-10-15 05:07:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are still in the angry stage...give it time, it'll get easier. It will get easier!
2007-10-15 01:46:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋