He says he thinks he might be in love with me (I think you either are or you aren't), he says he has no attraction whatsoever for any other female, and yet, he says he is still very attracted to other guys.
I think that if he wasn't dating me, he'd be completely gay.
I know I can trust him not to mess with other guys, I'm just scared he'll leave me because he "decides" he's gay.
Today is our 8 month anniversary and I am in love and we are completely happy together. We have never had any arguments or fights and we talk about our future together all the time.
I don't know what to do and I don't know how to help him.
2007-10-14 18:35:07 · 16 answers · asked by Skillet 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I realize that many people think that if you're gay, you're all-the-way gay. But the problem is, he is very attracted to me and wants to pursue our relationship- emotionally and physically.
2007-10-14 18:40:35 · update #1
Sounds like he could be in love with you. It is his sexual attractions that are confusing him.
Now this will sound weird, but is he sexually attracted to you? Because, he might be in love with you, but one day might want to try to be with a man.
He really shouldn't be stringing you along like this.
I would end it. Before you get even more hurt.
2007-10-14 18:39:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's very attracted to other guys but he loves you?
I wouldn't want to be with someone who was very attracted to people other than me, whether of the same sex or opposite sex.
Although you're deliriously happy, this relationship can't go on long-term. It is going to come to a crashing halt sooner or later.
He might even marry you, but he'll find a way to act on his attraction to other men.
Break it off before you get hurt and look for someone who isn't likely to cheat on you.
2007-10-15 01:40:16 · answer #2 · answered by slishou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to give it some time. 8 mths is a very short time to sort through some very complicated issues. and as harsh as it sounds 8 months is not long enough to fully get through the 'honey moon' period, just enjoy the good stuff for now and worry don't worry too much about the rest until it really starts to interfere with your enjoyment of each other.
2007-10-15 01:41:16 · answer #3 · answered by amzels4eva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's gay, I'm sorry but if he's attracted to guys and not to other girls he is definitely gay. You are probably his best friend and he is confusing this with love. You really need to break it off, because in the long run you will definitely get hurt.
2007-10-15 01:39:22 · answer #4 · answered by Me 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it's very possible that he is only partly gay because supposedly this is how many gay/bi men are. but I'd say if he really is attracted to no other girl besides you and is attracted to various other guys then he is probably completely gay and attracted to his commitment with you more than he's attracted to you. i could be wrong though, that's just my opinion.
2007-10-15 01:39:57 · answer #5 · answered by Falstune 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to help. The last thing males need is help UNLESS THEY DIRECTLY ASK. Leave it be. it's okay to let him know your concerns in a non nagging way just for personal reassurance, but don't ponder on it too long. Relax. Enjoy what you've got instead of going nuts over what YOU THINK MIGHT happen. Try to trust him.
2007-10-15 01:39:46 · answer #6 · answered by Julia R 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just because he is a decent guy does not mean he is going to be faithful to you. I know a TON of men and women who are awesome people, but they carry on love affairs behind their spouse's backs. lol
Be careful. If your bf finds other men attractive, then he is NOT supposed to be with you. You really should be careful who you give your heart to, because it's gonna get broken, dear girl.
Cheers
2007-10-15 01:38:53 · answer #7 · answered by Daft One 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should definitely sit down face to face with him and talk about the way he feels. If what he says isn't expected, try not to explode, but understand. You say you love him, but you don't want to carry your relationship any further if he's hiding something from you.
2007-10-15 01:39:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your boyfriend is by honey, and even though you love him, I think you deserve better. Like Dr. Phil would say the worst thing then being a bad relationship for 8 months is being in a bad relationship for 8 months and 1 day.
I think you guys should take some time apart and give him some time to avaluate who he is, and which sex he wants to be with. Hope that was helpful?!?
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2007-10-15 01:39:54 · answer #9 · answered by ♂♥♀ & ♀♥♂ ∞! Love Oh Love ! ♫♥♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. That will help. Don't crowd him. Arguments will come in time, I assure you. Your willingness, his and yours, to endure them and learn from them will be the true measure of whether you two are really in love with each other.
2007-10-15 01:38:19 · answer #10 · answered by allthatsolid 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋