Ok, the story goes. I been with my girlfriend for 5 1/2 years. She went over to study in Ireland for a few months. We both agreed to date other people and nothing in a relationship. So I'm talking to her and all the sudden she really became cold hearted and shady. So one day I go on Facebook.com and seen that she was in a relationship. So I asked and she told me that she has been dating this guy for 2 weeks and she wasn't even gone for 3 weeks. I tell her I miss her and all that and then she comes out and says ( I don't think we should be talking like this) and I ask why then she says ( because my new boyfriend deserves some trust too). That hurt me so bad and it feels like 5 1/2 years down the toliet. I know we had our fights but I don't know what and why it ended the way it did. I know she loves me but if she did none of this would of happened. I don't know if I should wait for her return or move on. I'm so lost and out of place. I can't go to my friends so please people help me out.
2007-10-14 18:20:31 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry bub but it's over. It ended the moment you both agreed to see other people. You gave up 5.5 years because she was going to be gone for a few months? Whose idea was that????? Hate to say it mean-like, but you need to be real with yourself. If you valued your relationship - you should not have let her leave with the assumption that it was ok to see other people. Long distance relationships aren't all THAT hard.
Now you have a choice. Tell her you don't want to see other people and that you want her back. Fight for her. Show her you love her. If she truly loves you back, she will say see-ya to the other guy and will promise herself to you. But, be fore-warned -- she may have decided that she needs to sow her wild oats first. Be that as it may - you may not get her back. If she says it's over, then move on. Maybe she will eventually come back, but by then, your heart will have hardened to her and nothing will be the same. Better to just learn from it and move on.
2007-10-14 18:29:50 · answer #1 · answered by Insomniac Butterfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Have either one of you had other relationships or is this most serious one? A lot of times when a relationship has been going on for awhile and is extremely serious and also very confortable one of the people tends to get scared. They feel as though they need to get out and experience others. Why? Because for some reason society has put that into people's heads that you can't just be with one or two people before you committ completely you have to be with lots so that you know for sure if you've found "the one." It's all bullshit. If the two of you were truly happy then possibly wait, but only if she's worth it. She might have just got that itch and felt the need to break free of the relationship. She will mostly likely realize when she comes back that she ****** up. Just don't let her come back too easily or she may get the idea that she can do it again.
2007-10-15 01:28:10 · answer #2 · answered by stilletto_killers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest with yourself and look back at your relationship. How old are you? you really didn't give us much to go by. There are two sides to every story and then there is the truth. What I am getting at is: If your girlfriend of 51/2 years
can cheat on you and not think twice about it or be honest from the start and tell you about it you need to be honest to yourself and give it up. You need to make a list of all the good
things and another of all the bad things and if there are more bad things you seriously need to tough it out and try to get over her. It may seem difficult or I might sound harsh but overlooking these things now is only going to cause you great pain in the long run
2007-10-15 02:19:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow I feel for ya but you need to ask yourself what you want in your life is she worth, it I know its easier said than done especially after 5 years. I'm assuming that you and your partner are relatively young and with that in mind people really dint know themselves and being in a different country ,away ,having fun and meeting new people your perspective on things change.Trust me I know its hard but move on, and her new boyfriend doesn`t deserve anything he might not even know she was in a relationship prior and how does one week even validate a boyfriend title it sounds very selfish on her part and that's a very bad trate to be involved with. When she comes home reevaluate the situation and go from there but for right now think about yourself as she has done for herself.And right now that's not being selfish on your part you need to get your mind back and get focused or you will drive yourself crazy thinking about it.Time heals all wounds, it will be hard but you`ll know in the end if she was really worth it.BE STRONG!
2007-10-15 01:56:39 · answer #4 · answered by returntgl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks like you have a good heart and you really care about your girlfriend.I think you should let her know that that you are still very interested in her and give her some time.If she really cares about you she will want to be with you ...otherwise she is not the one for you ,and you should move on.You will need some heeling time but you will become a stronger person.Think of it as one door closes and another one opens.Good luck to you...
2007-10-15 01:36:43 · answer #5 · answered by Daphne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I'd move on. The nerve of her. What about you? Her first loyalty should have been to you and since she doesn't see it that way I think it's time for you to tell her you want out of the relationship. Maybe if you did that it might shake her up a bit.
2007-10-15 01:25:09 · answer #6 · answered by She She 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. The lady didn't even have the decency to honor the agreement you and she made to each other. She is not the only pebble on the beach, my friend. Leave her to her own devices since that is apparently what she wants. Move on. You deserve better than this kind of crappy treatment.
2007-10-15 01:25:05 · answer #7 · answered by Richard B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you should move on baby! that is REALLY dirty and messed up for her to do something so low down. it just goes to show where her values and morals are and shows that you deserve something so much more then that. 5 1/2 years woA! thats a long time to let something just fly out the window. but it looks like you shouldnt waste another second on being with her or trying to be with her. play that game like shes playing. pretend you have someone else also. act just as dirty is she is acting i know 2wrongs dont make a right be she deserves the game just so she can see how it feels. but just ignore her, let it go and dont show her its hurting you, you dont want to let her see you sweat .beacuse look whats shes showing you like she doesnt care so dont let her know you care or you playing a game. just be smooth about it and see how it works out. dont waste your time like i said..you deserve better. and after 5 1/2 years why didnt you two get married? it seems like she could have been doing this through out your whole relationship i know she just didnt wait until the 5th year to cheat. its really low of her, i would move on and find someone more worth your wild and who wouldnt stoop so low. it sounds really immature like she didnt have enough respect to come at you like an adult and let you know how she feels instead of just letting you find out on facebook and then for her to be cheating and changing up the rules of your relationship and being with someone else whom she calls her boyfriend sounds real hoochie to me..anyways good luck. move on babe!
2007-10-15 01:28:04 · answer #8 · answered by Fit 4 A King 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋