dress so "latina".
DISCLAIMER: I already know everything you liberals/feminists/latino pride groups are about to say on this. But it's true that the U.S. is more conservative on public appearance, displays of affection, dress, and customs than Central America. How do I tell her to "wear less make-up, lessen her clevage, wear form-fitting pants" politely and in Spanish?
2007-10-14 17:59:22 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
LOL I guess "class" is "old school" now....how things change..
2007-10-14 18:27:42 · update #1
I can't tell you in Spanish, but you could start by showing her pictures of your family and local friends and let her know that they are not used to people who dress much differently than they do.
Then suggest you take her shopping to buy an outfit you feel is appropriate, yet that still lets her personality shine through. You love her for who she is, so don't try to change her, but there is nothing wrong with toning it down for certain occasions. If she goes to church, ask her what she wears there! Above all, make sure she is comfortable in whatever she wears, cuz if she's not, the wrong impression will come across.
2007-10-14 18:04:25 · answer #1 · answered by equal_opposites 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Simply explain to her that ur parents are ultra conservative and old fashioned and that It would be appreciated if she was sensitive to the fact and dressed and acted accordingly. "Dress so latina" is a horrible stereotypical way of saying it. She woulda latinaed ur *** right out the door. Because not all latinas dress the same way, a proper way to state it is to say I have a liberal, modern latina girlfriend who wears a lot of makeup and shows off cleavage and would like to introduce her to my parents who are ultra conservative and old fashioned white people. To say it in spanish... if she cant speak english n u cant speak spanish how the hell r u together? It must be all about sex, and if it is, then she shouldnt be meeting anyone.
2007-10-15 01:07:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Seriously? If you are embarrassed of her then why be with her? Obviously she got you with her cleavage, affection, and make up. Wow! You sound really snobby. I'm sure your not, and I get what you're saying, but damn! I'd hate to be on the other side of that just hearing that my bf was ashamed of who I am. I really wouldn't want anything to do with him. If you must tell her to change who she is, then realize that her personality will not be as easy to change as her clothing. If your parents don't like her because of her style then that just makes them horrible people. Since you generalized central Americans, I must take in that your parents must be the general Midwest head in the sand stick up the butt type of knee slapping folk??
I'm sure she already realizes that meeting the parents is a big deal and will dress/act accordingly to how she feels comfortable. I don't think you really need to say anything.
2007-10-15 01:06:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
I would not tell her that at all. She is who she is and that is why you love her. You want her to change herself because of your family? If I were her and you did that it would be over. You will expect her to conform to what your family thinks is right for the rest of her life. Let her be who she is and let them accept her. You are an adult and so is she. There is never a polite way to tell someone that they are not good enough for your family.
2007-10-15 03:37:02 · answer #4 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't. If you aren't proud of your woman AS SHE IS then you are a pig and should find yourself some dowdy little bimbo who looks like your dowdy little momma.
**Why would you date a girl you think has no "class"??? You're just a little boy, go home to mommy and leave the women alone.
2007-10-15 11:47:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good question.
My friend just married a Columbian lady. She had pictures up on her profiles of her being naked. I walked in on her doing a strip tease on his webcam. I would always make fun of him about it. Like I saw your girlfriend's butt crack. I think he used my comments to get her to tone it down a notch.
2007-10-15 01:04:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is their anything you like about her? what attracted you in the first place?you sound like you are ashamed of her already and want her to pretend to be something she's not to impress your family, its not fair to her.If it was me and your parents couldn't accept me the way I am, I would say see ya to the whole bunch.
2007-10-15 01:08:43 · answer #7 · answered by onyx1 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
be honest, but respectful.
just explain that your parents are conservative and 'old school'.
honesty is the best policy.
2007-10-15 01:09:27 · answer #8 · answered by nezzer 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You can't do that politely. Lay out her clothes for her.
P.S.- How do you know she won't figure this out on her own?
2007-10-15 01:02:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
she should be able to dress the way she wants to
2007-10-15 01:08:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋