How do you deal with a rude neighbor?

Question

We live in a newly built town home, and are having problems with our neighbor in the house next to ours (not attached). We have only been here for four months, and her four and a half. At first she was mildly friendly, but as time went on she began complaining to us that there was garbage in her yard. This persisted several times, all of which were after a storm, but she insisted that we were throwing trash in her yard (plastic bags, cig butts, candy bar wrappers). There was one incident where our puppy did poop in her yard, but we gladly cleaned it up. She's called the police because there was a friends car in front of her mail box and she didnt get her mail. She made us clean up raccoon puke (or something) because she blamed it on our dog. The list goes on, and every time she comes to our house she rings the door bell over and over, when she knows we have a baby. She even came over during a tornado warning to complain when we were in the basement Help us please!

Answer 1

A gentle slap around the cheek with a soft glove, give her your card and tell her that your second will be at her service to demand satisfaction at dawn three days hence.

Answer 2

I agree with lovetotalk about the dog situation, the other observation I had was that if garbage has gotten into her yard "several" times whether after a storm or not, you must not be securing your garbage adequately. Get some better garbage cans, and do something nice to apologize for the past inconvience.

While I don't agree with your neighbor's method's of handling these situations, the fact is you did annoy her. Try to be extra friendly, and do whatever you can to keep these sorts of things from happening again and chances are she'll settle down. I wouldn't advice bringing the police into this situation unless you feel threatened because you will still have to live next to this woman.

Answer 3

I would invite her and her family over, if she has a family, for an outdoor bar-b-que and try to find out her background without being too nosey. I would see if I could get an idea of "why" she attcks problems the way she does. Is she an ultra conservative who believes the enemy is hiding under the bushes? Is she a "clean freak" who goes alittle bonkers at the sight of trash?
IF I could get in a friendly conversation, I might bring up the problem of trash and ask her opinion of hwat cold be done about it. IF she's overly anal retentive, she might just not want to talk about it.
Also, that puke might have been from your dog or not. The main thing I'd try to get across, is that I wanted to be good neighbors and enjoy life etc, find out what she wanted and let her know the best way to get it is by stating her opinions but in a friendly way.

If she is totally unresponsive, then you have a problem on your hands. I'd look at it as an anthropological project and maybe lay plans for an 8 foot wooden fence in front of which I'd plant bush cherries or something else that would grow 12 to 15 feet.

Good luck

Answer 4

This person sounds paranoid. While I would be pissed that your friend was parked blocking my mailbox, I'd forgive the storm trash. I would just be a respectful neighbor and keep my **** on my property. I wouldn't give her any reasons to start crap with me, and document every time she complains about something. As for the ringing of the doorbell/baby thing. That's not really something I'd cry about because it's your decision to have a baby, and if you don't want her ringing the doorbell over and over you can disconnect the doorbell. Just be honest with yourself on how your family acts, because there is always two sides, and sometimes we don't see how our behavior effects others.

While it was great that you "gladly" picked up your dog's poop. It should have Never happened. A responsible neighbor/dog owner, especially a neighbor having issues with the other, would never have their dog on the other person's yard.

Answer 5

she may be just trying to get attention from anyone good or bad. If you have someone in charge of those town houses you might complain there to see what they say or if you can afford it I would consider a fence as tall as permitted between the two homes.- the solid wood ones you can't see through. Talk to the police and see what they suggest as far as restraining order if it goes that far but if you have a townhouse committee perhaps they can mediate and work out a reasonable solution to calm your neighbor and keep her out of your hair.

Answer 6

The next time she comes to your door, call the police. Once they arrive, explain to them that this nutjob is harassing you repeatedly. Talk to them about a No Trespass ticket. In most states, the officer can write one on the spot but will likely warn her that it will be written the next time she comes on your doorstep. Once she receives the ticket and an officer makes it clear to her that she will be arrested the next time it happens, she should leave you alone. If she doesn't, you'll at least have the joy of seeing her handcuffed in the back of the officer's car.

Answer 7

Why don't you try to give her a nice plant either for in or out-doors. Bake some cookies and send a plate over to her with a small note asking here what she think of the recipe. Invite her to a BBQ when you have one. Always be the one who is nice. You may have to live as her neighbor for a long time. If there is a police case between you of a restaining order, you will never havee a rest from her.................

Answer 8

What a jerk! And how ignorant he's of US regulation--one of the crucial "rapid-monitor" ways to U.S. citizenship is to serve within the US army. How historic IS your neighbor? Could he be displaying indicators of dementia (Alzheimer sickness or anything love it)? That regularly makes men and women act in indignant and unacceptable approaches. He must now not be allowed to have pepper spray beneath the occasions, despite the fact that. Since the neighbor sprayed your little boy with pepper spray, you need to document it to the police. They would now not do something however take a document, however a minimum of you're going to have it on list. If it is not suggested, it did not occur, you already know? And it perhaps that your neighbor's spouse is looking forward to the friends (adding you) to behave, on the grounds that she is in denial that he is quite "that unhealthy" or on the grounds that of out of place loyalty to an extended-time husband. Once men and women begin having the ones sorts of signs, they don't get higher spontaneously. There are medicinal drugs that may gradual it down, however they don't give up the development. The faster he is looked at to be certain he is nonetheless in his complete correct brain, the earlier anything can also be performed, or the earlier you already know that he is simply imply and now not senile. Also, being sprayed with pepper spray (oleoresin capsicum) is not any minor ordeal. Being married to a police officer, I used to be given my possess pepper spray to bring for self-safety functions. However, I used to be now not allowed to bring it till I were by way of coaching, which means that I used to be sprayed in a managed atmosphere. Good Lord, that used to be a trial! I might on no account use pepper spray on a man or woman except I used to be beneath chance of physically harn! Your son might now not potentially were a chance to that neighbor that might justify using pepper spray, that's Level Four drive (or simplest 2 stages under lethal drive at the drive continuum--and is for use ONLY while essential to give up an attack).

Answer 9

This woman sounds mentally ill.

Perhaps you need to speak with a police officer and explain the situation, because sooner or later she will probably call the cops on you again. Maybe he could go talk to her and scare her straight. Too bad you are not just renting and can move.

Answer 10

I can completely relate. We have a neighbor that complains about our dogs barking when they only bark when her dogs are at the fence harassing them. We have called the police on her because she threatened us and come to find out there isn't much you can do legally at least. My best advice is to keep doing what you are already doing and try to keep the peace as best as you can. I now just try to stay away from my neighbor and deal with what I have to.