my daughter wont let me see my grandsons.?

Question

i have raised 8 yr old grandson. went to court to get custody. after year and a half. court gave him to her. she is unstable, violent, there has been child abuse and domestic violent in her home. i had a safe, stable, home of privalige. the court said that she is the mother and its in his best interest to live with her. hes afraid of her and does not want to be there. iv'e tried to send the boys gifts and she puts them in a garbage bag and puts them in my drive way. i have been the 8 year olds parent for 8 years, i can't believe they wont let me see him. its feels like a death. the grievfing at times is unbareable. devistaed in ohio

Answer 1

I would document everything that you see her doing that is wrong, also have the boys call your local child services and tell them what shes been doing to them and how she acts. I hope you get your case straighten out.

Answer 2

Well sorry to tell you but in case you forgot the child is not and never was yours. Yes you cared for the child which was a nice act. You were never that childs mother and never will be. Your daughter ( even if she is a few fries short of a happy meal) is the one that pushed the child out. The legal rights are on her side. You are a grandparent not a parent of this child. Even though the legal sytem is not going in your favor (and maybe making a wrong choice) join the club. You and a ton of other people are in the same situation. The mother can do what she wants, she does not have to let you see the child or give the child your gifts. May seem heartless but thats life.

Answer 3

Something wrong there from the start .Where did the problem start with you and your daughter . I understand that this question is about the grand child but when did it stop for you being concerned about your daughter . Out of those 8 years did you try to work with your daughter or was she just wrong in your eyes and forbidden around her children? To me it sounds like a problem between the two of you and now the two of you are using the child as a pawn .

I think the best thing you can do instead of sending the children gifts try sending your daughter gifts . Be a mother to your daughter not your grand kids and help her be a mother to her kids . Cant you see that she is envious because your steeling the children's affections that are really rightfully hers.

Stop the competition its over.

Answer 4

Have to LOVE the US child welfare system. The key is to keep fighting, fighting, fighting. Do not give in. Go down to that child welfare office every single day if you have to. Get your other children, if you have any, to go on "visits" to check on her and your grandson, and have them be willing to testify. I don't know your state's rules, but they need to talk to your grandson as well. This is also a state-by-state ruling, but you may want to look into getting a private investigator to help prove your side.

Is she violent towards anyone else in your family, or just her son? If she is violent towards others, it may be in your best interest to get a few people together, and provoke her (in a way that would not make you seem like the bad guys). Get her to physically lash out, and then you can have her arrested for assault. You will have witnesses. We have a similar relative in our family, and this is one of the ways we were able to get help. It's dangerous, so avoid any place with stairs or sharp objects if you choose this route.

Good luck. The courts here are awful.

Answer 5

Unfortunately maam, children will always go to there parents before grandparents. The court will always pick the parent over the grandparent, since the parents have all the rights. The only thing you can try to do is be nice to your daughter and try to get along eith her so you can see your grandson. Iknow it is hard but you got to do what you got to do. If your thinking of trying to point the finger at your daughter be careful cause they might take your grandson away from everyone and keep him in protective custody.

Answer 6

You can ask the local social welfare service in your place what you can do regarding the case. I think there can be a way for your grandson to stay with you since your daughter is not fit to raise the child. You can plea because you have the best interest for the child. Good luck!

Answer 7

Call DCFS as soon as you see any type of abuse. Unfortunatly they cant do anything without proof or if the child were to speak up and say. If you can contact your Grandson anyway, talk to him see how he feels. Ifs theres abuse then you need to convince him to admit it. Wow, what a tough situation. I cant even imagine how you feel. You must feel torn. Im very sorry to hear. Is there anyone else in the family that can keep checking up on him?? Have you tried DCFS???

Answer 8

She is very cruel and is hurting her children by keeping them away from a loving grandparent. Some states have grandparents laws. Contact the Family Court to see if you have any rights. I would report her to the Child Welfare Services if I thought there was abuse going on in her home. Ask them to interview the children. I am very sorry to hear this.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Well, it's not surprising is it? Given the way your daughter is. She is very disfunctional. You could always try to get grandparents rights, which I am normally against, but in this case you would probably be doing good.

My mom is not allowed to see her grand-daughter and feels it's her right. Except that she hasn't even seen her son, my brother, since he was in his teens and wasn't good to any of us kids. He won't have his daughter around her, and I know exactly where he is coming from.