How do you get an 11 year old girl to do chores?

Answer 1

Give her some insentives.. I am sure at her age there are many things that she wants. So, instead of just getting her them have her work for them.

Answer 2

Good question!!!! My daughter is actually now 12, but motivating her to do chores is next to impossible. She's a really good kid, otherwise, so this is even more frustrating. Her room is always trashed. And she always has one "Saturday chore" that she rotates with her sister..... cleaning the bathroom or mowing the back yard. She puts hers off as long as is humanly possible.

But I think this is a personality thing, more than an age thing. She has always been this way. Her sister, who just barely has turned 11, does her chores without ever even being reminded. In fact, we just finally asked her to wait until at least 9am to begin mowing the back yard. Her room is almost always clean, her cat never goes unfed, and she frequently packs her own lunch for school (and it's even healthy). Go figure!!

Sorry I can't help you. I can only empathize.

Answer 3

Oh honey I been there. I have a daughter who is almost 11 and she is very not happy to do chores. I decided I wasnt going to take her shopping, buy movies or anything else she liked til she learned some responsibility. Kids today take parents for granted. They "expect" video games, movies, make-up, and all the little things in life. So what you can do is set up a points system. My daughter gets 10($1.00) points for taking out the trash,50($5.00) points a week for keeping her room clean, 25($2.50) for helping with dishes and so on. It works unbelievably well. She writes down what she has done, I check it, initial it and at the end of two weeks she has her own money to buy whatever she wants. Depending on your income this is a really good way for the child to learn responsibilty with life and money managment. So good luck, I hope I have helped!

Answer 4

Not too difficult to answer.

You should give your child an allowance IF they do some chores around the house. No chores done - no allowance. Do not buy your daughter non-essential items like CDs, video games, or food from the food courts. Make her earn it. Do not make the allowance too small or too large. Maybe something like $10 a week if she does a couple hours worth of chores.

Answer 5

1. You explain to her that no one in a family gets to do nothing. As a family you work together to keep things running smoothly. She doesn't have a choice. She wasn't born into a palace with maids and other such servants.
2. You tell her that helping out around the house gets done or she does not get the following privilages: watching tv, listening to her music, playing on the computer, going out with friends. This includes birthday parties and the like.

Your daughter is growing up in a generation where many children expect to be catered to and that's just not the way the world works.

Answer 6

Chores are a part of regulation, routine and life. Chores should be a non-debatable topic, and they are expected regularly. Explain to her that if she does not do her chores, she will have priviliges taken away, one by one. ex no phone,tv,computer,friends,desert whatever it takes. Maybe her chores are to hard for her, maybe set her more less challenging ones. I hope this helps, I had this problem with my kids!

Answer 7

You tell her that this is her share of all the things which need to be done in the house, and that not pulling her weight is not an option! And if she still isn't getting them done, you insist that they are done before she does fun things. No TV, no phone, no computer, no going out to play, until she's done whatever it is.

If mine complains that it's not fair, I tell her she can swap with me any time she likes. Since I have WAY more chores than she does (obviously!) that normally does the trick.

Answer 8

when i was 6 i had chores. i didnt question the fact that i had to do it... i just did. and i continued to do them until i moved out of my parents house. I know my dad had ways to make me want to do them- they were very different from my mom. If i didnt clean the cat litter (my cat) the litter box ended up in my room next to my bed so i could smell how gross it was and i would clean it and put it back. If i didnt take care of the dishes i didnt go out to play. it was just that simple. maybe it sounds mean, but it sure taught me that there is an order things need to be done in. my mom tried the bribery and it never worked as well...

Answer 9

The thing is to get them to WANT to do the chores. This is the way they will learn to do so in the future, and it will become habitual behaviour (which is great!).

Now, the thing is to find a way to get them to WANT to do the chores... your guess is as good as mine.

But that's something to think about.

Answer 10

Give her something to motivate her. Some kind of reward at the end of the week if she does it; candy, money, her favorite dinner, something of the sort that she can look forward to.