K i am having series problems at home.I am turning 18 in 3weeks and thats when im gonna get my first car.Anyways my mom had a misscarriage and now she has cancer and herpes.Shes at the edge of dieing and i just applyed for college.With all my family members living in portugal and in the neatherlands there's no one but me to take care of my little brother when my mother dies.How can i solv some of theese problems?
2007-10-14 17:11:41 · 14 answers · asked by domenicathesims2player 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
not much you can do about your moms bad health ...other then just be there for her......your mom may have already taken care of that issue about your brother........I'm surprised with the seriousness of her health she hasn't already talked to you about it.....call the other family members let them know whats going on......have you talked to your brother to see what he would want .....he's going to want to be with you after she dies you are all he's has .....but be prepared if she hasn't made arrangements he's upbringing may fall on you .....you are an adult now......and you may have to make sacrifices that your mom has made for you and your brother all her life
2007-10-14 17:28:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetie, that's terrible news about your mom.
Are you sure she's about to die? Or is this just a fear based on her condition?
I wouldn't be too quick to write her off. There have been lot's of people with serious illnesses like cancer, & have survived, so keep your hopes up, & we'll say some prayers together tonight.
I hope you don't abandon your plans to attend college, even if your mom does pass away. Things might get tough with her gone but if you can finish college, then you will have a better chance at helping your little brother.
You must have made friends if you have lived where you are all of your life. I am sure that you can get lot's of help through friends, or your church, or the community.
Also, with your mom ill, & you going to college, I am sure you will already qualify for some social assistance.
This is not the time for foolish pride, so don't be ashamed to ask for help. You sound to me to be a very deserving young lady so there will be people who will want to help you out any way they can because you are worth it, & so is your little brother, & your mom.
I hope that things get better for you & your family real soon.
2007-10-14 17:30:07 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry your mother is so sick, this has got to be overwhelming for you. Where is your father? Its his responsibility to take care of your brother, and if not him then his parents or your mothers parents. If there is no one, then you will have to find a way to go to school and support him. Call family services and explain the situation and ask for help. What arrangements has your mother made for him?
2007-10-14 17:19:08 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh hun im sorry to hear this, well, what id do if I were you is hold back collage for a while, im not saying dont get your education. that is VERY important, but what im saying is put it off for a little while.
I dont want you to have regrets of not staying back at home and helping your mom when your off at collage, because for the rest of your life ull regret that
also your little brother needs you right now, this is hard on him to
2007-10-14 17:20:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your the only left when yor mother dies sell the house and buy in pourtugal or the netherlands and go to colledge there and relitives can mind your brother through the day otherwise your brother could be put in care or fostered and you could take care of him on the weekends or when you finish colledge
2007-10-15 03:49:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow im soooo sry about ur mom..umm...i dont know how to help u out..the only way is to not really go to college and raise ur brother up..once he is able to take care himself thats when u can start going to college..hope everything turns out fine..
2007-10-15 14:49:36 · answer #6 · answered by tu madre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow....don't leave that brother! Maybe move back to Europe where you will get support from family...bad apples are loved....stubborn people to...it was not of your making this problem ...family should take both of you in!
2007-10-14 17:19:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry to hear about your mom's miscarriage and her sickness =(
contact your relatives in Portugal. tell them your situation and maybe they can help you.
whatever happens, be strong for you and your brother =)
2007-10-14 17:22:40 · answer #8 · answered by Ana Smartypants 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get some family support
2007-10-14 17:35:48 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to college and send your little brother to live with his favorite and most responsible relative or his godparents. check on him whenever you can and visit often
2007-10-14 18:15:17 · answer #10 · answered by Kijin 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋