Im dating this guy and he has things about him I want to change nothing major and not really things that if they didnt change I couldnt deal with, but it got me thinking that maybe he is better off with someone who loves everything about him, I told him that I was thinking that and told him to give me a reason to stay.... and he couldnt give me a reason, I mean I know hes not the best with words. but then later i told him I was hungry and he asked me where I wanted to go and I said I dunno you chose and he got angry how I never choose somewhere even though i was the only one hungry, but when i wanted him to give me a reason to stay, or even when we talk about anything serious he doesnt say anything... whats up with that?
2007-10-14 17:03:08 · 13 answers · asked by Lostandconfussed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This sounds really stupid. Sounds like a low level argument. I'd just try to be positive instead of negative.
2007-10-14 17:08:36 · answer #1 · answered by foofoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first wrong misconception that females have about men is that you can change us. YOU CANNOT. You can make a man's life better-but only they can cahnge themselves. Maybe he gets mad when you tell him to choose because maybe he wants to go WHERE YOU LIKE TO GO-I always got irritated when someone would tell me to choose when Iasked what they wanted to eat(If I cared what I ate-I'd go where I wanted to instead of asking someone else-I want to please...get what I'm saying?). If he doesn't say anything when things get serious-maybe you are the only one who is serious when it comes to this relationship. Something to consider.
2007-10-15 00:11:30 · answer #2 · answered by Shawn G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time you say you're hungry and the guy asks you to choose,go ahead and choose the food and the place.Then observe his reactions.At this point in your relationship.there will be signs whether the 2 of you are compatible. If you are not, drop him.
2007-10-15 00:22:24 · answer #3 · answered by jojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't change him, he was who he is when you met him and you must have seen these things before now. People often make the mistake of entering a relationship with someone with the intention of changing them later and it never works.
2007-10-15 00:22:49 · answer #4 · answered by onyx1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what? how old are you? sound like you're a young couple..its a bunch of blah blah blah that doesnt really make scence. im not sure what you are asking. but if you dont like him for who he is then you need to leave. find someone else that you are going to love him for him. why would you want to stay in a relationship that you both are unhappy? well best of luck.
2007-10-15 00:10:55 · answer #5 · answered by Fit 4 A King 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he wants to make you happy. how long have you two been dating? usualy starters need to know the person.
to men, when a girl says "you choose the place" then we're thinking," ok, where do we go? mc donalds? no too cheap.kfc? too fatty.7 eleven? what am i crazy?" we dont know where to bring you!if he chose a place you didnt like, it would be chaotic.
2007-10-15 00:09:12 · answer #6 · answered by Unavailable for identification 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be that he's so afraid of being alone that he doesn't really wanna think or talk about it. it could be that he just doesn't know how to express himself to u. see if u can get him to communicate another way like writing down what he feels or drawing it something so that u will know. also u have to wanna be there if u dont wanna be there then leave don't string him along.
2007-10-15 00:11:00 · answer #7 · answered by rainababy2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you want to change him and you cant change people, also sounds like you need better communication. um..... if you were the only one hungry it should have been your decision as to where YOU ate, dont put your wants on him, only YOU know what it is you truly want, no one else can make that decision for you
2007-10-15 00:08:29 · answer #8 · answered by aprilkuhl04 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can definately do better than someone who cannot even "Communicate". Trust Me, there are plenty of Men that will appreciate, and fullfill Your Dreams...........
So Stop Messin Around !!
Find Them..........
2007-10-15 00:12:46 · answer #9 · answered by tualome 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm. I don't think I would stay with someone who wanted to change me. I also don't think I would stay with someone who was indecisive.
2007-10-15 00:08:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋