If ur child used drugs or alcohol, what would u do?

Question

Would u pray for them?
Would u talk to them?
Would u yell and scream at them?
Or would u not care?

Believe it or not, alot of parents dont care about what their kids do. Mine does, but my step dad and my mother parents didnt. My step dad even did drugs and stuff when he was younger. Im not a drug user, but im sure there are teens out there who do, thinkin that nobody cares or just gettin with the wrong crowd.

What do u think?

Answer 1

Blessings Little One!! You asked........

Well, as life would have it, I do have a child that uses drugs and alcohol. I have read through the answers that are posted before mine and excuse me, but WTF?!
To Candi, great job on the 18months! Keep coming back! :)

I too am in recovery. By the grace of the divine and the program of a.a., i have not had to have a drink for almost 5 years now.
When i found out about my son, did i pray? yes Did i talk to him about it? yes. Did i yell and scream at him?yes Did i kick his ***? yes, more then once trying to physically restrain him from leaving the house. (my 115lb 5ft5in self went retro on his 6ft3 @sh!)
Did i put him in counseling? yes, from the start.
So, when i see all of these other answers, i am here to tell you that you never know how you will handle the situation until you find yourself in it!
I ended up taking charges for him.....do i care about his life and him ruining it...well of course!
I have educated him from the get go not only on drugs but alcohol, std's, safe sex, hiv etc.....i have found it best to be honest with my son..almost to a fault.
I sent him to boot camp...i took him to AA/NA...i made his life hell, i have called the police, i have drug tested him periodically....the bottem line is that i have done all that i can possibly do....
And he still has a tendancy to go out and use and booze. He now has made a choice to go into job corps...which is an onsight educational program that teaches him a trade and allows him to either get his GED or HS Diploma...whether he fails or succeeds is all up to him....
It is very difficult for a parent, especially when we have exhausted all other measures and there seems to be no way of getting help short of legal intervention...and i am not a great believer in our justice system.

As a parent, i have done my job and have given my son complete and accurate information on all of the ways that using can affect his life...one wrong move and he can be in prison for the next 20years of his life.
This is more then either of my parents did for me....nobody educated me on anything and they both acted as if any subject that was uncomfortable for them, was just taboo...

So what do i think? I think that i have provided my son with all of the tools he needs to live life on lifes terms...now i just have to practice acceptance and know that i am powerless over his choices....and allow him to walk his own path. While i do my best to continue to be a walking example of sobriety.

Blessings Little One...i am glad that you do not choose to use.

Blessed Be
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Trinity

Answer 2

If my kid did drugs I would be very disappointed. I would be disappointed in him/her, but I'd mostly be disappointed in myself for letting them make the same mistakes that I did.

I wouldn't pray (atheist), but I would talk to them and be very honest about the reasons why they shouldn't do them. I do have first hand experience of the negative effects, after all.

I have a friend whose parents did drugs and drank constantly. They didn't LIKE him taking after them, but they let him anyway (amidst feeble attempts to discourage). To this day he still wakes up to a Hurricane (for those that don't know, it's a big-***, 40ounce beer) every morning, and he's miserable. Most of everything he ever talked about when he was a teenager was killing himself.

And having been in the drug and alcohol scene myself, I know of much more than that little bit of tribulation that can and has happened.

If I couldn't keep my kids from going down the same road, I would see that as MY failure, and I would do everything within reason to correct it.

To be fair, though, there are people who can function fine on drugs (the more mild ones). These people are happy and effective, even if many of them lack any motivation to do anything interesting/fun/cool with their lives, and there's no reason why their drugs shouldn't be legal. After all, their lives are already just as they want them in most cases. They can work, they can do their drugs, they can live mostly normal lives. Besides, people who smoke marijuana aren't nearly as dangerous to society as alcoholics. But that's not what I want for me or my kids.

Answer 3

Of the four choices you gave us to choose from the only logical one would be to talk to them. I had to do this and while it was not an instant fix, eventually she stopped using. I give a lot of the credit to her current fiance who never did drugs and discussed the situation with me. As a former user, I had some experience in this matter that was of some help. I know drugs are not good for a body or mind, but I don't think keeping them illegal is the answer. If anything, it is exasperating the problem.

Answer 4

first, how old is the child? to some, it wouldnt matter, as they believe drugs and alcohol are bad for everyone. to others, they might feel that if the child is old enough and responsible enough, that their use of drugs and alcohol is their choice.

second, where does the child live? in some countries, children drink alcohol at meals. everywhere in the world, including the US, children take drugs.

third, what kinds of drugs are you referring to? does medicine count, or just illegal drugs?

prayer does nothing.

i would talk to them about the dangers of abusing drugs and alcohol. i would let them know the consequences of taking too much. when they have the information and know the consequences of their actions, then the decision would be left to them.

yelling and screaming does nothing to prevent the use of drugs and alcohol. in my opinion, they only increase the use.

not caring is another reason for the use of drugs and alcohol. not a good idea, either.

yes, i believe that many parents dont care about their children or what their children do. these parents should not have had children in the first place. adoption is better than just letting children try to survive by themselves.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Well as a teenager, my opinion (after hearing from friends their situations about this) I think you should first talk to your child explaining to them how this could affect their school work, social life, etc. Tell them that it can affect their health. The last thing a kid wants is you to yell at them. We live and we learn. We are only kids once and you were there at one point correct? Speak to him/her, pray for them. If their drug use continues, send them to counseling and get as much help as you can.

Answer 7

I would probably scream first. Then scream again. Then talk to them and then pray for them and myself. Find some supportive literature to provide experiences that referrence as to what happens when ppl use drugs.

Answer 8

Talk to them have a intervention then off to rehab for them. There are goons u can hire to take relatives to rehab. Dr. Phil had some hired to take a fellow with ugly teeth on drugs.
Anyway thats what I would do if I had children.

Answer 9

I would force them to read allot of diaries of druggies, like "go ask alice" and "Diary of a Drug Fiend" think they should atleast know what they are getting into.

I don't think they would be listening to me in the first place if they started using drugs so I would use books...interesting books.

Answer 10

Depends on what it is. Most likely, I'll talk to him. Screaming is for idiots who can't reason their way out of a box, praying is impotent, and not caring is heartless.