my dad died?

Question

i am 11 my dad shot himself in the head should i go to his funeral? i dont want to i am mad at him

Answer 1

Oh my God Kady! I am so sorry that your dad did that.
It was so unfair. He had no right.
You have a perfect right to be mad at him.

But go to the funeral. It will help you a little with the grieving process. You can still go to the funeral, & still be mad at him.
Funerals are for getting emotions out, & anger is definately a valid emotion in this situation.
You can even stand right over his coffin & tell him directly what a sh*tty thing he did by killing himself.
No one will blame you for it.

No matter what you do, by going to the funeral, you will speed up the healing for yourself.
Take care, & surround yourself with the ones who love you, & don't feel guilty about your anger, you have a right to be.

Answer 2

Sorry about your news.
Its a tough situation. But right now you are going through this thing called the grieving process. And part of being angry is part of the feeling sad process.
Eventually the angry feeling will go away, and eventually you will be able to look back at your dad and have a better understanding as to why he shot himself. He probably had some problems that he thought he couldnt solve, so he decided that life would be better for everyone if he wasnt there. Even tho its not true! And that you need him there with you, and he should be there for you and he should have been able to make things better. But he couldnt and he did what he thought was right.
Someday you might be able to forgive him, but right now you need to support your mom and you should go to the funeral to say goodbye. This is something you need to do for yourself and to start the healing process.

Answer 3

I'm sorry this happened to you. You didn't cause it and its really normal to be angry. Your mom should make sure you get to talk to someone about this so they can teach you how to cope. Just remember that it wasn't about you, its not your fault at all.

Your dad is not at his funeral, just maybe his remains, maybe not. Funerals are for the living, they are a chance to share sadness and anger and maybe some good things too. You should go to be with your family, so you can tell them how mad you are. I bet they are too.

Your dad did a stupid thing while he was in a very bad state of mind. It was selfish and stupid but there isn't anything you can do about it. Your dad did some good things, he made you and my guess is that you are a very special kid and your mom needs you right now. Go and be with her.

Answer 4

i'm so sorry to hear your dad died. being mad at him is normal and it may take a long time for the anger to go away. but, it will be too late to attend his funeral then. so, i suggest you go now. going through a funeral is an important part of grieving your dad's death. regardless of how he died, he was still your dad and i assume someone you loved very much. go to the funeral, honor him for everything he did for you and say good bye to him.
then, it's all about you. you need to take care of yourself, which means dealing with all the feelings that will come along. It's not easy being 11, and not having your dad around will not make it any easier. make sure to talk to someone about your feelings.

Answer 5

I am sorry to your dad died. I am sure the way he died does not help you feel any better. Go to your dad's funeral. You will regret it later, if you don't attend. You would want to see him for the last time. You must know that regardless of your dad's problems, he loved you. Cherish his love and remember him always. Please go to his funeral and as strange as this may sound, tell him silently, how you feel about him leaving you. You will feel better in time to come. If you can talk with your Mom, school counselor or Priest. My prayers go out to you.

Answer 6

You should go cause if you don't you will most likely regret it. You might be mad at him and you have a reason to be, but going to his funeral will be the last time you see him. You have your whole life to be mad at him.

Answer 7

yeah you should go this is the last time you will be able to see your dad, you should not be mad at him maybe you just don't know the reason why he did that, this is the last time YOu'll going to be with your dad and the rest of your life he is not, so think about it or you sure regret it soon

Answer 8

i am so sorry i am 12 years old i would go to the furneal even though your mad at him because you might regret it later. i am really sorry. but think that is ur only dad and you should do the right thing. why are you mad him, if u can't talk about it i understand?

Answer 9

its normal for you to mad and hate what he did....that doesn't mean you hate him......I think you should go so that later....you wont have any regrets ....and you wont be mad at yourself for not going.....sorry to say but its going to hurt for a while.....its going to be hard trying to stay focus on school , your friends and all the other normal routine you do.....your mom needs and should get you guys some counseling....and when she does go don't be ashamed to let the person know everything going on with you.....that's what they are there for.....my brother just recently passed and I maybe having a hard time with his loss.......but its nothing compared to what his daughter is going thou.....she's been in counseling for 2 weeks and seems a little better......my prayers are with you and your family......and I am truly sorry for your loss .....hang in there

Answer 10

dont be mad at him go to his funeral because even if your mad he was still your father and he would want you there because he loved you