Do girls REALLY want honesty?

Question

I've had four relationships in the past year, none of them lasted more than a few weeks, and there was never any real reason for the breakup, we usually just sort of drift apart. I often receive the compliment that I am a gentleman, that I'm courteous, chivalrous, sensitive, and that I'm cute. I've always heard women/girls say that they want a gentleman, someone who will be sensitive and honest with them, unlike all the other jerks that just want to get in their pants. Granted, I did keep unnecessary things to myself, but if asked questions regarding the two of us, I tell the truth.

Basically my question is: Do girls want a guy that will have the respect for them to tell them the truth, provided that he is asked a sensible question? Or do they just want someone who will tell them what they want to hear, regardless of whether it's true or not? Personally, I'd rather be respected than have someone kiss up to me. Anyone want to make sense of this?

Answer 1

I realize that I can be quite the cold individual, which is why I'm glad that my boyfriend doesn't sugarcoat everything. True, beating around the bush is something that I catch myself doing every now and again, but I'm known for getting right to the point-which saves us all the breath [hey, global warming is still a problem, I'm only helping out by sparing the carbon dioxide!]

Anyways, now that I'm completed with my example of 'beating around the bush' [or whatever that last paragraph was], I would want someone who told me straight out that I need to put a sweater on, or that I need to just calm down. But when it comes to the fact that I look fat in that dress? You best hold your tongue because the knowledge of a girl's sensitivity is something NOT to be toyed with.

So, the real question is-can you still be considered a gentleman and tell the truth at the same time?

Realalistic answer: No.

Answer 2

Well first, you have to find a girl that wants a guy like you- some girls will take advantage of it, in the long run, they are the ones that made the mistake of not getting to know you more and staying with you, girls like respect, but you deserve the same amount back. Don't just tell a girl what they want to hear, when they want to know something, tell them the absolute truth, they will respect you for that. I would love to have a guy that is a gentlemen, and i can see that that is the kind of guy that i want to be with. Get to know a really honest fun loving girl, that you know you could be with for a while and be happy with

Answer 3

I personally want the truth regardless of what it is. I know I can deal with the truth and move past it than listen to a lie and try to figure out why there is such disrespect.
For some women who have been through the ringer they would prefer the lies. My theory is because they are so use to it they know what to expect and how to deal.
Don't change! Don't change for anyone. Those other girls were not the right one for you and when she comes along she will love you and respect you for the way you are!
I wish you the best of luck in your search. Remember the other ones were not worth it!

Answer 4

It really depends on the girl. I have been through a few long relationships and they were not honest with me at all. In a relationship honesty is everything. Without it the relationship can not grow and progress. I think you just haven't met your special someone. Stay true to yourself. Never tell someone "what they want to hear" to save an argument. Be Honest. It's the most important thing in ANY relationship. Good luck in the future but remember always be true to who you are and what you feel. Never change to please another person because you will be unhappy with yourself.

Answer 5

I would go for honesty, I think the girls you met before were all immature and did not deserve you. My husband met a bunch of girls like that before marrying me, and I am happy they diddn't appreciate him because I was able to meet him this way. One thing is true though, if the truth must be said we girls want it said in a thoughtful way, for example instead of saying "you are dressed terribly tonight" say "I think your red dress will really bring out your stunning beauty". If the truth hurts therefore try to make it hurt at least as possible. Please do not try to change, it will hurt you and the others that will perceive you. Nice guys are precious and precious women will be the ones to deserve you. One day or another you will meet one, just do not give up.

Answer 6

Girls often want what they can't have and if you are being a gentleman than they want the "bad boy". As far as you telling the truth when asked a question...I want to hear the truth but maybe the girls you have dated don't OR maybe your phrasing, tone are a little harsh or you have some other implication that makes you sound harsh.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Girls want honesty when the issue does not deal directly with them. I.E.: Do I look fat? NO Does my butt look big? NO < If she is questioning anything that doesn't have to do with her self or family or friends, be totally honest about the situation. good luck!!

Answer 9

You can't lump all women into the same group. When I hear a woman decsribe the man she wants as a gentleman, my reaction is to wait and watch. Often she ends up with a guy that treats her like absolute crap and professes to be madly in love with him.....for about a year! then she is back saying that she is again looking for a gentleman.

Answer 10

Girls think they want honesty, but that only goes for what they believe in their mind - what they really want is agreement with what they are thinking (and, you're supposed to know what they are thinking all the time, regardless of what they are actually saying).
You'll be better off in life "kissing up" to women though, I have to tell you.
Regardless of what they say, honest women will tell you 1. They want to be made to feel right and 2. Don't be too "nice" to them - well...this should stir the pot....