how do i ask my dad for therapy?

Question

I'm 18, so i should be able to do this, but I've been through a lot this summer. My mom walked out, i found out i cant have kids, my sister had an abortion, I found out my step-sister hates me when she pretended to be my friend for years, i moved away from all my friends, and started college at a place i hate with the roommate from hell. I want to ask my dad if i could go into therapy just so i have someone to talk to and give me actual advice. But he's really hard to talk to . Any ideas as to how to go about it?

I dont have any grandparents to talk to. i only have one g-ma still alive and she thinks my mom is God's gift to humanity. I talk to my friends, but they can't exactly give me valid advice. Their hearts are in the right place but they dont always know how to help.

the counselor at my school is a d-bag and seems to think i dont have any "real" problems. It's probably just my menstrual cycle. Oh man! why didnt i think about that? all my problems come from the demon of female menstruation! thank you, you sexist pig.

Answer 1

if i were you i would be like "daddy, could i talk to you? im going threw a hard time and i just need someone to talk to" try that. good luck!

Answer 2

You have alot of things on your plate, I can understand why you are angry. However you are an adult now, and you need to help yourself. You are probably on your dad's health insurance, you don't need his permission to seek counseling. You can either contact your primary doctor(if you need a referral)and ask for the name of a counselor, or you can go someone on campus. The advisor might not be the right person, you might want to contact student health and ask to speak to a counselor.

My daughter choose a school that was very far away from us so that she could get away from her problems. It was horrible, some of it was her fault but some of it (1st sem of college was Sept 2001) wasn't her fault. She came home at the end of the first semester and went to the Jr. College for two years while she got her act together. You might want to consider that. There is no reason to stay at a school you hate, and having the roomate from hell doesn't help. My guess is you haven't been the most wonderful person to be around either.

Help yourself, you can find customer service on the back of your insurance card, you can call them and ask if you need a referral, how many visits do you have for mental health and what your co-pay is. Or you can make an appointment at Student Health and tell them what's happening. Your situation isn't uncommon for the first sem, alot of kids wind up coming home. No shame in not being ready or for having choose the wrong school, but you have to help yourself.

We have a saying in our family, life sucks and then you die. There can be a long time between the life sucking part and death. You have to learn to cope and you have to learn to move forward. You can't control other people, only yourself. I'm really sorry these bad things have happened to you, I'll bet you are a very nice person and didn't do anything to deserve it. Get yourself some help, you are on the right path. Best wishes.

Answer 3

Do you have a personal counseling department at your college? Go there. If the douche-bag is in personal counseling, ask for someone else ... a woman perhaps or a guy who doesn't have his head up his butt.

You might just have a heart-to-heart talk with Dad as well. Tell him you have something really personal to talk with him about and ask if you and he could go for coffee or just take a walk. And then just lay it on the line.
Don't hold back .... if you feel like crying ... let it go. Dad's usually rise to the occasion, I've found.

You might also consider going to a clergyperson/pastor if you have one. And he/she might be able to help w/ dad.

Answer 4

Now that you're in high school and being around your peers and those changes that happen, it's understandable that anxiety would kick in. I too was like that. I did go to therapy and it was very helpful to have someone objective listening to me and giving me gentle advice. I'd just wait for a moment when you feel comfortable with your dad (maybe over dinner, maybe on a walk, maybe in the car) and tell him what you told us. That you feel you need help. And for someone like you who feels paranoid and social handicaps, etc. I suggest reading books by abraham-hicks. They helped me a lot.

Answer 5

When you ask your dad, do not use the word "Therapy".

Just simply tell your dad that you want to talk to a counselor for advice. Actually, most colleges have counselors there for students to go talk to... have you tried that???

Answer 6

Well if you share with him all the stuff you just did here with us, I think he would be convinced that you would benefit from some therapy.

Are there councellors at the school you are attending?
Maybe you could get some assistance so that you don't even have to ask your dad.

Answer 7

talk to some friends, and some grandparents, and ask your dad very nicelyt if u can go to therapy. you can ask me too cause i am going threw some stuff to. good luck!

Answer 8

Come straight out and ask him, I know this WILL be hard but sometimes you have to just face your fears, beating around the bush just delay's the problem, not fix it.

Answer 9

Say, Dad you are from father and I love but as my father I really need your help, please! I feel that I need this therapy! And then if its goes thro you tell, that the Therapyeds will, be in touch, to let know of your out come of your meeting, and go from the but say Dad am beening ,honest with I need your help! Please!!!

Answer 10

you don't need to ask your dad, your college should have a counseling center. call them tomorrow and ask for an appointment.