Is it more important to:
a) Follow tradition and listen to what people tell you to make them happy and foster inter-family harmony?
-or-
b) Break tradition and do what you want to to make yourself happy?
This question applies exclusively to issues of keeping one's religion.
thanks
2007-10-14 16:33:12 · 9 answers · asked by Angad 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
The answer lies somewhere in the middle. All adults have to make their own life and find their own happiness, but being respectful of the traditions and values of your parents and family is important too. Even if you choose to break away from tradition, if you are kind and respectful to your family about it, this will go a long way towards keeping the peace. Parents understand that their children will grow up and make their own decisions. They might not like your decision, but if you remain respectful, they will accept it.
2007-10-14 16:39:37 · answer #1 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are several variables that you have not provided in order to give an accurate answer, nevertheless, I would say that generally, if you are young and your parents (or whoever's opinion you're concerned with) are in good health, then usually telling them the truth about your beliefs would prove to be the best course of action. If they take it especially hard, you might add that you could change your mind someday, but for now, this is how you feel. It would be nice if they respect your rights, but don't expect them to and don't be dismayed if they don't. It's your life. You are the one who ultimately has to live it.
2007-10-14 23:46:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how close you are to your family and how much tradition plays a part in your family's social life. I'd break tradition in your life, and them maybe pay lip service to the family's tradition while with them.
2007-10-14 23:37:56 · answer #3 · answered by Pirate AM™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(c) Examine tradition critically. Understand its underlying meaning, purposes and historical context. If the context has changed then don't be afraid to discard traditions if they are no longer meaningful or no longer enhance human happiness - your own and that of other people.
2007-10-14 23:39:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must do what you personally feel is right for you.
All of my (many) siblings left the faith of our childhood and joined non-denominational churches. My mother turned out to be ok with that.
If you are an adult, you have the right to make these decisions for yourself. Period.
2007-10-14 23:39:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will b) actually make you happier once you factor in the family strife that will result? If so, then b) is the more ethical choice.
2007-10-14 23:36:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't have to be either/or. You must pick your battles and also be willing to accept the consequences of either decision.
2007-10-14 23:49:45 · answer #7 · answered by Prof Fruitcake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are the one that has to live your life not them do what makes you happy
2007-10-14 23:39:13 · answer #8 · answered by djominous20 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." ~ Dr. Suess
2007-10-14 23:36:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋