cant flirt?

Question

i am really frustrated at myself right now.
i cant seem to FLIRT! Everytime a guy starts flirting with me, i accidentally push him away, because i dont know what to do or say, i just like smile and look down. i really want to flirt back to keep the conversation going, but i keep giving them the wrong message and they back off.
theres a guy i like, and he flirts with me all the time. he recently started backing off because i made him think i dont like him.
help me???? all i need to know is what to do, then i wont be so nervous.

you dont need to tell me confidence is the key, because i know that. but if i had something to be confident about like the skill to flirt, then i will be fine.

help???

im NOT just telling him i like him for these reasons-

-hes one grade above me, (most of his friends hate me for some reason, probably cuz there all jerks, but HES not!)
-im trying to get this across to him through flirting, not just acting like i dont like him then saying i like you!

Answer 1

Its simple.
After he sais something to you.... Wait 3secs before saying anything.
You will seem more mysterious and actually more intelligent. It will also give you a little time to think about what you are going to say.
If you have no idea what to say... Just say the same thing he said to you but as a question. Like you are asking him what he means or what he is saying?
Try it.
GOOD LUCK!

Answer 2

FLIRTING -->> is a SKILL.

Like building a website . . . or learning how to play the piano . . . flirting is something you just gotta keep practicing before you really "GET IT".

Flirting is what takes you RIGHT UP TO THE FIRST KISS.

Flirting is an ART.
And sometimes you will FAIL.
And sometimes you will SCORE.
You just gotta keep practicing and taking the shot.

But the MOST IMPORTANT thing to remember is that FLIRTING IS THE ART OF --> REACTING.

It's about BEING RECEPTIVE to a man's advances, READY FOR IT and able to give it RIGHT BACK in a fast . . . clever . . . humorous way . . . LACED with romantic, sexual "inuendos".

SEX - in itself - is not "sexy".

Only IMPLIED Sex . . . is "sexy".

Like a tennis game, you have to be able to return the ball with "a killer backhand" if you ever expect to REALLY be "good at the game".

And that's ALL flirting is . . . A GAME!

EXAMPLE:

If a guy says . . . "Nice @ss!"

A BAD FLIRT will get mad, pretend to get all "offended" and go off on HOW "RUDE" he is for even thinking she should respond to that sort of crap. POOF. She just killed it.

But a GREAT flirt will be READY TO REACT. . .

She will SMILE and SAY --> "You BET IT IS!
Thanks for noticing. If you can show me that you are not dumb enough to think a comment like that is a turn-on, then I might let you get a better look at it." (wink and smile)

Then she turns and walks away, laughing her head off.

EXCELLENT.

If you SMILE when you say it,
it doesn't sound like an INSULT.
If you DON'T smile when you say it,
then it means something TOTALLY DIFFERENT.

You follow??

You want to communicate that you can REACT and RETURN any attempt at flirting as if you SAW IT COMING and were READY for it.

If you DON'T . . . it FAILS.

This comes with having the confidence to look him in the eye and "get a verbal rally going" JUST LIKE a tennis game.

The KEY is . . . to BUILD ANTICIPATION.
When flirting . . . ANTICIPATION is EVERYTHING.

When two tennis players rally back and forth . . . tension and excitement builds. When the person who SERVES an ACE doesn't get the ball returned properly, "the game" is a DOWNER.

Watch Harrison Ford and Kate Capshaw in INDIANA JONES (And the Temple of Doom). . . . when he brings an apple to her room.

THAT's flirting.

• James Bond Movies are LOADED with flirting.
• Sam and Diane in the TV show 'Cheers'.
• Brad and Angelina in 'Mr. and Mrs. Smith'.

Study. Watch. And LEARN.

:)

Answer 3

Confidence has nothing to do with flirtting. If you like the guy and you feel that he likes you all you have to do is be yourself. Go with the flow,keep your mind on the conversation,answer the questions but just be yourself. If that pushes the guy away from you then he is not the guy for you.

Answer 4

Just pretend that you are casually talking to a friend. Talk about the recent test or about what is going on at school( if you are that age.) Just stay calm and remember that he is just a person like your close friend. You can even practice a conversation with your friend. And what ever you do DON'T LOOK DOWN!!!!Always keep looking him straight in the eye. And remember be yourself.GOOD LUCK!!!!!

Answer 5

I could never flirt either, it's not me. Just tell them you are shy and you are not the flirting kind, but are interested in what they have to say. Maybe smile a little and act interested in what they are saying.

Answer 6

Flirting is simply an interaction between people with some edgy content, hopes, or connotations,
Try this tell him the truth,
"you know I"m not that good at flirting but I'm trying to with you"
if thats not decent flirting I don't know what is.
I flirt with my wife all the time.
Good Luck and God BLess

Answer 7

Try looking up and say that you are shy to the guy. By admiting it I think u 'll see things melting away. And say maybe something about an activity you would like to do

Answer 8

Well ok mabey im a guy but when i asked out my girlfriend we were just fliting if he thinks you dont like him dont be a chicken tell him it is hard though!Just try blabing on and on to him about things like places in the world personal information ask his information and animals and vacations and he should have no choice but to listen noing guys wich i am one and i know what thats like when girls act like that i cant stop listening!:) Hop i helped!:)

Answer 9

I'm by no means an expert, but maybe your just putting him on a pedestal, keep the conversation going with him, for example what, when, how, where, and why and maybe he will know that you are interested.

hope this helps

Answer 10

just be friendly.. flirting is supposed to be fun.. Just joke around with him... smile alot... just be friendly, happy and make it easy for him to talk to you.. guys back off when they dont get a good responce from girls.. because they think the girls not interested in them...