I play piano and sing quite well so i have been told. I have friend that is about to get married and he wanted me to sing his wedding vows for him, since he was really never good with expressing himself. If you are familiar with the Jamie Foxx show, he wants me to sing the "Wedding Vows" song which fits perfectly. My only objection is that, i don't feel right because I feel that it is his moment to express himself. Ladies if you were the bride, how would you feel?
2007-10-14 16:27:46 · 32 answers · asked by Paktown 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I wouldn't like it.
2007-10-14 16:31:06 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
First of all I would not like it in the least bit. I want the man I'm marrying to acknowledge it verbally to me himself.
Secondly, I'm not sure an officiant will allow it. The persons marrying need to speak those vows in order to have it be a 'legal' marriage, I think.
Thirdly, even if he's uneasy with expressing himself,he needs to get over it for one day - this is his wedding to the woman he supposedly loves.
While I am sure he appreciates that you may be willing to do it for him, you'd be doing him a bigger favor by declining.
2007-10-14 16:40:13 · answer #2 · answered by Cory C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wedding is the time for him to start to begin to learn how to express himself. The vows are promises between husband and wife. They are sacred.
Save the song for after the vows.
2007-10-14 16:38:46 · answer #3 · answered by skid porpoise 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's great that he wants you to sing but anything but the vows. I think it does not count as taking the vow if you don't say it yourself. Does your friend really want to get married? If so, perhaps you can help him find a way to express himself. Even if it's poorly done, it's better than it being done by someone else.
2007-10-14 16:34:59 · answer #4 · answered by racinebigred 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi. Ummmm...I've never heard of that. To be quite honest, I think legally something HAS to be said by both the bride and the groom. Most weddings I go to, they just repeat it after the minister/priest.....it's no big deal. I was married at 21 and very shy....but I memorized my vows and said them! I can't believe I did that!!
Sing and play the piano....I love the piano....but tell your friend it needs to be something other than the vows. He really NEEDS to say them to his bride.
2007-10-14 17:10:25 · answer #5 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He definately needs to say his vows himself. I would be ticked if my hubby had wriggled out of saying his own vows.
If I were you I would ask his bride to be how she would feel and depending on what she says, you may want to offer to sing something else for the wedding as an alternative.
2007-10-14 16:39:51 · answer #6 · answered by meglet628 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to play the piano and let HIM sing. Get together a few times before the wedding and rehearse. Any bozo can sing a little, even if it is horriible. Use a digital pitch corrector on the microphone if you really want to do it right.
2007-10-15 16:09:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not like it at all. what the heck is the matter with him?! having his friend sing his vows?!? oh gosh.. Its wayyyyy more meaningful for him to say his own vows since he has a hard time expressing himself.
2007-10-14 17:47:54 · answer #8 · answered by tina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The groom needs to say his own vows. If he likes the song that much, he could quote from it and then ask you to sing the song at his reception.
2007-10-14 18:13:23 · answer #9 · answered by Damsel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I want my man to say his wedding vows by himself like a big boy.
2007-10-14 16:35:28 · answer #10 · answered by Breeze 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's his vows, if he doesn't say them (or sing them) then he is not actually making that commitment to his wife to be, you would be making that commitment to her and that is not right. I would not like someone else to have said (or sung) the vows to me, it meant everything to me to hear my hubby say those words. i don't think this is appropriate at all. I know in England UK that would not even make the marriage legal.
2007-10-14 20:04:59 · answer #11 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋