Any thoughts on having a reception/party for friends and family the following year? We couldn't figure out a way to involve friends and family without it costing, which is why we're eloping- but we wanted to formalize it somehow- we are sending out announcement cards after the elopement- it was the least we thought we should do.....
2007-10-14 16:25:39 · 14 answers · asked by **leigh** 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Maybe I shouldnt call it "eloping".... it's not a secret to family that we're doing it.... just so happens that all family is all over the country and planning a real wedding would be too involved....
2007-10-14 16:44:22 · update #1
I just thought of the idea to video tape the wedding and send it out to family and friends with the announcements as a way to let them into your special day. Just an idea. Best wishes to you and your fiance!
2007-10-14 17:02:55 · answer #1 · answered by graylightening 1 · 4⤊ 5⤋
I'm amazed at how many people don't think that eloping is having a wedding, it IS having a wedding, you still say your vows to each other and that is the actual wedding bit. As for the party then yes, why not have a party on your first anniversary, it gives people a year's notice so they can organise travel from where ever they live, I say have the party to celebrate your first year together.
2007-10-14 20:09:55 · answer #2 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Wonderful idea. Perhaps you can hire a professional videographer to capture the ceremony then during the reception (after a slide show showing you two growing up and together as a couple) show the ceremony to everyone. This way everyone who wasn't there (but wished they could have been) can see it!
2007-10-15 09:58:51 · answer #3 · answered by Jasmine808 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a fun time. Go and have fun at a wedding destination. Then come back and have a party a few weeks later. Good luck.
2007-10-15 01:28:06 · answer #4 · answered by navywife_2001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you're not eloping. You may be getting married privately. The only way to have a delayed reception is to have it within a month of the wedding. Remember to put "No gifts, please", since these people were not invited to the ceremony.
Good luck.
2007-10-14 21:09:42 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't wait a year. If you're getting married in November, plan early December a "reception" / holiday party. We got maried the Saturday after Christmas.... every 5th year we have our anniversary party early.
2007-10-14 19:04:42 · answer #6 · answered by Asked and Answered 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you have a good plan. i think its a wise choice, as you say family is scattered across the country and this saves them, as well as yourself, the huge expenses involved in weddings and travel, etc.
send your family and your friends cards announcing your marriage, be sure to enclose a handwritten note telling them that you hope to have a get together in the near future, and send along a photo of the two of you on your wedding day - whether it be in vegas, or your hometown, whether you are dressed in wedding finery or blue jeans, folks will be pleased to receive a photo of the two of you on your wedding day. the handwritten note and photo will make the announcement all the more personal and less of a sting to their feelings.
good luck to you
may your marriage be long and joyous!
2007-10-14 19:02:09 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I didn't have a wedding either, we just went and got married we told everybody as we saw them we got married, never formalized it either, we were on a tight budget and knew we wanted to marry and not wait till we had the funds, having a wedding doesn't make a marriage it's what you put into it!!!, all went well it will be 30 years in December........good luck!!!!!
2007-10-14 16:37:59 · answer #8 · answered by Greeneyes 6 · 10⤊ 0⤋
I think a party on your one year anniversary would be great! Also, the announcement cards are ideal. Please include a picture of the two of you together. (preferably at the ceremony, or on the same day)
Also, by eloping you won't get any wedding gifts. I know that sounds self-evident but there have been several questions posted on here about that. However, if you do get a random gift....send a thank you note immediately.
And no you won't break any hearts by eloping. Some people get their panties in a bunch, but broken hearts....no.
2007-10-14 16:37:42 · answer #9 · answered by Poppet 7 · 3⤊ 6⤋
Hi.
I think a year is too long. It would be better to have something a month or two later....but any later than that would be odd.
If you wait a whole year, you will simply have to have an anniversary party. Good idea with the announcement cards.
2007-10-14 16:36:58 · answer #10 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 3⤊ 7⤋