i have a bf right now, and i love him so much, were both 18, im a virgin so im not really ready to give this up. but i promised him that after our college graduation in 2 and a half years, i`d give this as a gift. that is, if he`ll last.
anyway, i was talkin to him today when he stumbled on some questions about my ex. so i told him the truth about what me and my ex did, (my ex touched my breast, well thats the farthest thing we did). then my bf said that he was disappointed..so i asked "if i wasnt a virgin anymore, would you leave me?" then he said "probably"...
i dont know..im a little confused, i dont think he loves me that much to accept me if i wasnt a virgin..
p.s.
i told him that the after graduation thing is off.
2007-10-14 16:16:21 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
to someone who asked, no..he`s not a virgin.
2007-10-14 17:11:53 · update #1
Be proud of yourself!! What a great accomplishment these days!! I think he's upset thinking that you may have lied to him and/or that he wouldn't be your "first" (if you know what I mean)...for some reason, guys take great pride/joy in that!!
Please though, don't feel like you have to give it to him just bc he's "lasted or waited" so long for you!!
How special to wait til your wedding night? Think about it...you can do it!! :)
2007-10-14 16:22:16 · answer #1 · answered by bessiedarlin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't lose your virginity as a gift to someone else, especially this guy. I think you would truly regret that. When you have sex for the time it should be something you want to SHARE with someone you really care about (and he cares about you the same). There should never be any giving or taking here.
As for your boyfriend, you should consider leaving him. There are so many other wonderful guys out there that will love you no matter if you're a virgin or not. There are guys that will love you just the way you are, and you deserve nothing less. You are a very beautiful and special girl who will be with a wonderful young man. Take care of yourself!!
2007-10-14 23:22:36 · answer #2 · answered by cagewalker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A real man will take you in as you are.. which is a virgin. Truth is that in this fast paced society for you to have lasted soooo long as a V thats something special. So it sucks to lose it just like that to just anyone that wasnt special.
I'm not a V i lost it you and i don't regret the experience (i love sex) but i do regret the guy i did it with. So i hope that doens't happen to you.
2007-10-14 23:23:16 · answer #3 · answered by LLovely LLeslie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey if your not ready to give it up dont. Im still a virgin waitin for marriage. The only way to find if he loves u is time. If he keeps bringin up the issue of sex its not luv its lust. But if he respects the fact your a virgin an yall are still dating for while then yeah i beleive its love. Right now hes a little upset cause u said no sex. Stand strong. Wait for marriage. I beleive n u gurl!
2007-10-14 23:27:16 · answer #4 · answered by On a mission 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, your virginity is way too precious to give it as a 'gift' to anyone but your future husband. It sounds like something that you value and you need to hold on to those beliefs.
You are beautiful and special the way you are. And you're only 18. This is something that can impact the rest of your life. Take it from one who's been there.
2007-10-14 23:22:27 · answer #5 · answered by Nika 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that guy is a jerk.....if he love u because of ur promise to him and that u are a virgin....that means he don;t really love u and he is not mature enough to be in a relationship....my ex was a little disappointed when i lied to him that i'm not a virgin anymore....he tried to have sex with me when i was sleeping one day and i slapped him and that marks the end of our relationship.....after breaking with him, he still told me that he love me a lot and that he would never leave me but my best friend saw him hugging and kissing another girl at the shopping mall.....i'm glad i left him......i'm not saying that u should break with him but please be careful not to be cheated by him if he is really a bad guy......maybe ur bf said probably because he is not mature enough....maybe if he gets older he will straighten out his thoughts....my final sentence is that you should be careful and not to give in to him(sex) even if one day he shows that he love u a lot.....unless u are married....coz u never know what he is thinking.....if he really love u...he wouldn;t force u.... :) good luck and take care
2007-10-14 23:29:39 · answer #6 · answered by neen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In any relationship it should have a respect and your decision is after graduation if he can't wait for that, well sorry for him you must find another guy who really love you and willing to wait for the right time and besides if times permit no need to talk about that but it happens... no dates...
2007-10-14 23:29:12 · answer #7 · answered by AVALINE C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him the whole thing is off. He is shallow and to him, your value declined at the touch of another man during a time before your boyfriend was your boyfriend.
Your value is supposed to be about who you are. Move on. You are worth SO much more!
2007-10-14 23:21:54 · answer #8 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate hate hate when people associate sex and virginity as hwat they love. does it sound as if the boy really loves u? not relly, he's is in love with popping the cherry, as many men (esp religious ones) are. I was 18 when i lost my viriginty. i used to say, no. i am waiting till marriage, but then i thought, do i want a man marrying me just because he relly wants to pop my cherry? just b/c no one else has been there? or do i want a nman to love me for me, and not my private areas?
so at 18, i had sex with my bf. and we have been together over a yr now. I just didnt want his goal to be teh first one in my pants. I hate it when guys rae like that. If you dont want to have sex dont, and if that is the only reason a guy i swith u, find soemone who loves u for w ho u are, and not ur cherry or being ur first.
2007-10-14 23:22:35 · answer #9 · answered by lirpa 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
just tell him your not ready and you need to know he that loves you and is willing to wait b4 you commit to any thing major that is why you asked him to wait til after graduation...and i think every guy wants to believe their girl is a virgin and never even kiss another guy that is why he said he was disappointed
2007-10-14 23:36:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋