My Q is "why people tend to argue with one another when he/she faces the quarrel but after, blames oneself?

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I mean this seems to be a common phenomenon. Seems when u confront people ahead of u, u r fighting against him; but laterly, when u r calm, ur enemy becomes urself, sth which misers me, hoping some great experiencer would answer.

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Simply put its the nature of aurguing. See you can't argue unless both parties are willing to argue. Same for ANY level of relating. With that said, dependent on how the arguement went, (weather good for you or bad) your going to give yourself credit. So if it goes well for you, your going to feel good, pat yourself on the back. If it goes bad for you, your going to kick yourself in the a**. Its just the fundemental nature of it. Truth be told, we don't need to argue. We only need to debate. But for the most part, espacially when pride or our perceived self-worth is in question, we get pretty upset, immature, and overly-emotional, this would make anyone feel guilty lol.