how should i trian my mom?

Question

my mom is quite strict and i've been training her to let me stop calling her every hour when im at my friends house and ive also made her feel bad for yelling at me for many stupid things and she stopped doing that as much

is this ok for me to do?

or am i becoming too demanding or something?

all these posts...hmmm
wow talk about looking form someone elses view...
well ill try to stop

Answer 1

it depends on how young you are and if you deserve what she's doing or not. parents can be way over-protective, but sometimes it's for a good reason.

i've found the best way to get my parents off my back is talk to them, ask them, or reason with them in the most adult-like manner i can think of. just yelling and whinig shows immaturity and won't get what you want.

Answer 2

Do whatever your Mom asks of you. She has sacrificed more for you than you are able to appreciate right now. Give her a couple years of respect and, yes, obedience.

Before you know it, many years will have passed. Your Mom will die and you will miss her so much. You will be old, then, too, and you will think about the stupid things you contended over with her.

Don't train her, let her train you. Love the hell out of her while you have her.

Answer 3

As a mother of two kids, one of which is now 18, let me just say this: you can't train your mom. If you diss her, she will feel more of a need to try to get through to you. The best way to help her to learn that it isn't healthy to be so overprotective of you, is to show her that you can be trusted. Talk respectfully to her, call her when you go places, even when it's not the time to call, and when you say you'll be home at a certain time, don't be late. These are all things that shows her that you can be trusted and that you are responsible. It also shows her that you have the maturity to be trusted to make wise choices. Granted, it will take her some time to notice this, and she's not likely to stop being overprotective overnight.

I've always tried not to be too protective of my son. We have had many, many big arguments and such through the years. Now, we are very close and have mutual respect. What has helped me to see how I can be the kind of parent that gets to instill my values and beliefs while still allowing my son to make his own choices and to be his own person, was when my son began to communicate to me in a civil and respectful manner. When he did this, we were able to have mature conversations and to present our viewpoints and feelings in a non-adversarial way. I was able to see how my actions made him feel that he was being treated like a child and he was able to see how his actions made me feel that I needed to push my position even more. Once he began to treat me with greater respect, I was able to see that he was becoming more mature and I began to show him trust even when I didn't feel I could trust him fully. As he began to earn and then to keep my trust, I began to trust him more and have been able to relax a lot more. Now, I still worry about him because I'm a mom and that's what we moms do, but I can trust him to make wise choices because he has shown me, respectfully and with maturity, that he is capable of making his own decisions without me micromanaging them. I'd try this approach with your mother and then give her time. She has some difficult habits to unlearn. She's your mother and she is motivated out of love for you. When you begin to see things from her point of view and you show her that you understand her viewpoint, she will begin to see things from your point of view as well. Once that happens, things should go a lot smoother for you.

Answer 4

Your mum calls you every hour because she cares about you. She's not trying to be irritating but just loving and be there for you.

Be nice and kind to her. Talk to her politely. Don't set training or rules for her. She's a mum, and you're her daughter. She knows what's best for you - if you're still a teenager or are still a young adult.

When you get married one day, and have a baby in your hands, I assure you will understand then the meaning of love from your mother.

Just be kind and nice to her and let her call you. Remember, she will be there for you all the time, whereas your friends who might not be there for you all the time.

Hope this helps.

Answer 5

If you want her to quit calling you, then get your cell phone on that program that uses the cell phone to GPS track where you are located on a map on a website... and show her how to use it.

Basically you are proving that you are trustworthy and open... nothing to hide.

Your mom is responsible for you... up until age 18. She needs to know you are not getting into any trouble, and not in any danger. Be patient with her.

Answer 6

First thing.. you cannot train your mom to do anything! You train animals, dogs and even circus animals. Yes... your mom may seem overbearing, but trust me as a father of a 13 year old daughter, it is because we care that we set boundries! And I am sure your mother does it because she loves you very much, and when you are a parent, you worry!

Answer 7

you shouldn't be training your mom!!!
thats horrible..although i know how you feel. i have to call my parents every hour when im out with my friends or whatever..
but she has good intentions.. just show her how responsable you are.. and she will cahnge.. but dont "train" her.. she isn't a dog!! =]]

Answer 8

i did what you did to my dad b/c he was the same way...then my stepmom came in and RUINED EVERY LITTLE BIT of training i did...keep doing what your doing..it worked for me. (just make sure evil stepparents don't get in the way)

Answer 9

what's a trian?