I do not like the fact that she does not lift one finger to help keep the apartment clean. If anything she deliberately leaves piles of shoes and toys everywhere and will not even put her dirty dishes in the dishwasher. It is not as if she is spending quality time with her kid either because he spends his time wondering around making noise. I know that I must move out on my own. I would like to know if I should just throw in the towel and let the place go to hell?
2007-10-14 14:35:24 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i think you should talk to her. tell her what's on your mind. but dont sound accusing. instead, sound like you care about her and her child's welfare.
i have an older sister too, and she has a kid too. sometimes i feel like i am older and not the other way around. she used to depend on me with almost everything but i decided to live on my own, and then finally she learned to stand on her own two feet =)
2007-10-14 14:40:36 · answer #1 · answered by Ana Smartypants 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends. Are you paying any rent? If you are than I suggest sitting down and talking to her before you move out. Moving out without talking about it will just create more problems, and after you've gone, the problem will still be there. Tell her you love her and you just think that since you pay your share, the cleaning should be divided up between you. Have a chart ready with the chores equally distributed.
When you sit down with her go over the chart and discuss any changes. Then keep it where you both can see it, and check off when you've done you share.
That way she can see you mean business, and it's visual, so it might be the motivation she needs.
If you don't pay rent than it is kind of hard to ask her anything. I guess she figures that if you aren't paying rent than you should be helping out in someway.
If you are not paying rent but,(lets just say) are helping out with food. Ask her if she could pick up after her child and you will do the rest.
Nobody wants to feel like a slave, live in filth, or be taken advantage of. You guys are family, there must be someway you two can work it out!
I hope my suggestions help!:-)
Good Luck
2007-10-14 21:51:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you turn your attention, & energy to getting out ASAP.
No, you are not being a b*otch. Your sister chose to live in those conditions, & you obviously choose not to.
I hope her child is not being put in any danger, or being neglected. Especially after you vacate.
You can let the apartment go to hell, but our children must be protected, & have the right to a safe, & nurturing environment.
2007-10-14 21:51:14 · answer #3 · answered by No More 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are not paying any biils and she's not asking you for any money than the least you can do is help keep th place clean...obviously she is working cause yall have a place to live. Dont look at hings as negative try to find the positive in the meantime, the money you may be saving by living rent free.. if this is you. than save up for your own spot o by the way... she may njust not do it cause your there
2007-10-14 22:11:11 · answer #4 · answered by ghettogul 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on whether or not you are helping out financially. If not, maybe she thinks this is how you carry your weight. (By keeping the apt. clean & tidy). If you do help financially, then you really do need to discuss this w/ her. Either way I guess you need to decide if the convenience of your living arrangements are worth the effort you have to put into them.
2007-10-14 21:44:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let it go to hell....Clean only what you use and that it...but i understand about you wanting the house clean......But stack ur funds and run like hell...she will notice you are gone when she runs out of everything....sounds like your sister needs to grow up are hire a maid....take care
2007-10-14 21:43:01 · answer #6 · answered by vikkilynn5454 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yep and while you are not cleaning up after them spend your time looking for a new living situation.
2007-10-14 21:40:20 · answer #7 · answered by Sarrah 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you move out and get your own place, make it sure it is clean when you leave, after that it's all on your sister. Don't lower yourself to her standards.
2007-10-14 21:46:04 · answer #8 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
apparently, she likes to live like a slob. some people do, and we can't change them.
if you want the place cleaned up then do it, i guess? or just keep your space clean and clean up after yourself when it comes to your own dishes, etc.
take care.
2007-10-14 21:40:35 · answer #9 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its tough living with someone....your best bet is to get out.
2007-10-14 21:51:57 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋