its killing me?

Question

im 15 & i miss my gramma. i havent seen her for 2 months. everytime i call her to see her, she makes excuses like "im busy" or "i dont feel up to it" i hate it and i feel like she is lying to me. i always have to call her first. she never calls me. i cry for her every night. i miss her so bad. i feel so depressed. i feel like she doesnt care about me. i usually see her every 2 weeks. why doesnt she want to see me? i told her i miss her and i love her. that didnt help. i cant stop crying. i want to die. i miss gramma and she doesnt want to see me. it hurts. i cry myself to sleep over it. help

Answer 1

WOW, you and your grandma must have been really close.
why dont you just tell her that you feel like she is avoiding you.
or maybe your really annoying.....jk!

Answer 2

Let me tell you this my friend. It will be a lot easier for you to ask her the reasons as to why she is avoiding seeing you. Just like you are asking us here, the next time you talk to her on the phone or see in person, just tell her how you feel about this whole thing. Cause some people just dont care, they are so deep into their own problems, that the rest of the world does not exist. Not knowing your gramma, I can not make statements of such nature, but, I think every grandma should love their grandchildren. Having a grandma is the sweetest thing in the World. I loved my both grandmas to death, and I feel you 100%. The next time for sure, just be straightforward with her and tell her that you think she should change her whole pattern of behavior towards you.
Let me know what happens.

Answer 3

Um, don't take this the wrong way but . . . GROW UP!

There is probably a good reason why your grandmother isn't around right now. But don't turn it into a big drama about you! Hey, gramma loves you, she always will. But you need to learn to stand up and not be so needy. At 15 you are very close to being an adult. The challenges ahead are much worse than not having gramma around. Stand up for yourself, draw strength from your family but don't lean on them. Got it?

Answer 4

WOW I am really close to my Grandmother too, but not like that, maybe she is busy doing stuff, if shes kinda young still she might be wanting to go out with people her age, or maybe she has a boyfriend????? Is she a widower? Write to her, ask her, or maybe theres a health issue she is dealing with and doesn't want you to see her. She may need some time to be alone for whatever reason, so you can always call and ask her to get back to you when she has some free time and you two can do lunch. Leave it open for her to respond. Thats a really tough thing if you were that close. I would ask her kids, your Mother or Dad, ask if shes doing ok? I would try to find something to do to occupy your time and try to keep your mind on something else for awhile, until your parents explain her odd change in behavior.

Answer 5

Do your perents and your Gramma have a good relationship?
Because sometimes people are fighting they will do awful things to people they love just to spite someone else like your mother or father, it's horrible i know but family feuds can be ugly. Just go and see your Gramma unanouced and tell her how you feel, im sure she will understand, im sure she would love to see you.
Don't let it get you down, smile :-)

Answer 6

First of all why get so upset about it! I could understand if you were 6 or 7 but 15? That is definitely not healthy. And have even thought of the fact that your grandma is going thru something that she doesnt want to tell the family. Shes giving excuses for a reason, and it could be important. Give her some space, if you suffocate her so much then it could get worse. LEAVE HER ALONE DONT BE CLINGY!!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

Well, people are busy. That's the way the world is. People aren't going to drop everything just to spend time with you, and it's irrational to expect them to.

Also, she's old. She probably feels sick often and doesn't want to play hostess to you or anybody else. One of these days she is going to die, you know.

You need to learn to live without such obsessive dependency on other people. You need to rely on yourself and be your own rock, because there won't always be somebody on the other end of the line to pull you to your feet.

For now, your grandmother is there, and you need to think of her, especially if she's not feeling well. She loves you, and saying otherwise is just dumb, and you probably know that. You're just upset because you can't spend time with her, and you need to grow up a bit about that, too; you're 15. Spend time with your friends, play video games, join a club, play outside, go to the mall, read a book!

And talk to your parents about your grandmother, too; it's possible they know something they're not telling you, or that they can talk to her for you and see if something can't be arranged...

Answer 8

Talk to your parents about this,,,,there maybe something going on that you are unaware of. The 'rents might have had an argument with her and she is taking it out on you, or she is just busy with her own life right now...it could be any number of things....best thing to do is ask. Good luck

Answer 9

I wouldn't take it personal. She could be having problems health wise or relationship. Part of being mature is understanding and not taking things personal. Its ok to feel sad and that you miss her and its ok to let her know but its also important to give her her space. Continue to call her and try to keep busy with friends and family.

Answer 10

such is the woes of life.....
there will be times you can enjoy the stay but, to grow and move forward in life you have to accept change. Just be glad and thankful your grandmother is alive and remember her world does not revolve around your feelings no matter how much she loves you. At least you can call her now and then but, don't expect her to be at your beck and call

Answer 11

Talk about it with your parents. Maybe they know why. Do you have brothers or sisters? Is she ignoring them too? If you can't talk to your parents for whatever reason, try to see a therapist because you are suffering from depression. Why don't you stop by her house and see what happens. Maybe she is depressed about something and is isolating herself from everyone. I wish you good luck and I hope she changes her mind.