help im so sad?

Question

im 15 & i miss my gramma. i havent seen her for 2 months. everytime i call her to see her, she makes excuses like "im busy" or "i dont feel up to it" i hate it and i feel like she is lying to me. i always have to call her first. she never calls me. i cry for her every night. i miss her so bad. i feel so depressed. i feel like she doesnt care about me. i usually see her every 2 weeks. why doesnt she want to see me? i told her i miss her and i love her. that didnt help. i cant stop crying. i want to die. i miss gramma and she doesnt want to see me. it hurts. i cry myself to sleep over it. help

Answer 1

I am going to go out on a limb her and suggest that maybe your grandmother might be going through something herself and she does not want to worry you about it. Believe it or not, sometimes people actually think more about how others might feel than how they feel, and your grandmother may need some time to work out her problem, possibly medical, and she does not want you to have to be concerned and at the same time she may not be able to give you the attention she would like to give. It is time for you to develop some maturity and wait patiently for her to be ready. Continue to tell her that you love her and miss her, but that you can wait. Hopefully, things will all work out for the best. These times happen to all of us, even when you are as old as I am, and, although itis difficult, we have to be patient.

Answer 2

Did you grandma raise you and that's why you are so sad about it?

Unfortunately, not all people all loving, nurturing people that we would like them to be and there's nothing we can do about it. You have to accept that.

Both of my grandmas wanted nothing to do with me when I was 18 and 19 because I was dating someone of another religion, which my bizarre parents didn't approve of, so they told the entire family not to speak to me. There I was 19 and married, and so alone. I begged my grandma to talk to me and she pretty much hung up on me. She refused to talk to me for 2 years, until I begged my parents to speak to me again because I was divorcing the guy. That stuff stays with you and now I'm 38 and my grandma is 95 and ill, but I have a hard time feeling tons of sympathy for her because the years when I needed her she wanted nothing to do with me, (and I'd done no wrong, my husband was a decent guy, just wasn't jewish) so she told me how she felt about me.... Someday your grandma will be sick and need you too...

Answer 3

My grandmother died when I was 6. Things like this happen. Maybe she knows she is going to die soon and wants you to not be close with her so it will not hurt you. She could also have Alzheimers and does not want you to see her when she does not know who you are. See the article on the site below to see how wonderful and important you are. Then take care of yourself and be happy.

Answer 4

try making some time to schedule a visit. if she gives you an excuse schedule another time. if she bails on that just show up. try having an actual discussion about it.
legitimate excuses;
disease
doctor's excuse
(both of these need proof)
not legitimate;
just not been feeling well
way too busy

it sounds like she's scared or angry...i feel bad for you, my aunt hates me worse than your grandma seems to be avoiding you. who knows, maybe she is sick.
just do it. set aside a day or something.
worked for me and my grandpa.

Answer 5

Tell her what you told us. Seriously!! She will most likely get the message!!!

;-)