I was seventeen when I had her my baby was taken away from me by her dadie and than me and her dadie try again thats when I got pregant with my son but me and her dad did not make it so I was left pregant by her dad who than denied my son as if but threten to take my baby boy awy like he did my baby girl now she hates me and wont let me be a grand ma to mu grand baby.
2007-10-14 13:53:30 · 5 answers · asked by marie Durossette/Hall 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
give it time, hon.... i guess that your daughter is not yet mature enough to realize this all happened over 20 years ago , and you were young.
if you are having issues and this is affecting your life, consider taking care of YOU by talking with a therapist. a professional might give you advice and insight that those of us here at Yahoo answers can't give
take care.
2007-10-14 13:58:19 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are seeking guidance from us on how to control your daughter. She's an adult now, & she can make her own decisions about whether or not you can have contact with your grandchildren. She is feeling a lot of hurt from her life, & justified or not, she holds you largely responsible for that.
The 1st thing you need to realize is that you can't GET your daughter to do anything for you.
She needs to be left to forgive you on her own.
Her anger toward you is based on your past behaviour with her. Now you have to create a new past with her, & that is done day by day, week, by week, month, by month, & year by year. If she is worth it to you, then you will stay the course with her. If you give up, then she will just lump your new past along with the old one, & it will appear to be the same old, same old to her.
Patience!
2007-10-14 14:08:10 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think which you will do issues outstanding numerous the time yet make your proportion of errors. i comprehend that I made fairly some errors while elevating my step-daughter from the age of 8. (I married a widower). The age hollow does no longer must be a concern. She is to be the great sister and geared up-in babysitter. She is extra probable to be the "little mom" on your new child than playmate. it rather is unlucky that she is having a conflict along with her very own mom. yet you would be a supportive tension on your life; given that she does no longer use you to undermine her mom. You and her dad will must be business enterprise along with her yet continuously supportive.
2016-12-29 10:11:35 · answer #3 · answered by bockoven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to give it some time and pray that God will help you in this situatuioin. Send her and ecard with sad music that expresses your feelings, if that doesnt work, just give it some time.... call her and try coming over her house or wherever she lives as much as often, and dont get angry with her- if she says- get outta here- look at her silently for about 3 seconds and leave.... then she will feel bad! Good Luck!
2007-10-14 14:03:33 · answer #4 · answered by EMM:) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all, you must accept the fact that you cannot control how your daughter reacts to you and to what happened... give her time... dont force yourself... just onctinue showing her who and what you really are... eventually as an adult she might realize it.
There are always two sides of the coin... your daughter might have different view on what happened between you and your husband... so give it time..
2007-10-14 14:16:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋