It is the 'vibe' or energy you are giving off. Mature single professionals, both men and women, usually forego the dating scene in pursuit of their other goals.
No problem with that but, you kinda forget your mojo...
If you are ready, start projecting a more open and inviting appearance. Smile more, take up a hobby or a few where both men and women are involved.
There is a great site called www.meetup.com
not a dating site,
but some groups that you may find interesting. Usually free or VERY inexpensive to join, a whole lot of interesting people getting together doing something you like to do.
Get some of your friends involved also, so you can get instant feedback on your behavior.
Do not get caught up on a goal of finding a man, but rather get into what you are doing, have fun doing it, and the men will be BEATING DOWN your door!
2007-10-14 14:55:32
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answered by Mister 1
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I think the reason you're not meeting people is because generally, the age demo of a bar is 21-28. They probably feel you're too old. You really should dig deep and figure out what things you enjoy and would enjoy with a partner. If it's traveling, try a trip with a group, if it's sports, sign up for volleyball or whatever co-ed sport is offered near where you live. Better yet, try some volunteer work, that's a great place where defenses are down. The bars....you're gonna get about the same result as you would with a bottle of vodka; a temporary high with some miserable headaches following.
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answered by Anonymous
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You sound like an intelligent person with a lot to offer. There are good guys everywhere. I think you just need to expand your search.
Try some church singles groups. Many have activities for the "over 40" crowd. Another idea is to volunteer some time in an organization you believe in: a political group, an animal rescue organization, or perhaps a social cause like a suicide or rape prevention hotline.
You'll meet people who share your interests, and who knows, maybe even one of the gals you meet at one of those places will have an eligible brother. . .
Good luck!
2007-10-14 14:04:21
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answered by freedomnow1950 5
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Spend your off hours down south in San Diego or venture north to the wine country around Napa Valley. You'll get far enough away from the "Hollywood" mentality to see some real, genuine people. (The Santa Barbara area is also really nice, too now that I think of it.) California is a very beautifl and diverse state. I'm sorry I ever left it.
2007-10-14 14:00:20
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answered by Captain S 7
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There's nothing wrong with web dating and I hope you'll at least give it a try. But, if not a bar...then absolutely anywhere you go.
My best friend (male) just got a number handed to him from a girl in the drive-thru at a fast food place where he was inside. She wrote her number down, and asked the girl at the register to give it to him. He called her. :)
So...you're going to have to look, talk to people, ask questions. These men are everywhere you go. If you don't want to do the web thing....(where supposedly the singles are separated from the marrieds)...then, open your eyes, look around, smile.....and make the first move. :)
Good luck!
2007-10-14 14:01:27
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answered by amazonsylk 1
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Couldn't you just design a guy. If it works out you better get a patent. You need to believe God for one. That may sound strange but God has a unique mate for you. It is like finding a needle in the haystack. It is a good thing that God is in the business of managing haystacks. I assure you He wants you to find him. Ask and you shall receive. Are you ready. Miracles happen everyday. If you need encouragement call 1-800-759-0700.
2007-10-14 14:04:04
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answered by JesusIsTheAnswer 4
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Church, temple, museums, art openings, join a co-ed sport team, gym, mutual friends, volunteering for a cause. Hope this helps. I'm with you about bars and the web. Forget it.
2007-10-14 13:59:50
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answered by ontheedge 2
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at a workout center
at the mall
at a concert
at the grocery store
at a church
on the beach or at a pool
at a park
local volunteer group place
on a bus,or public transportation system
a tour
a museum
an art show or wine tasting event
someplace you like to be just open your eyes
GOOD LUCK
2007-10-14 13:57:01
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answered by Eileen J 7
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You should probably go to book stores. That is where most highly educated men go in their spare time. To find a social guy you might want to go to coffee shops, but wait until his friends leave if you decide to approach him. Go to gyms because men like women who care about themselves and are confident enough to go into a predomitatley male enviornment. It shows courage and this will definetley attract attention.
2007-10-14 14:00:05
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answered by Cinthia W 1
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when you find out, do tell, i'm a 41 male, looking for a female, and DO NOT DO THE BAR SCENE, and the web ain't no big help either. live in the s.east, moving option, haven't made up my mind yet(typical male) good luck.
2007-10-14 14:01:55
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answered by yp_mike_kinsey 3
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