6 yr old dessert addict?

Question

Our son seems to always be how scheaming to get passed real food and move on to dessert. He spends time at his real moms and at our house which means most the time he is eating dinner there and dessert then coming over here and eating more dessert. My husband doesn't seem to have a problem with this. My husband is 300lbs and he tells me stories about how hard it was to be the "fat" kid. Our boy isn't fat but he is getting big. At 6 he wears a 9-10. Tonight I made spaggetti which our son is supposed to love and I gave him this teeny-weenie portion just for an experiment. He nibbled and pushed it around for 30 min then announced that he was full. I took a shower and when I got out his dad and he were plowing through a plate of cookies - really full, ...full of something but not food. I'm thinking about just giving him what he wants until he's sick of it or it makes him feel sick. Instead of food I'll just give him candy at meals, and offer nothing else. I need help I'm fed up.

Answer 1

remove the temptation - get rid of all the desserts in the house. I had to do that for me & my kids - you could be saving the life of your husband as well.

Answer 2

Well it is true a child will not starve themself. I think it is time to say good bye to dsserts in the home. A dessert should be a pleasure. Here is the definition Dessert is a course that typically comes at the end of a meal, usually consisting of sweet food but sometimes of a strongly-flavored one, such as some cheeses. The word comes from the Old French desservir, "to clear the table." Common desserts include cakes, cookies, fruits, pastries and candies.
Ok well by thought and having 5 childrens between the ages of 2 and 13 I have plenty. I say this is your dinner and this is your dessert. In order to get your desset you must atleast eat half of your meal. If you chose not to eat then you will not have a sweet dessert instead when were having our dessert you can have an apple and penutbutter or a banana. You do not want to deprive him because that could cause a eating disorder but be firm. Kids are so spoiled. If this child is not very active and eating so poorly it will eventually show up in grades, weight and behavior. BE FIRM! Take a astand... Good job you go mom.

Answer 3

I babysit for kids like this all of the time. If your kid is a sugar fiend, try feeding him natural sugars instead of the ones full of preservatives, such as a fruit parfait. Also, since he is a boy, they love to be hands on and messy. So, include him in your next cooking experiment. If your going to make the parfaits, have him layer the yogurt, fruit, and granola (if he's really that into sugar, you can even squirt some whip cream or add a dollop of Cool Whip to the top). He'll be more amped to eat these foods because he made them himself. Also, try talking to his real mom, (if you have that kind of relationship). If he's coming over after dinner, ask her only to feed him dinner and he can have dessert over at your house. Get your husband involved too, this way, the whole family can started eating healthier and getting along a lot better. :)

Answer 4

He's six! He's supposed to be a dessert-o-holic! Heck, I'm a lot older than six and I would love to eat sweets all the time. However, I know better. A six year old doesn't know better—he isn't supposed to know better; that's why he has parents.

Lay your foot down with your husband. Tell him you need to teach the kid good eating habits. Dessert is a treat (one that can be frequent at six years old), not a necessity.

There should be no cookies if there is no consumption of nutritious food. Not only will cookies make him fat, not having the stuff he needs is bad for his wellness.

"This is for your own good!"

Answer 5

the problem isn't your 6 yr old- it's your husband. Once you can get him on your side, then you can make sure your son's diet is healthy. There's nothing wrong with dessert- but overeating is bad, and ONLY eating desserts is bad. He shouldn't get any snack unless he eats a healthy dinner first. If you can't get your husband on your side, divorce him. He's mature enough to understand the health risks, and he said how hard it was to be the fat kid- yet he's turning him into one. Children are as important as your husband, so you need to be on the same level.

Answer 6

well you already answered your own question. he uses his father as a model and sees that his father also has a fascination with food which tells him that it's acceptable to gorge himself on unhealthy foods. his father is the one setting a bad example and unless you can get his father to discipline him and show him that food isn't the meaning of life and that's it's only meant to sustain life, then you can't really do much. i would talk to his father about how he felt as a fat kid and how he thinks his son's life will be when he becomes the fat kid. try to put it in perspective for him. it seems like they BOTH haave a problem and that your husband/boyfriend/fiancees problem should be addressed first, otherwise if he tells his sone to lay off the cookies, and then goes and eats a plateful himself, then he's just being a hypocrite. have you talked to the child's biological mother about this? i don't think it would be out of your bounds as a stepmother because you seem to care about the kiddo. i would try talking to his mother and seeing if she can help implement some food rules if she appears to acknowledge the problem.

Answer 7

The problem doesn't lie with the kid. The problem is his father. Who does the shopping in your home? If it YOU then YOU are partly to blame in that you are obviously enabling the behavior as well. Stop buying the cookies, stop buying desserts and candy. Stop buying the junk. Do NOT offer desserts any longer. If meals aren't eaten toss them away and make whomever doesn't eat go to bed hungry.

Answer 8

wow. Its the parents responsiblity to present the child with healthy choices. Healthy eating is not a character trait, it's a habit. The father should start acting more like a father. Even if this means sacrificing his own deserts and not allowing too much junk in the house.

Heart attacks are not a joke... he is shaping the habits that he will keep the rest of his life.

Answer 9

Whenever my son says he's too full to eat his meal, I offer him some dessert. If he says he'll take it, I remind him "Remember, you said you were too full."

Give him a reasonable portion to finish and he cannot eat dessert until he's finished that portion. Or, offer dessert later in the evening (2 hours after dinner) and give him the option of eating it then.

Answer 10

If there are no candies or cakes or desserts in the house, he wont eat the, and neither will your husband.

I think your family needs an intervention. Doesnt your husband realize that his child has a SHORTER life expectancy than he does? Doesnt he realize that his child has a 66% chance of becoming diabetic, higher if it runs in the family or if you're overweight? Doesnt he care that he's killing himself, and setting an example of addiction and death for his child, all with his child following right behind?

Its disgusting, and in my book its child neglect. He needs to wake up and get with it. If he had no children and no one based their life on him, it wouldnt matter. Go ahead, enjoy being over weight and goring on sweets, but he's got more in his life than himself. He has the responsibilities of raising a child, a healthy child.

Answer 11

You really should talk to your husband about this. It seems that currently you aren't on the same page, since he is feeding him cookies etc. Then don't let him have desert until he finishes his normal dinner. Don't have the desert foods around the house at all. If its not there he can't eat it.