Ok so me and my gf have been goin out for almost a year and we havent really had a conversation about sex. There have been certain occasions where we have came close to actually havin sex, but since neither of us was prepared for the moment (u know, protection or birth control) we ended up not goin any further. Even after these incidents we didn't really talk about wat happend or wat we woulda liked to happen... Its also been a while since we have sexually come on to each other, and Since its comin close to a year I wanna spark up a sexual relationship wit her, I have perfect plans for how i want things to happen. Problem is I just don't know how to actually bring up the topic in a conversation wit her, to make sure she is ready and feels the same way as i do.
2007-10-14 13:36:04 · 12 answers · asked by Tone_Loc 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you been with her for a year, just say what's on your mind. you have to take her feelings into consideration, don't be rude about it.
2007-10-14 13:40:25 · answer #1 · answered by alleykat1971 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just sit down with her and say "i dont want to get into the heat of the moment and bring this all up in the middle of us getting hot and heavy so i think we should talk about it now. we've been together for a year and it seems like we both want to take things further. I think we should talk about it beforehand so we both know what to expect and make sure we're protected. I wouldnt want to pressure you or put you in the position where you could get pregnant or arent ready, so I'd rather talk about it now than in the heat of the moment."
stds, pregnancies, etc are nothing to take lightly and i think it's really great that you want to make sure you have protection in place before you guys actually decide to take things further. Dont make the conversation awkward. tell her how you feel and that you want to make sure SHE'S comfortable and she feels okay and protected with the situation. you dont want anything bad to happen and make sure she's ready to take that step.
2007-10-14 13:41:40 · answer #2 · answered by colostomy_punch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Ton - Why don't you set a romantic evening up...like something special for her and her alone. Then just 'propose' your idea of the "perfect plan" to her. Tell her you are concerned and want to make certain that she feels as you do. What you can do is start with a nice dinner someplace, hold her hand, and tell her how you feel about her, that you obviously care (it is clear to me reading this that you do) and then perhaps nature will take its course. How nice that you actually want her to feel ready...refreshing in the world we live in today. Good Luck and have FUN with your relationship. Remember laughter is always a good thing.
2007-10-14 13:46:36 · answer #3 · answered by La_Liona 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you have to be really sensative about it. if you guys have never done it before she may get worried that if she doesnt do anything you wont want to be with her anymore, or that any other sexual interaction you are having isnt good enough. you need to find a time when you are both alone and just relaxing and ask if you can talk to her about something. starting the conversation by saying something like, i really care about you and all the things we've done together are amazing... but there is one more experience i would love to have with you. everything in our sexual relationship is great and now i feel like i would like to take it a step farther and make love to you. it may sound cheesy, but if you dont take it seriously it could seriously effect your relationship
2007-10-14 13:43:02 · answer #4 · answered by sam h 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
think of, and picture stressful. might desire to there have been a time once you have been interior the direction of having intercourse with a condom, and he or she desperate to take it off and end you with a bj? My boyfriend and that i do this usually, and there have been one or 2 events whilst the condom "went for a walk" below the mattress, became into forgotten approximately, and we basically chanced on it whilst cleansing below the mattress (which shall we face it, no person does a week). It became into probable approximately 3 weeks later as quickly as I chanced on it and knew that this became into the reason (or he chanced on it one time and knew right now away what had got here approximately). that would desire to be one clarification. different than for that, you could could confront her head to head. Her reaction will say plenty. i.e. will she seem bowled over, uncomfortable, shocked, and so on. Her reaction could supply the sport away if she is dishonest on you. What concerns me much greater however, is what she suggested to you in a greater healthy of anger. each and every thing could look "completely nice" right this moment, yet you're able to resolve why she suggested those issues. Thats somewhat disrespectful to you, and you could desire to verify what it became into all approximately. i does not enable her manage me like that if I have been you, nor could I make allowances for her behaviour. Ask her outright why she suggested all that - you have a ideal to be attentive to.
2016-10-09 05:54:46 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called....communication.
2007-10-14 13:39:23 · answer #6 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the easiest way!
Tell her you want to play a game.......
When she decides to play the game have her do the following
say "X" over and over as fast as she can. if you try it, it actually turns out that you are saying sex. It is the easiest way to get it into the conversation!
2007-10-14 13:40:55 · answer #7 · answered by mit 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
just tell her you would like to talk about something, let her know your ready and tell her to let you know when she is, then drop it and talk about something else so she doesnt feel pressure about it
2007-10-14 13:41:17 · answer #8 · answered by marlasinger5 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have her sit on your lap and talk about the first thing that comes up.
2007-10-14 13:39:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
just ask her how do you feel about taken our relationship to the next level?
2007-10-14 13:38:48 · answer #10 · answered by uhuhkmmk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋