Last week me and my bf broke up i love him so much.he broke up because of me seeing my exs still who are still my friends and he didnt like that.he says you shouldnt see exs even if they are friends while in a relationship i tried to talk to him because i want to try again but he says he has to think on it and for me not to pressure him because he needs time.
2007-10-14 13:33:38 · 12 answers · asked by shymi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its either him or the exs.
make up your mind and let him know or let him go.
2007-10-14 13:37:34 · answer #1 · answered by alleykat1971 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd wait. Whether you should 'see exes' while in a relationship depends on a lot of things. It is actually somewhat unusual for people who have previously been involved in a romantic relationship to revert to being friends. Some partners can understand and cope with this kind of situation and others can't. The bottom line would be that if you value your relationship with your boyfriend or husband more than your friendships with others the you have to honor their feelings by not having relationships to which they object. If it is important to you to be able to maintain such relationships, then you need a partner (boyfriend, husband) who is accepting of that situation. It may be the case that your current boyfriend is not the right partner for you. You and he need to figure that out. Be true to yourself and your needs first, BEFORE you commit to spending your life with someone. He needs to know what he's getting too, so be sure to be open and honest.
2007-10-14 13:40:42 · answer #2 · answered by treebird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give him some time. If he really loves you he will come back. If you really love him well try to put in some effort and stop seeing your ex! How would you feel if he was the one talking to his ex all the time?
It would certainly bother me.
Give him a day or two to cool off and have a talk with him. Tell him that you love him and that there is no one else but him. Explain to him that your ex is something from your past, but he is your present, and that you hope he is your future as well.
:-)
2007-10-14 13:39:44 · answer #3 · answered by OmShanti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be able to see your x's as friends. two of my best friends are my x's and i have a boyfriend.
obviously, if you go out with someone there is some kind of connection between you two but the reason you break up is cause that connection turned out to be friendship. not romance. try and explain it to your boyfriend like that and maby he will understand.
if not you have to make a choice. You can be with someone who treats you badly and says you cant have any friends or you can get over it and find someone better cause i guaruntee there will be someone out there who you can love just as much, if not heaps more and who will be ok with you having your x's as friends.
2007-10-14 13:46:14 · answer #4 · answered by trixydafairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys dont like the whole friends-with-your-ex deal. but it can also depend on how much you are hanging out with your ex's. i can see where he may get suspicious if u are seeing them often. maybe u should try introducing them so he will see he has nothing to worry about
2007-10-14 13:39:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just give him time to think. I think you should be allowed to talk to your exs. But let him think, and see what happens.
2007-10-14 13:42:03 · answer #6 · answered by infomaster1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you truly love someone you can't stand there do something. Heres your choice
Ex's or Love
2007-10-14 13:37:27 · answer #7 · answered by luke s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, he should excepet ur friends even if they're ur ex. who cares u hangout with whoever u want 2. Its ur life!! Dnt let him be controlling on u come on u dnt need some1 like him.
2007-10-14 13:38:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, he is right. Put yourself in his shoes. He shouldn't have to compete with ex boyfriends, even if you are just friends, that is not fair.
2007-10-14 13:37:33 · answer #9 · answered by Kiss my Shaz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave the insecure control freak. Then he'll have all the time in the world to think about it.
2007-10-14 13:37:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
'give him time to miss you'
i was watching old house episodes today and i heard that. it seems like a good answer.
2007-10-14 13:36:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋