Ive given my girlfriend a clitorl orgasm before, but when we have sex I just can't get her off. I don't think my penis is too small but she sometimes can't even feel me. I can get off but I feel terrible about it and I told her im not going to let myself get off until she does. Its really frusterating for the both of us and i dont know what im suposed to do. Can someone please help us out?
2007-10-14 13:25:05 · 57 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that maybe your girlfriend is so stressed about certain things that she is not letting herself relax and all. Maybe you should massage her, that might work.
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2007-10-14 13:30:51 · answer #1 · answered by ♂♥♀ & ♀♥♂ ∞! Love Oh Love ! ♫♥♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really not that uncommon. The majority of women can't have a vaginal orgasm. You're not doing anything wrong and it's actually really nice of you to be concerned about her pleasure - so many men don't care. Some women need clitoral stimulation during intercourse to have an orgasm - that's something you could try. Or give her an orgasm before intercourse by giving her oral sex.
2007-10-14 13:32:12 · answer #2 · answered by cytogirl1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 15 years and have NEVER had an orgasm during sex. From what I understand, the majority of women don't have orgasms during sex-- they either have them before or after.
As for her not being able to feel you inside her sometimes, that could have something to do with her being too wet or open, and nothing to do with your penis.
You may need to accept that your woman is like most other women and she just doesn't have an orgasm during sex. At least she isn't faking them!
2007-10-14 13:30:18 · answer #3 · answered by Joy L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might not even be you. There is a study that a lot of women do not orgasm at all during intercourse. Unfortunately I am one of them. I enjoy the sex but I can not get to that point of orgasm. I used to have a partner who was, to put in a unexplicit term, very well endowed and I enjoyed the sex! it was the best i ever had but I still did not orgasm. I am still waiting and hoping that some man can take me to that point! But i know that I am not the only one like that... but I'd recommend using your fingers to find her G-spot, using toys, and just experimenting.
Have fun!
2007-10-14 13:32:51 · answer #4 · answered by Undecisive 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to surrender to you. On some level she is still not completely trusting you, so be trustworthy and patient with her and encourage her to talk about herself with you. See if you can get her to tell you what is really bothering her. Strengthening trust is the key to mutual orgasm. It will also help a lot if she can come to trust you enough to tell you what excites her a lot. It may be a little out of the mainstream, so be prepared not to make her feel uncomfortable if she wants to go "out there" a little with you. You may both find she has some rather wild tastes in sex generally which she is just uncomfortable talking about with you yet.
2007-10-14 13:34:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're putting too much pressure on your gf and yourself. At the very least you should have a vibrator as part of your accessories. You can either use the vibrator on her before or after you "arrive."
If that doesn't work, you can attend a sex therapist together and receive professional input.
As Dr. Ruth says, many women are not capable of non-clitoral orgasms so find different things that work for each of you and relax.
2007-10-14 13:32:07 · answer #6 · answered by dianemarieperrine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your penis size really wouldnt have much to do with it. The fact that sometimes she cant feel it could simply be due to the position, or how wet she is. I read in a book once that most women can't orgasm simply from penetration. Most women need both penetration and clitoral stimulation to reach a full climax.
2007-10-14 13:31:24 · answer #7 · answered by his_lady_v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is that you are not putting pressure on her clitoris. The clitoris is at the front of her vagina and it holds most of the nerves that gives a woman an orgasm. The missionary position is actually not a very good position to put pressure on the clitoris but it can be done. Try letting her be on top of you. Depending on your penis size you may not be able to be fully inserted inside of her vagina. The penis has to be slightly bent up ( not painfully) to rub her clitoris as she rocks back and forth on top of you. If you are on top of her don't try to see how deeply you can go inside of her. You can do the same rocking motion to rub the shaft of your penis against her clitoris. Having intercourse doggy style also puts more pressure on it. And it is easier for her to masturbate or slightly press her clit against the shaft of your penis as you penetrate her. It is hard for some women to achieve orgasm but if you are doing it correctly and are patient, she will have an orgasm. If that doesn't work try performing oral sex on her to stimulate her and then penetrate her.
2007-10-14 13:54:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to be a cunning linguist....the French know what a tongue is for. The answer is liquor and lick 'er and don't try to be quicker. Take your time, get her to the point of no return and only then go for penetration. And don't make such a big issue of it, or you will put her on the defensive. Relax and enjoy all stages of lovemaking and you will be surprised at the results. And, oh yes, remember that lovemaking doesn't end with orgasm(yours or hers).
2007-10-14 13:35:22 · answer #9 · answered by thom t 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoops. Back to Sex 101. Girls can't always have a clitoral orgasm; some need extra help with the hand. And some are so tired, not in the mood, etc. that an orgasm is the last thing on their mind. But to be honest with a guy is painful, because the guy thinks he HAS to make her come. Her orgasm is up to her (with your help, of course.) But she needs to communicate where and when, because it is her body and she feels the sensations. A guy can put it in, come and go to sleep. Not so for women. Sorry, we are more complicated, but if you read books and learn, every girl on the block will be after you. Hopefully, you are mature enough not to let it go to your head (no pun meant).
Learn about women, and then learn about men, and then go and have fun. Safely, of course. No babies, and no diseases, please.
2007-10-14 13:30:06 · answer #10 · answered by dutchlady 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes it is hard for a woman to orgasm internally, maybe try more foreplay with things that go in and make it more stimulated before sex. Try a few things out and see what works for the both of you.
2007-10-14 13:30:04 · answer #11 · answered by tragedys_eyes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋