Been with her for 4 years, totally faithful for all 4. We have been on a break now for 5 months, the reason for the break being that my girlfriend said she needed to figure her life out without me. We agreed that we can see other people. I ended up seeing a really good friend of hers at a bar one night, and later that night we ended up sleeping together. We agreed not to say anything about it, but I have an overwhelming sense of guilt. I know we are on a break, but I just slept with one of her friends. Should I tell her? Any advice welcomed.
2007-10-14 12:52:47 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't know if you should tell her or not because this whole "break" concept is fairly new to me. As I understand it during breaks seeing other people is acceptable (even expected) so since you've done nothing wrong, there is nothing to confess. Your main heartburn may be because of the fact that the woman you slept with was a friend of your (insert appropriate term here), or it could be because you never wanted this "break" in the first place so you're still emotionally tied to her. I'm not attempting to just tell you what you want to hear (because I think "breaks" are a terrible idea), but since you're having one, nothing you've done during this one is out of the ordinary. How long are these breaks supposed to last? I would do some heavy soul searching before I brought this up to her...this doesn't mean you shouldn't, but it doesn't mean you should either. With new situations such as these, new dynamics will likewise develop, and it seems you're a pioneer on this frontier. Good luck to you in whatever you decide.
Hey, I had to come back. I was reading all of the venomous replies you've gotten from the women-folk, and I have some questions for them on this subject: How can you be presumptuous enough to break up with a guy (albeit temporarily) then think you have some vested right to tell him who he can or can't see during that interim period? Didn't you forfeit that right when you walked away? Or am I missing something here?
2007-10-14 13:11:21 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. You crossed the line with that one, and so did her friend. If you can HONESTLY say to yourself that it was REALLY a one-time thing and that it will NEVER happen again during the break and especially when the break is over, then it might be worth it to not say anything about it and try to salvage the relationship, if you truely believe there is something worth salvaging there. But if you and your girl get back together and every time you see this friend of hers you think you'll find yourself lusting after her, then it's an unhealthy situation and you should not put your girlfriend through that. For the future, though, keep in mind that in the "taking a break" situation, friends are EXTREMELY off-limits.
2007-10-14 13:06:26 · answer #2 · answered by Mister Platinum 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, I don't get the whole break thing... I mean it's basically saying, 'Bye. Oh, yeah. If fate has a hand in it, maybe there's a possibility we'll see each other again. Don't forget to sleep with other people. Love you!" That's how most people describe it anyway. I know that if my SO did that, I'd be scarred.
2007-10-14 12:59:33 · answer #3 · answered by Θ Chez Θ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nice job :D but u have 2 dnt 4get that there is a prabiblty she slept with another guy , theresnt? If u can accept this then i thnk there is no problm but if u cnt then u have 2 tell her
2007-10-14 13:12:08 · answer #4 · answered by Punk @ngel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that she shouldn't ever take you back, beacuse she SHOULDN'T even if you two are on a break that means its temporary, and sleeping with her friend is not something a girl wants her temporaryily ex-boyfriend to do. JERK!!!
2007-10-14 13:00:46 · answer #5 · answered by iLOVEJESUS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell Nah! Good Goin'; Score one for the man team... Keep on handling your business and keep your pleasure a secret!!!
2007-10-14 13:01:35 · answer #6 · answered by Kandai M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT tell her. You will never hear the end of it. She will never trust you again.
2007-10-14 12:56:17 · answer #7 · answered by Alabama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DAMN RYAN I GUESS IT WAS THE ALCOHOL.I WOULDN'T TELL HER IF YOU AREN'T GOING TO GET BACK TOGETHER BUT IF U GUYS ARE STILL FRIENDS AND TALK DAILY I REALLY WOULD TELL HER
2007-10-14 13:01:58 · answer #8 · answered by K.B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad boy.... that's the worst thing you can do.... TIP: NEVER SLEEP WITH YOUR GF'S BEST FRIEND!!!!
2007-10-14 12:56:41 · answer #9 · answered by Cheaze 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
awww, your screwed(:
haaa, i can't help you out on this one..
2007-10-14 12:57:20 · answer #10 · answered by xtina(: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋