family drama?

Question

okay well u see my parents have been together for about 19 years now, and they have been unhappy for aropx. 5 years and my mom just got out of aclohl addiction, but theey are still fitghing and im in the middle!!! I HATE IT!! My dad isn't a person who gets physical, hes just a scarryt man when he yells, and my mom is WAY to emotional, and im stuck in the middle... what should i do???

Answer 1

I guess it depends how old you are....are you old enough to be on your own? If not, maybe you can get help from a school counselor, or a relative. Good luck!

Answer 2

My parents put me and my sister in the middle of their fights all of the time, but a few months ago my pastor told me to just tell them "I am not going to make these decisions for you. You have to work this out together. You are the adults." This isn't going to make it any easier, sometimes my mom gets pretty mad when I say that because she wants me to take her side, but I feel better because I'm not taking sides or making this worse. Because believe me, no matter how much you try you will not make things better. They need to work things out alone. Try to take yourself out of the equation if they won't do it themselves. Good luck!
Always remember that God will not judge you or question you about/for the mistakes your parents make/made.

Answer 3

i know what you are going through....my dad has a drinking problem, everyone is always yelling at each other (in fact, it is happening now....)...it's hard....i will do ANYTHING to get away from my house....i never want to go home....and it is terrible because sometimes i actuly wish they hurt me so i would have some physical proof of what i feel on the inside....(good lord, i sound emo....and i am soooo not....just on the inside)...well, i hope you can find someone to talk to....trust me, it make you feel a lot better....i just started talking to my teacher bout a month ago, and it really helps....good luck and God bless

Answer 4

Sorry to hear about your family drama. Your parents fighting is just going to drive your mom back to drinking. If you can talk to your dad, then I would tell him that your mom needs support right now. Ask him to be kinder to her to help her get through the tough time she is having now. And I would also suggest marriage counselling if you feel comfortable. Be the strong one in your family and tell them how you are feeling (but don't blame them).

Answer 5

same problem in here girl, im sorry for you. if your like around 15 or younger like me (i am 14), you will suffer a lot. trust me, my dad got some pissed, the police had to take him to jail. You should get a job that pays a lot of money, get enough money, and move out the house and take either your mom OR dad with you. )the one you care about most).

Answer 6

u should tell ur parents that they are not happy like they once were and that they probably cant get over the problem so they should do whats best for the whole family and get a divorce ikno it will be hard but it will be better than living unhappy for long

Answer 7

Contact an ALA-TEEN group in your area, and have your dad contact AL-ANON. Alcoholism is called the family disease, because it hurts everyone, not just the alcoholic.
The alcohol may be gone, but you still need to learn how to cope with life.

Answer 8

I think i would let them know the negative effect this is having on you. You should suggest family therapy, or perhaps you will leave to live with another relative.

Answer 9

if you are the only kids, the best thing to do is to sit them down together after dinner and talk to them. tell them , they are making you unhappy when they fight. let them know that you are hurt inside

Answer 10

ok what ever you do dont hand cuff them together it may seem like a bright idea but dont do it, it never works
thats something you take up with your school counsoler cuz i dont want to give you the wrong answer