I have announced my engagement and plan to marry within a few months. A few people have asked me online to be invited to my wedding. I know that I can't due to limited budget and space. Was it rude of them to ask me online, or was it a nice way of asking for consideration? Should I even address them? If I do, how should I address them regarding the situation with limited space?
2007-10-14 12:24:31 · 41 answers · asked by Andre 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I doubt anyone was meaning to be rude. Perhaps they were just wanting to let you know they support your upcoming marriage. I think it would be appropriate to let people know that you are having a small, intimate ceremony and won't be able to invite everyone you would like to.
2007-10-14 12:32:00 · answer #1 · answered by Gwen 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i agree that asking for an invitation is a little rude. however, I'm sure that they're just happy for you and want to show their support. That said, it *does* put you on the spot when someone asks to be invited. If these are not people you had planned to invite, simply tell them that you're on a tight budget and that you're having a small, intimate wedding and inviting mostly family (even if that's a bit of a stretch!). I think that a lot of people who do that don't realize that what they're doing is asking you to cough up the money for extra dinners and drinks.
My fiance and i are going through the same thing right now with people asking to be invited or asking to be in the wedding. The worst 'offenders' are parents' acquaintences, some of whom I haven't seen in 15 years and have never met my fiance! We're thanking them for their support and telling them that the wedding will not be big, and that our venue can only accommodate so many people.
2007-10-14 13:45:41 · answer #2 · answered by SE 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people just want to be invited to a wedding because they just want to see a wedding. I think it's rude to request for an invitation. You get a lot of self invites at work.
You have a right to invite whomever you chose. You don't have to dignifiy their question with an answer. If you do need to respond to them, then simply explain to them that it's a small wedding with a few close relatives and friends. Then they will understand that it's not a big wedding for everyone.
Congrats.
2007-10-14 16:04:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh absolutely rude. What you'll find is... you're going to need a wedding poker face. The fake smile while saying nothing. (You don't have to respond to those people by the way. If they ask again say that the wedding is for close family members and friends only). When acquaintances ask for invitations, family members get too opinionated with what they want for your wedding etc. Just breathe and smile. Then do everything as you planned. It's not worth the argument and added stress of constantly defending your decisions. Congrats!
2007-10-14 12:38:59 · answer #4 · answered by Jasmine808 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say, thank you so very much for your interest in attending my wedding, but unfortunately I have a limit to the amount of guests I invite due to limited space and budget. Your friends should not have put you in the position of telling them that you cannot invite them. Let's just say, they don't have a lot of class; however you can show them what having class is all about by acknowledging their request. Wouldn't it be nice if we all were millionaires and could invite everybody we knew to share in our special day; however that is not always possible. Congrats to the both of you!!!
2007-10-14 14:47:08 · answer #5 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You unless you already answered them you just let the request hang. Do not bring it up and if they do tell them the truth that you have limited funds and the wedding will be kept small.
Yes it is extremely rude to ask to be invited anywhere but to a wedding is really no class. They should not have put you on the spot but that did not stop them, don't let any false manners keep you from telling them the truth, after all they asked for it.
2007-10-14 14:14:06 · answer #6 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
anyone isn't invited to a marriage for a great sort of reasons yet you suggested it your self . . "we are no longer appropriate pals or something . . " So, the two the Bride or the Bride's mothers and dads or the Groom concept the comparable component. No, you're able to no longer ask why you weren't invited. Neither the Bride nor the Groom owes you an evidence. The Groom isn't obligated to ask all and sundry to his wedding ceremony basically because of the fact he became into invited to their wedding ceremony months till now. replied by potential of: an authorized wedding ceremony professional / a expert bridal representative / a wedding ceremony ceremony officiant
2016-10-09 05:47:59 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They probably weren't meaning to be rude, I think it might just come out. "How exciting, am I invited?" I have heard this a few times and I have either said we haven't gotten as far as invites yet or that we are planning a very small wedding because we want something more intimate. Congrats and Good Luck with your wedding!
2007-10-14 15:36:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's rude to ask to be invited to any function. Just tell them the truth you have limited space and a limited budget.
2007-10-14 14:31:35 · answer #9 · answered by Manny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How did you "announce your engagement?" If it was a mass-market media event, then these people are in the game!
The best you can do is to email, telephone, speak - whichever way they addressed you - and say that You're happy to have their good wishes, but you're not having a large wedding or reception.
Your true friends are happy you're being married, whether they get to watch it or not. Your real friends are happy not to spend 2 hours at the church social hall congratulating your elderly aunts.
You can evaluate your bride by asking her whether your elderly aunts or your fraternity brothers are more deserving of place cards.
2007-10-14 15:23:36 · answer #10 · answered by noname 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is really rude to ask to be invited to a wedding or any other party. I'd just fluff over the invite request with some non-committal reply like we're not even sure what were doing yet!
2007-10-14 13:25:02 · answer #11 · answered by melouofs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋