How can you tell if a girl is a "user", i.e. someone who's using to get material things, such as money, gifts, etc. ?
All opinions are welcome.
2007-10-14 12:20:58 · 17 answers · asked by JustANiceGuyHere 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if she will spend quality time with you and only you...then she genuinely likes you. if she only hangs out with you on the condition that you buy her things, or take her to expensive restaurants or whatever, then you are being used. the best thing to do is avoid expensive dates and gifts early on in the relationship...save those things for when you become more serious, and make them few and far between. any girl that genuinely likes you would be okay with this! the most important thing is just quality time spent together.
2007-10-15 13:39:54 · answer #1 · answered by KellyKapowski 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fairly obvious. Your bank balance will be lighter.
If you are both working, you should pay equally, i.e. either share the cost or turn-and-turn-about. If you're both students on a budget, the same. If one of you is in full-time work and the other is studying, it's OK for the one in work to pay more.
That's about it. If she doesn't play by those rules, she's a user.
2007-10-14 12:32:01 · answer #2 · answered by 2kool4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she tells you sob stories to make you feel guilty or sorry for them. No matter what anyone tells you, you are not responsible for fixing someone else's life or problems. Two girls were able to do that way last year in 2006. The last time she called me in 11/06 she wanted money; her real boyfriend was sent to jail for 11 months.
2007-10-14 12:33:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she's always asking for stuff.. somethimes girls will talk/ tell you about she wants a certain something.. or take you to the mall if you've been dating the girl for quite some time then it's okay if she pays the resturant bill once in a while. if she's very materlistic and you always need to carry atleast $100 dollars everytime you with her then you neeed to think about this is she really worth you money
2007-10-14 12:28:47 · answer #4 · answered by shanekwah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls who are "user" are simply girls that want things she wants.. she'll tell you want she wants and wants you to buy it for her... She'll call you and ask you if you're free.. want to go have dinner etc... but before that she wants to go shopping! If there's nothing she can use you for she won't give you a call at all.. and if you call her she'll simply say she's too busy these days with school or with work and she'll call you when she's free... If she likes to go clubbing, drinking.. she calls you and ask u if u want to go.. just so she can get free drinks... and her friends can get free drinks too.. cuz it's not like the guy won't just buy her drinks and not her other friends which are girls too...
Its just really simple.. She needs you.. she calls u.. if she doesn't she won't!
2007-10-14 12:28:48 · answer #5 · answered by vintage_springs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will be needy. She plays on your sympathy, as she will be
broke, need to borrow etc. Also she may hint a lot for things. Wants to go to expensive places so you will pay. Other people are mean to her, but she just knows you will do anything she hints at. It won't take you long to find out!
2007-10-14 12:27:39 · answer #6 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't just have a relationship w/o having to get them gifts, trinkets, then maybe they might be. But when you are in one you tend to get them things anyway just because you want to, because it makes you happy to make them happy. Now if they tell you not to well then you do once in a while anyway, so's not to make them think you're a total tight wad but if they don't like what you get them, and of course they're not always gonna like what you get (sometimes they get things for you that you don't like) or if they're always bugging you for more things then maybe they are. Sometimes it's hard to tell.
2007-10-14 15:22:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she ask you to take her to expensive restaurants and orders the most expensive plates?
Does she ask for you to buy her stuff all the time?
Do you have a nice house and she desperatly wants to move in with you?
If so there is a big chance she is a gold digger.
2007-10-14 12:29:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fck My Xgirlfriend she can go to fckn hell... matter of fact you should hit me up and experience a gold digger for yourself. Try my X and you will find out how much of a biatch digger she is! Biggest F'n user dude! Check it though, what goes around comes around man!
2007-10-14 12:46:53 · answer #9 · answered by Kinno Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she only see you on her terms? Does she expect you to pay for everything and does she expect you to buy her lots of things? How old is she? Is she young? Do you have much in common? Does she act she really likes you or not? Lots of options here
2007-10-14 12:25:43 · answer #10 · answered by Rainbow Raven 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋