So there's this guy I've been sorta seeing. We are both in our 20's and he seems really into me. But I have to initate EVERYTHING! When we hang out, it's always (except once; the first time we hung out) me that initiates it. It's always me that initiates phone calls, texts, etc. But he never turns me down to hang out and when we DO hang out he gives me massages and snuggles me and seems so into me. He even kissed me a couple times and always hugs me before he leaves. He's really shy, I know that. He's never tried anything sexual either. I would like a relationship with him but I don't know what he's thinking. I don't know why I always have to initiate getting together. Can anyone provide some insight? Does it sound like he likes me? Did I make a bad move by always being the one to ask him to hang out? What should I do? Thanks!
2007-10-14 11:45:54 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think he's a virgin, therefore he doesn't know what to do, if you really like this guy, you have to initiate the sexual thing, once he passes that stage thing would be different.
2007-10-14 11:56:48 · answer #1 · answered by <OiO> 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This lad sounds like he may have a knacker problem, pehaps undescended testicles in need of a trip to the hospital to get some serious surgery.
Maybe you are contacting him and initiating things too often which is making things far too easy for him so therefore he knows he can just take it easy and do nothing because he knows he can always rely on you to do all the donkey work.
My suggestion is try pulling back a bit and see what happens.
2007-10-14 19:00:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok..he probably likes you but he just sounds like he is not so agressive. But, if you are really into this guy you cannot be the one making all the plans and initiating everything..belive me it gets realllyy old after awhile. He either should step up to the plate or you might want to move on...this is probably how he is and it won't change....I have been there and it was not fun and it didnt make me feel special either.
2007-10-14 18:52:43 · answer #3 · answered by nrsechica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him about. Yes he needs to grow a pair, but you need to help him to see that if you want to be with him. Tell him that if he likes you then you wouldn't mind being asked out once in a while by him. Also, send hints to him when you are together, like "ther's this great holloween party going on next week... I hear people are bringing their friends." or, "Haven't you heard about the Valentine's Day party.... I might go." He should say something then. If not then he could just want to be friends and nothing more.
2007-10-14 18:56:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No guy in his 20's wants a relationship unless hes like dog ugly.... i've seen very few who are relationships in thir 20's and those are the ones who are still attached to their high school sweet hearts. But the fact you have to initiate everything... isn't a good sign... maybe he's shy tho
2007-10-14 18:50:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's just shy and if you haven't been hanging out that long then he's probably just nervous. If he still wants to hang out all the time then, yeah, he likes you. And if he's shy, he's probably glad that you're initiating everything. Just get to know him better and let him know you so he's more comfortable around you. Good luck
2007-10-14 18:50:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww that sounds sweet. well ok 1st thing is that it seems that he does like you. but i am not really sure if HE knows how you feel about him. maybe his lil confused. or maybe he really likes you but also likes you as a friend and don't know how to handle it.
and you shouldn't be the one always making plans. give him a sign that you want to hang out. and make him say "well you want to go to the movies" or somthing in that line. the reason is that when you guys DO go out... well you'll be the only who makes the plans
best thing to sit and talk to him. but dont go out saying " OH I LIKE YOU" or somthing ... just talk. make him say he likes you....
2007-10-14 19:00:00 · answer #7 · answered by nierro1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try making the first move, if he doesn't initiate the date you shouldn't expect him to initiate the first move. next time you hang out just make sure its just you two and have fun with him.
2007-10-14 18:58:53 · answer #8 · answered by ssssss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for one time, don't ask him out. let him be the one that gets worried into thinking that you are losing touch with him. talk to him, text him. BUT DONT ASK HIM OUT TO A DATE OR A DRINK> sure he's going to be dissapointed when he thinks ur about to ask him to lunch, but you dont'. but he needs to leearrn the hard way that you aren't always the starter.
so just be normal with him. but dont ask him out. if he asks you out. then chnces are tht he will do it again without having u do it. but if he doesnt ask you out. then confront him about it and see what he says.
after all. you do want to be with him..........
2007-10-14 18:51:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not initiating anything for a while, and see what he does!
2007-10-14 18:48:34 · answer #10 · answered by dianah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋