2007-10-14 11:18:52 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
We had the same problem during the threes and early fours. We started giving him "time out" in the corner. We chose a corner because no matter where we went, there was always a corner. A store, a restaurant, grandma's house, etc. You can always find a corner. You just need to stay consistent though. If you are in a restaurant, and the child acts up, you need to take him to the corner - despite the stares from others or the tantrum your child is throwing. We typically made our child recite something while in the corner - such as count to ten or his abc's (age appropriate of course). This did two things...1) redirected his thoughts so he wasn't screaming while in the corner or trying to get out, and 2) reinforced something educational. When he was finished, we would get down to his eye level, and explain why we were not happy with his behavior and make him apologize to whomever he had misbehaved to. It worked for us. All kids are different, but it worked for us.
Trust me though, be prepared for the stares and comments from others. I just ignored those people. My theory was that if I allowed my child to misbehave because I was afraid others would say something, then I was teaching him that it was okay to act up which would only make things worse both at home and in public.
Good luck to you.
2007-10-14 17:06:42 · answer #1 · answered by BPD Wife 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-09 05:42:58 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to have the same problem with my son, he would never listen and did whatever he wanted to the point where he told me what to do.
I asked the daycare what they did because they would always tell me how perfect he was there. They told me slowly counting to 3 and if there still not listening to put them in a time out for the number of minutes of there age. eg 2 years =2 mins.
I havent had a problem since.
While your counting to 3 it gives them a couple seconds to think about what there doing and change their behavior, and if they dont a time out in a chair makes them realize the probably should have listened when you counted.
I dont believe in spanking because I was spanked as a kid and it got to a point where I would laugh when I got spanked because it didnt teach me anything.
2007-10-15 05:04:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have learned that counting to 3 works. and if I get to 3 my son gets a time out away from everyone else, and theTV. He is not able to see anyone. Just put you foot down and let him/her know that you are serious. If you dont start now your child will walk all over you and everyone else. Good Luck
2007-10-14 12:58:52 · answer #4 · answered by realights 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take him to grandmas for the weekend to get a break....that's what I did!!..Honestly, just be firm, get on his/her level to explain what's expected (sometimes they don't understand our language) give them a few things to have a say in (offering two good choices with food, clothing, lets them feel they have some control over something)....Hope that helps! Good luck :)
2007-10-14 12:57:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get down to their level and look them straight in the eyes and tell them what you want them to do and do not let in until they finish what was asked of them.
2007-10-18 09:39:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be firm with him do not let the child be boss igore any tantrums and do not give in to bad behaivor talk to him as much as you can give encuragment and alot of patience and love
2007-10-14 11:25:55 · answer #7 · answered by pearl_hoff 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Put your foot down and don't forget you are the parent and they are the child.
It doesn't hurt to give them a little "love tap" every now and then.
2007-10-14 11:24:43 · answer #8 · answered by Banana Pancakes 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋