Ex keeps on calling me.?

Question

He broke up with me. He moved 12 hours away and tells me about the women he is dating when he calls - tells me more then I want to know. So I stopped returning his calls because I really don't want to hear anymore and I think he just wants to see if I have moved on and hurt me with his stories. When he calls he does not leave a message. I have thought about blocking his calls because I want to forget him and move on. But just when I start to feel good he will call. Luckily, I have not been home to get the calls. I am under no delusion the man is selfish and does not care for me. So I don't think he is calling because he has had a revelation of love for me. What would you do? Just block his call? I'm not sure confronting him would be a good idea. I am posting in this forum since this is where I usually post.

He does ask if I am seeing anyone. It's really hard for me to lie. So I wind up telling the truth (no). This is part of the reason I am avoiding calling him. I am very naive when it comes to "players." so I didn't recognize that he was one - all my friends did though.

gangyeag at first I did let him know he was hurting me. He knew his moving away was painful for me too. His response was "Oh yea? Okay now." He sounded very happy to hear it. He knows I'm honest and will tell him what he asks. Part of the reason I avoid him is because of my honesty.

Um, this man is 40. Ladies, do you see the type of men that are out there? Or let me rephrase that because I don't want to offend some of the decent men - He's an example of some of the men that are out there. Thanks for all your input. I am being strong and not returning his calls. I think I am doing what is best but I guess I needed to hear it from others besides my family and friends who didn't like him to begin with.

Answer 1

If you are able to block his number, I would do this. I dealt with this problem in a relationship in the past, before I got married.

He is calling because he wants to gloat about his new relationships and he wants to ensure that he remains the primary thought in your mind. Even though he doesn't want you, he doesn't want to see you happy or with anyone else either.

People like that enjoy being in control. He would love to believe that he could control your life from 12 hours away and keep you pining over him. Block him and move on. You will be much happier for doing it!

Answer 2

Ugh! Well, I would say block his calls, but like someone else posted..he will just call you from another phone. I think I would answer one time..tell him you don't care to hear about his new girlfriend and that you really do not want him calling you anymore. If he doesn't take that good hint, then you should get a new number and have it unlisted. If you keep on ignoring him..he will keep calling. Sometimes they never seem to give up..even when they have "moved on". Some people just thrive off drama so I would just nip it in the bud and tell him what you want. I wouldn't put myself through the stupid conversations anymore after that though. I don't understand why some people act this way. It really makes no sense!

Answer 3

I'm so sorry, that can be a very confusing situation. But, as you quoted " tells me more then I want to know. So I stopped returning his calls because I really don't want to hear anymore and I think he just wants to see if I have moved on and hurt me with his stories. When he calls he does not leave a message." He has no business calling you anylonger, I would totally ignore the calls, but I believe that I'd tell him you have moved on with your life first and you no longer will be accepting his calls. Don't do yourself the dis-service of responding to him after than. You may need to get a parent or other authorities involved if your game plan doesn't work. However, I can GUARANTEE you nothing will work until you make a plan of action and act on it.

Answer 4

I have the same problem with my ex-husband. He moved about 4 hours away from me and we share a child. He calls me to tell me about all the new girls he's been with and talk about relationship problems knowing that we have a past and I really don't want to hear his problems. It makes it difficult to move on when you have someone constantly rubbing things like that in your face! I stopped answering his calls or when he starts to bring up the subject of other women, I change the subject to something to do with my daughter that he might be interested in knowing. I would try changing the subject or if you don't want to talk to him at all, just change your number and cut off contact or if you have caller ID, just don't answer his calls or any calls from unfamiliar numbers because if he senses you are purposely not picking up, he might try that angle. Good luck and I hope things get better for you!

Answer 5

the best thing to do is not to answer his calls or call him back. he could be lying just to see if you moved on, but that is still a sick "channel checking". if you don't think you are strong enough to not answer then i would block his calls. he should not break up with you then try to keep you hanging on by calling you all the time. that's not fair nor is it right! you do what ever you need to do to cut him off so that you can move on with your life without hurting, or thinking there may be a chance of you two reconciling.

Answer 6

Luci, I think you hit it on the head. He's indulging his own twisted thinking by continuing to call you. It's wonderful that with modern technology, you can block callers.

What happens? Does he get a message that the line is disconnected, or a busy signal, or just continual ringing. Or does it let him leave the message and then delete it? Whatever it is, it's time to do it now.

Good luck!

Answer 7

It is male psche to not to get convinced that he has been dumped. It is only satisfied when he dumps. So you have two options left. Either dont give him this feeling that you are getting bothered by his call. In this situation, you will have to tolerate his calls for a little longer period but ultimately he would stop calling you. Second option is to let him know that you are still longing for him and that whenever he calls you you are hurt. Let him feel that he is ahead of you and let him enjoy this false sensation that he has dumped you. I assure you that no sooner he gets this feeling, he will stop bothering you.

Answer 8

Change your number. He chose this other woman...let him live the life he has chosen for himself & you move on & find some-one better...If he gets hold of your new number & then the calls start up again, as soon as you know its him on the other end just put the phone down...he only wants to talk about himself.

Move on..

Good luck

Answer 9

If you would like this to stop call 911.

But here's a trick:
Say "I don't need to hear about these girls! I allready have a new boyfriend!" If he asks what his name is say "I will not give you any information about him!" Or makeup a name.

Hope I get Best Anser!

It was a Pleasure to help!

Answer 10

If I was in your situation I would do exactly what you said-- block his calls and try to move on. He sounds pretty insensitive about your feelings if he calls and tells you about his new girlfriend. He's definitely not worth your time. My sister was in a similar situation and it took her nearly a year to finally move on because she kept talking to her ex boyfriend. Once she finally moved on she realized what a loser he was and couldn't believe it even took her that long.