i do have a problem with self harming?

Question

i cut my self at night time ,when i am doing it at night time its not sore i cant feel a thing ,i am just siting there thinking why is this not hurting me why cant i feel it , if you have had any experience in self harming get back to me

it is a real thing im asking on this in case there is someone who is self harms as well and how it feels,i have been to the docs and they where no help to me

when i cut my self its like i am steping out of my body i can see it happen but i cant stop my self doing it

i have cut words in my arms like die b,it,h die

Answer 1

Your probably cutting your self soo much its probably just numbing.......

I used to cut myself. Just superficial......I done it when I was depressed because it made me feel better. But i used to do it to the point I couldn't feel it.

I havent cut myself for almost a year (even a tattoo on the wrist I was cutting the most to cover the scars)


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I know how you feel, you just cannot stop yourself, Its addictive and makes any anger just go.
No one can help apart from youselve. When you feel the need to stop you will, like me, no one knew about my self harming

Answer 2

I dont understand why you cant feel a thing. I go through periods every now and again when i self harm and i used to use the blade of my scissors so it would hurt and scar more. Like lashing out at myself because i'm angry with myself like you would get into a fight. I enjoy the pain and the sight of my own blood. It's just the next few days when it's healing, tender and swollen i wish i hadn't done it in case someone notices me wince if they touch my arm or stomach and sometimes it reminds me of why I was upset at the time. Anyway, it's not a healthy way of dealing with stress and never solves the problem. When your stressed try things like a walk, excersize, talking to people, shopping, using a stress ball, writing it down or using a punchbag. You may go back to self harming a couple of times before a full recovery but you'll get there eventually. Good luck.

Answer 3

Hello,

Self-harming is a common, distressing and difficult problem. It may be associated with feelings of worthlessness, self-blame, or perhaps a feeling that what you are doing is half-way to suicide. Perhaps you are getting some temporary mental relief from damaging your body; perhaps you are blaming your body in some way for not being right.

It seems that whatever benefit you are getting, from cutting yourself, does not last? So you need to do it again and again. So it is not fundamentally solving whatever it is, that is troubling you.

I agree that talking to someone with a medical or counselling qualification, may be more immediately helpful than just discussing it with your friends. Such professionals do tend to be sympathetic and non-blaming.

From the technical point of view, there are some important tendons and nerves in your lower forearms, and besides the scarring to your skin, you probably don't want to end up with a non-functioning hand.

The experience you have of not feeling the pain, may indicate that you are over-breathing before you do the cutting.

Hope this helps. Belliger

Answer 4

You should talk to your Doctor and a therapist. Also there is some imformation on the mind website.

I have anxiety and depression and have been trying an alternative therapy called Emotional Freedom Technique and it has really worked for me and helped me a lot. Since using it I have been feeling a lot better. It's very good at getting rid of all kinds of negative emotions and dealing with all kinds of issues quickly. It does sound bizarre but does work. Might be something that can help you. If you type self harm in to the search engine of emofree.com you should find some articles about EFT helping people who self harm.

Answer 5

Hi,
Many people who self harm say that they can't feel it. I am not sure why though. It is because they trick themselves into thinking that .
I have self harmed.... and it is not cutting. I feel it, for sure, and it is and can be very addictive and over time become worse. I am telling you it can get worse from experience. It can also become like second nature... Something you can get so use to doing that it is not a big deal anymore.
It starts out as a way to cope , then it becomes an addiction, and it gets worse, and worse.
I hope you can get help. Therapy is a good thing. Support and understanding is what you need the most. However, it is ultimately going to be up to you to stop the behavior.

Answer 6

i used to self harm and i was always my weakest at night tI'me. im not quite sure what it was but there was something that happened which made me feel very vulnerable at night. i used to get so wrapped up in my own emotions i didn't really understand what i was doing until the morning when i could then appreciate the cuts on my arms.
one thing i found which helped me kick the horrible habit was to draw all over my arm with a red felt pen, this was satisfying as it was like fake blood and also i was drawing in an expressive way, kind of how you would cut..
i hope this helps.x

Answer 7

I understand where you are coming from, I too cut myself but not as much as I used to, and I too have carved words into my arms. I find these are the hardest scars to live with. If you are not getting help already please go see your GP and ask to be referred to your local mental health team. Make sure you keep talking to people, I read your other question and I also hear voices, telling me to harm myself. There is a way through this I promise as I have come through it myself, you just need to seek that extra help so you're not doing it alone. Email me if you need any further info, good luck x

Answer 8

I will give you the same advice I give all people that have a problem that is dangerous. Seek help from a professional. Talk to a therapist or a psychiatrist. The advice the others give about doing something else positive is good but, a therapist would get you on a treatment schedule and they would also be your support network. Good Luck

Answer 9

yes, i've suffered from self harming since i was about 13. i am now heading towards 30, and still struggle with my inner demons.

the best treatment u can get for this is Cognitive Therapy. u could try asking your doctor to refer u. not all doctors are able to refer u for cognitive therapy, but they should at least be able to refer u to a counsellor, which may help.

cognitive therapy involves teaching u methods on how to retrain your brain. self harming is classed as an OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder), and it's an extremely difficult problem to overcome as your brain has become used to u behaving in that way, and associates u cutting yourself with getting a hit of 'happy chemicals' (dopamine, serotonin, etc......) u need to learn techniques to literally re-program your brain so that u don't need to turn to self harm in order to deal with your feelings.

i wish u all the best. i know u must be going through a difficult time with it all. feel free to e-mail me if u want support / help / advice. x

Answer 10

yeh i know what you mean, i'm a self harmer and have been for bout 3 and a half years, and have recently started cutting words - i cut the word 'freak' into my leg and before on my stomach, coz i see myself as a freak. how long have you been cutting? please get help before you get addicted and covered in scars, as that is what will happen. i don't even cut deep and yet i have scars. especially if you can't feel it when you cut, as you have more chance of cutting deep, as you can't feel the pain and the feeling that it is deep. please get help asap, or at least try an alternative, such as squeezing ice cubes, drawing on yourself with red pen, or snapping an elastic band against your wrist (it really hurts but doesn't scar.) if you want more alternatives, email me. Also, when you cut, be careful to clean the cuts and treat them so that they don't become infected, and use scar treatments such as bio-oil afterwards to get rid of any scarring.

also feel free to email me if you wanna talk to a fellow self harmer. :) always remember, you are not alone, there are many people who do this.
(((HUGS))) to all self harmers.
Stay strong, stay safe.