trying to become a better muslim HELP!?

Question

SALAM all well i know i ask this q. already but i still have more Q.
i really want to become a better muslim i get alot of advice but it still won't help i watch viedo and lecture of how to became a better muslim and read article on and on! i read the quran and sometime read the meaning of it i say BISMALLAHI RAHMANI RAHIM when i fell mad but i just can't help it that i get angry very easily like last night my mom said " do u know what fatima u are a very good person but the only thing that is worng with u is u get angry very easily!" i didn't say anything because tears were coming in my eyes and trying ppl not to see it everyone was quiet but i pray and pray ask 4 forgivness and help my mom but im still not a good person i know what my intension is and it has always been to become a better muslim a better person but latley it seemed that it was never going to happen so plz any advice. plz help me! and if u can make dua for me inshallah wasalam and EID MUBARAK!!!!

Answer 1

It's enough to see how hard you're trying.
But, it seems to me that you're trying more than you should to not be mad. It's taking all your peace of mind that it's not letting you calm down.
Keep trying but don't stress yourself out. Anger doesn't leave in a week or even a month. You need constant and continuos effort.
Read Qur'an and lsiten to Qur'an more often.
May Allah help you and be with you. Take care sister and be well. A'salamu alaykom wa rahmatu'llah...

Answer 2

Sweet Sister!

Being angry doesn't make you a bad person or a believer! What is that within you that is making you angry? Why are you frustrated and impatient? Ask yourself this. Sister do love your Lord, no seriously? If yes then you love his creation, its that simple. There is nothing wrong with getting angry its in our nature, but you have to have a reason and please don't bring anyone physical and/or emotional harm, even yourself then you are okay. You may be distracted, I don't know I'm going to help you focus:
You are here for only this: To thank and praise the Lord of the worlds, share your sustenance (rizk(anything that sustains)) with those that don't have as much as you and don't judge, you don't have the authority. Love EVERYONE. And always read the Quran in the language that you understand unless you are praying then only Arabic. And sincerely ask The Lord for guidance you WILL get it, its a promise. Its going to be okay, I will pray for you right now..

Love,

Your Brother

Answer 3

Muslimgi, Assa\lamu Alaikum
&
Eid Mubarak
Getting angry easily lives with person for a long time. May be you will try control after some years. It is not your fault. So don't feel bad about it. It is how some personalities are mad by Allah or may be it is genetics. You got it from some one amongst your elders. My father was like that, I get angry quickly and my one son is worst but rest of three are normal.
Now at age 64 I have learnt to control and don't made as easily as I did when I was young. It comes down by age.

When you get right away take deep breath and say
"LA HAUL WA LA QUUATA ILLA BILLA HIL ALIUL AZEEM" FEW TIMES UNTIL ANGER SUBSIDES.
then say ASTAGFIRULLAH MIN KULLE ZAMBE WA
ATUBO ELEH few times and your anger will subside completely. Leave the place or sit down when you are angry and say these phrases. Insha Allah it will help you.

Answer 4

You sound quite young. I am sure that you are a very good person. You only need to worry about being just that, in my opinion, being simply a good person is fine. You dont have to be a good, or better, muslim,jew,christian or whatever. If you do the right thing, dont do crime, respect your parents and elders and do something for other people then you are the best you can be at this stage. We all have bad days and do things we regret later but if, basically, you do not do bad things to those around you then you are a good person. Dont worry, be happy.

Answer 5

Are you angry because someone told you something that you know is true? If so, it sounds like you are taking their comments as a criticism.

Instead of getting angry, use the emotion to try to change that about you. Tell yourself, "It does not have to be this way. I can remain calm, and I will make myself a better person". If you repeat it enough, you will believe it, and act on it.

This is called a self-fulfilling prophesy, and it can be used both to help you or harm you. If you tell yourself, "I'm stupid, I don't deserve good things" often enough, you'll come to believe it. If you tell yourself positive things often enough, you can come to believe that also. Which path you choose is up to you. Good luck!

Answer 6

i detect it tricky to desire 5 cases an afternoon and that i can under no circumstances shop my anger yet I under no circumstances swear. you may examine -auzoo billah hee mina sataan nirajeem so sataan would not get you indignant. additionally pray 5 cases an afternoon by using no longer spectacular around with friends particularly of praying or enjoying video games.... i do no longer swear yet I nonetheless do no longer examine namaaz or admire my mothers and fathers because of the fact of anger. Anger would reason plenty hardship for you and anybody.stick to this suggestion and the others suggestion so which you would be a greater effective muslim inshallah azawajal. desire you become a greater effective muslim and pray to allah azawajal that may assist you sidestep sataan and be a muslim following the appropriate paths of islam . Inshallah

Answer 7

God is Holy and Just, and He is also Kind at the same time.
You say that you're not a good person, and that recognition is good. Our hearts are deceptively wicked, and there is none that is good among us. If we were to see all that you have secretly done for all to see, then you'll probably run away from us out of shame, and yet God has seen all.
How can a person stand before a Holy God and be justified and be right with Him, knowing that He is not worthy? How can someone clear the crimes against His laws from His record? Consider the following.

If a criminal shows up to court and is charged with three heinous crimes. Tons of irrefutable evidences are present, and the criminal says, "Judge, I know I've broken those laws, but I'm a good person, and I know you're a good judge. I've done much community service and even washed your car before coming here. Because I've done so much good things, grant me grace." If the judge is good, he'll say, "You're right in saying I am good. Because I'm a good judge, I must punish the lawbreakers according to the law, and all that good stuff you've done has nothing to do with the case. In fact, I'm angry for you've tried to bribe your way out of justice with your good works."
Now, if a man says, "I'm guilty judge. I have no excuse," and just then, someone you don't even know comes into the court and says, "Judge, I love this man. I sold everything I have and I'm willing to pay the full fine." The judge can accept the payment and let that man go.
Jesus Christ is that lamb that God has provided to take the punishment for your crimes against God. When God stopped Abraham's hand from sacrificing Abraham's son, God took that weapon and crushed His own son on the cross when Jesus took on all the sins upon himself. So Jesus crys out "My God, My God why have you forsaken me!" Then when the payment was paid in full, he looks at his people and says, "It is finished."
If you repent (turning away from sin) and trust in Jesus's salvation from God's wrath, then God will impute Jesus's righteousness into your account and you'll have eternal life to go into Heaven, not on your merit or works, but upon the merit of Jesus Christ paying for your crimes against God.
So have you ever lied? Have you stolen? Have you lusted? Have you always put God first in your life? Have you always been a good child? If you have sinned just 3 times a day, that's over 40,000 crimes by the time you're fourty. How can you balance it with your good deed? How can you erase your already bad record? Repent and trust in Jesus to wipe your slate clean and give you a clean heart and salvation.
In Love, and in Christ,
Sam

Answer 8

Try to became a better person first. Read some books, ask yourself some deep questions about the meaning of life, try to think outside the box for a change.

Answer 9

salaam sis! eid mubarak!

personally i would say just read the Quran when you get time,read bismillah before you do stuff!

it always helps!

inshallah you will feel better!

the main thing is ready namaz 5 times a day!

allah hafiz

Answer 10

Bless your heart my dear. We all strive to be a better person every day...don't worry, God understands.
And yes, I do get mad when foolish individuals here discuss like babies; forgive me.